This topic has prob been asked a multitude of times, but i need a definative answer....... Why do peeps advertise on Photo adds etc and Gallery and not have the decency to reply my only thought is 1..... They just like having there photos looked at ..2 theyre perverse and just like getting the porn replies(male mainly) or they just like to wind people up, excuse me if i seem naive, but would appreciate some feed back by normal swingers...Ta.....GW
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This topic has prob been asked a multitude of times, but i need a definative answer....... Why do peeps advertise on Photo adds etc and Gallery and not have the decency to reply my only thought is 1..... They just like having there photos looked at ..2 theyre perverse and just like getting the porn replies(male mainly) or they just like to wind people up, excuse me if i seem naive, but would appreciate some feed back by normal swingers...Ta.....GW
Define normal swinger?
Like you said, the question's been asked a multitude of times - there IS no definitive answer. Get over it and move on.
Sex God
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OK Ta for that but met some brill people on here and most are polite costs nothing to reply, im moving on.........GW
Sex God
Quote by waynesworld
OK Ta for that but met some brill people on here and most are polite costs nothing to reply, im moving on.........GW
There you go, MOST are polite. Easy to ignore the others
Sex God
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OK Ta for that but met some brill people on here and most are polite costs nothing to reply, im moving on.........GW
There you go, MOST are polite. Easy to ignore the others
Bloody hell FB, that so has to be a record
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Sex God
why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out. even if they log in every day to check their mails, to answer them all would take forever. if they only log in rarely, well can you imagine trawling through page after page in your inbox? probably they did once answer out of politeness to begin with, but i'm quite sure it starts to wear a bit thin after a while . . . . so . . . . they reply to the ones that take their fancy, and put their effort into those replies! no reply tends to be a strong hint that your mail didn't warrant that effort on their part, as they see it?
harsh maybe from where you're standing when you don't even get a one line "No thanks" back, but perfectly understandable.
also . . .
i'm not entirely sure if this still holds true, given the changes to the ads section, but it used to be that users could opt to hide their emails, so replies to ads sent through the site kept them anonymous. as soon as they reply though, their email is suddenly available to the sender, and it only takes one or two TTT&T's getting stroppy about a knock back or going all stalkerish to make those users a bit cautious about who they make their email address available to.
basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out. even if they log in every day to check their mails, to answer them all would take forever. if they only log in rarely, well can you imagine trawling through page after page in your inbox? probably they did once answer out of politeness to begin with, but i'm quite sure it starts to wear a bit thin after a while . . . . so . . . . they reply to the ones that take their fancy, and put their effort into those replies! no reply tends to be a strong hint that your mail didn't warrant that effort on their part, as they see it?
harsh maybe from where you're standing when you don't even get a one line "No thanks" back, but perfectly understandable.
also . . .
i'm not entirely sure if this still holds true, given the changes to the ads section, but it used to be that users could opt to hide their emails, so replies to ads sent through the site kept them anonymous. as soon as they reply though, their email is suddenly available to the sender, and it only takes one or two TTT&T's getting stroppy about a knock back or going all stalkerish to make those users a bit cautious about who they make their email address available to.
basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
Casanova
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why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out. even if they log in every day to check their mails, to answer them all would take forever. if they only log in rarely, well can you imagine trawling through page after page in your inbox? probably they did once answer out of politeness to begin with, but i'm quite sure it starts to wear a bit thin after a while . . . . so . . . . they reply to the ones that take their fancy, and put their effort into those replies! no reply tends to be a strong hint that your mail didn't warrant that effort on their part, as they see it?
harsh maybe from where you're standing when you don't even get a one line "No thanks" back, but perfectly understandable.
also . . .
i'm not entirely sure if this still holds true, given the changes to the ads section, but it used to be that users could opt to hide their emails, so replies to ads sent through the site kept them anonymous. as soon as they reply though, their email is suddenly available to the sender, and it only takes one or two TTT&T's getting stroppy about a knock back or going all stalkerish to make those users a bit cautious about who they make their email address available to.
basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
I'm with Neil on this one!
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why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out. even if they log in every day to check their mails, to answer them all would take forever. if they only log in rarely, well can you imagine trawling through page after page in your inbox? probably they did once answer out of politeness to begin with, but i'm quite sure it starts to wear a bit thin after a while . . . . so . . . . they reply to the ones that take their fancy, and put their effort into those replies! no reply tends to be a strong hint that your mail didn't warrant that effort on their part, as they see it?
harsh maybe from where you're standing when you don't even get a one line "No thanks" back, but perfectly understandable.
also . . .
i'm not entirely sure if this still holds true, given the changes to the ads section, but it used to be that users could opt to hide their emails, so replies to ads sent through the site kept them anonymous. as soon as they reply though, their email is suddenly available to the sender, and it only takes one or two TTT&T's getting stroppy about a knock back or going all stalkerish to make those users a bit cautious about who they make their email address available to.
basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
Neil.............. brill response...........are you sure you have never been a single fem ? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
what you said!..........we get alot of mail....which ,because we personally type every reply (cant stand cut and pastes) it would take us forever to reply to everyone...........some in our opinion dont deserve a response, if we get the feeling that the reply to our advert is is a cut and paste then why should we sit and lose 5 -10 mins of our life repling to people who obviously cant be bothered to begin with! other replies that fall in this catagory are the ones that havent read our advert....and you can always tell em........thats why we purposely wrote an essay in our advert, if someone likes our pics and cant be bothered to read, they ussually send a one liner to us "fancy meeting up some time ?".and they`ve ussually got no pics at all or arnt what were looking for in the first place, it`s not lazyess or rudness as this post implies......it`s just managment of our time, we work exactly the same way when were in chat ....because we go on cam ....we get the usuall .."get ya tits out". or "are you two gonna fuck". we just ignore em....but if someone comes in our room and says hello, we`l chat...........and thats anyone...........
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why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out. even if they log in every day to check their mails, to answer them all would take forever. if they only log in rarely, well can you imagine trawling through page after page in your inbox? probably they did once answer out of politeness to begin with, but i'm quite sure it starts to wear a bit thin after a while . . . . so . . . . they reply to the ones that take their fancy, and put their effort into those replies! no reply tends to be a strong hint that your mail didn't warrant that effort on their part, as they see it?
harsh maybe from where you're standing when you don't even get a one line "No thanks" back, but perfectly understandable.
also . . .
i'm not entirely sure if this still holds true, given the changes to the ads section, but it used to be that users could opt to hide their emails, so replies to ads sent through the site kept them anonymous. as soon as they reply though, their email is suddenly available to the sender, and it only takes one or two TTT&T's getting stroppy about a knock back or going all stalkerish to make those users a bit cautious about who they make their email address available to.
basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
it's not uncommon for single fems and couples to receive 100+ emails week in, week out.
neil x x x ;)
I hear ya.
I answer all messages, even if to say a polite no thanks to the single men who obviously didn't read my ad at all
I've only once deleted a message without replying and that was because it was so full of crap, the bleep machine would have burnt out ! How on earth this guy thought he was going to turn me on with THAT kind of talk is beyond comprehension 
I would just say read the ads carefully, be polite but informative and patient !
Hope you find what you're looking for
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OK Ta for that but met some brill people on here and most are polite costs nothing to reply, im moving on.........GW
Hey!! Its been ages since we had a really good flounce.....
.... and still is!
It wasnt a flounce, he was responding to one of the earlier posts which said move on and forget it
Sex God
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Neil.............. brill response...........are you sure you have never been a single fem ? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have piccie to prove it sam! ;) :rascal:He's seen my inbox and the kind of things I trawl through and reply to. I was replying to one with a polite "thanks for the PM, but no thankyou" when he told me he didn't know why I wasted my time on one line tossers like that...
My reply... you never know, they might buck their ideas up and be really nice people under the one liner, just not really knowing the protocol or how to communicate well through writing.
I was told I am too nice and deserve to wade through the mail I get!
I was also told I was doing them a dis-service by replying without telling them where they are going wrong, cos if my hope was; they were really nice people under the one line "I love fat birds, will you suck my cock?" then they needed direction and guidence.My reply.... I thought you told me not to waste my time on replying??? :dunno:
Gem. x
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Quote by little gem
Neil.............. brill response...........are you sure you have never been a single fem ? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have piccie to prove it sam! ;) :rascal:He's seen my inbox and the kind of things I trawl through and reply to. I was replying to one with a polite "thanks for the PM, but no thankyou" when he told me he didn't know why I wasted my time on one line tossers like that...
My reply... you never know, they might buck their ideas up and be really nice people under the one liner, just not really knowing the protocol or how to communicate well through writing.
I was told I am too nice and deserve to wade through the mail I get!
I was also told I was doing them a dis-service by replying without telling them where they are going wrong, cos if my hope was; they were really nice people under the one line "I love fat birds, will you suck my cock?" then they needed direction and guidence.My reply.... I thought you told me not to waste my time on replying??? :dunno:
Gem. x
there's 169 words in your post Gem, thats 169 words missing from your essay and 169 words wasted that could go towards you getting jiggy sooner. so what are you doing here????
Sexlightened
We tend not to reply to the one or two liners from single blokes, we have specifically stated in our ads that we don't want to meet single blokes, and our profile says we're looking for couples. What quimninja said is about right.....
Mr and Mrs H xxx
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...... the ones that havent read our advert....and you can always tell em........thats why we purposely wrote an essay in our advert, if someone likes our pics and cant be bothered to read, they ussually send a one liner to us "fancy meeting up some time ?".and they`ve ussually got no pics at all or arnt what were looking for in the first place.......
Mr and Mrs H xxx
just a thought , perhaps its because you have no pics so peeps dont know if they would like to meet you , you have no ads to say what you are looking for , you say perhaps peeps just like thier pics looked at , well how many ads have you answered with no pics bet its the ones with pics first
its only a thought
its only a thought
Not getting replies or even getting my mails read has irritated me too. I honestly never thought of people getting so many, it must be good to be popular
I suppose because I don't send very many, and hopefully give some consideration to what I write, and who to, it bothers me when people don't reply.
I suppose because I don't send very many, and hopefully give some consideration to what I write, and who to, it bothers me when people don't reply.
Quote by Sassy-Seren:fuckinghell: rpm hastily rewrites his perv laden filth to Sassy Stalker :giggle:
...How on earth this guy thought he was going to turn me on with THAT kind of talk is beyond comprehension...
:shock: She called me a Stalker!... her Stalker?:P She loves me :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
Sex God
Quote by blonde
why don't they answer their mails? easy . . . .
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basically, it's tough. better to put your energies into those who do reply and stop worrying about those that don't. missed out on nothing.
neil x x x ;)
Neil.............. brill response...........
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Nah! That was was a cut and paste from the Library years!! :giggle:
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This topic has prob been asked a multitude of times, but i need a definative answer.......
There isn't one!
There are however a multitude of reasons.
Quote by waynesworld
Why do peeps advertise on Photo adds etc and Gallery and not have the decency to reply...
That is a huge assumption to use the word 'decency'.
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...my only thought is 1..... They just like having there photos looked at ..2 theyre perverse and just like getting the porn replies(male mainly) or they just like to wind people up, excuse me if i seem naive, ...
Yes you do
Quote by waynesworld
...but would appreciate some feed back by normal swingers...Ta.....GW
There is no such thing as a 'normal' swinger
However, to enlighten you a little.....
I put up an ad - within the first hour I was getting 3-4 PM's per minute - this does slow down and after a week or two it gets to a more steady 5-10 per day (mid-week and peaking again at the weekends). But by this time I have a back-log of several hundred PM's to read and answer.
Starting out with every intention of at least sending a 'no thanks' to people if I am not interested, I then start coming across the PM's where some dick-head has read a full ad (that gives a reasonable idea of what I am looking for) and says...
I know I am too far away but....
I know you don't meet in the day but...
I know I am too short but....
Overlooking the FACT that they chose to send me a PM and ignore what my ad actually said - I still try to send them a 'no thanks' though I do wonder why I should?
Then there are the utter dick-heads who read an ad (an ad where I take the time to explain what I am looking for in a bit more than one line) and they take all of 4.3 seconds to bother to compose...
luv 2 fuck u - get back 2 me.
my email is in the heading. lets meet. x
call me 077 **** **** your hot.
Mind you, i tend to find these PM's after reading a number of cut 'n' paste jobs, where the lazy fecker can't even be arsed to change a few lines. So on the face of it ... it is a well written reply. That is until you come across....
... your wife looks really hot in the photos...
....you seem like just the couple I am waiting to meet....
... i would be happy to meet you and your hubby for a drink first....
Not forgetting whilst you are reading all of the above - more PM's are coming in. Included in those are the people you do like the sound of and are trying to converse with... some friendly ones from friends saying hi.... some from people you have already met... and so on.
Eventually there will be some days when you have time to go through some PM's and you start off with the best intentions and end up thinking "why the fuck should I bother - they have put sweet FA effort in sending this?".
But still I like to try - even with a huge back-log of PM's. The problem is you can then lose track of who you have replied to or not.
And more PM's come in - once or twice you get a reply back from a "no thanks" most are polite, but the odd one says something along the lines of...
Don't wish me good luck - you will need it if you are that fussy!
What is wrong with my cock are you a lez?
I bet you're a man you fucking perv!
And you begin to wonder again if it would just be easier to delete their first PM.
But still more PM's arrive and you just run out of time that day. The only thing that keeps you going and from not deleting your ad all together is the fucking amazing people you do meet.
I hope this helps in your quest for 'the' answer. :roll:
Sex God
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Demonstrates the issue perfectly and how genuine people do behave.
I know the lady'll give a slap fer saying so - but I don't care!
Demonstrates the issue perfectly and how genuine people do behave.
I know the lady'll give a slap fer saying so - but I don't care!
I can't ad much that not already been said however I have seen a single females in box first hand and it ain't pretty :shock: :shock:
Even with no ad or an ad thats been up for a while there is a constant stream of Pm's at a rate of 3 or 4 an hour mainly all one liners and from unsuitable matches trying their luck.
With a newly posted ad the situation gets worse with PM's coming in on a per second basis :shock:
So it's a case of she really hasn't got the time to respond to all, However some genuinely arn't worth a response.
Even with no ad or an ad thats been up for a while there is a constant stream of Pm's at a rate of 3 or 4 an hour mainly all one liners and from unsuitable matches trying their luck.
With a newly posted ad the situation gets worse with PM's coming in on a per second basis :shock:
So it's a case of she really hasn't got the time to respond to all, However some genuinely arn't worth a response.
Sex God
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I have seen a single females in box first hand and it ain't pretty :shock: :shock:
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You been changing your sex again Sheddy,
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:smackbottom: :smackbottom: