Indeed.
I’ve been thinking about why I joined this group, this forum and what I expected from it.
Of course the quick and most obvious answer is that we’re here to meet someone to have sex with. That is putting bluntly. But I’ve considered my reasons and I’m not so sure that this is the only motive.
Ultimately yes, I am as hot blooded as the next man, but there is a lot more going on with my decision or better my willingness to post here.
In my case I don’t actually think that the act in itself is the be all and end all of my decision to “swing†(or at least attempt to).
I am a single guy, and without sounding conceited, have never had many problems finding girlfriends, like I suspect most of the other guys on here; I have been in relationships long and short. I have had great sex and not so good sex. I am not in a relationship at present and neither am I looking. It’s not a place I want to be right now. Even if (again, apologies for sounding conceited) I would have opportunities to see someone and with it the intimate side of a relationship. I could decide, of course if the opportunities are still there (never take anything for granted) to begin another relationship.
And of course, if I was that way inclined or had the means I could pay for sexual favours. I think what I’m trying to get at here is that I’m not sexually “frustratedâ€.
I’m ok with not having sex for now, either as part of a couple or by any other means, this forum included.
What I’m after here I guess is the adventure, but not just my adventure, It thrills me that another person would want to explore that same adventure and be open to it’s possibilities and so it’s a self-propagating turn-on. The mystery that “something†might happen, or it might not!. It’s not the act of shagging someone in itself, although I’m not saying that’s not fun too, but the built up and the hope and sometimes (more oft than not ) the let –down. It’s that energy and situation that appeals to me. Wishing to find like-minded people that get a buzz from the (positive) tension that this creates. Hoping to meet new and interesting people. And by interesting, I don’t mean extremely beautiful, super intelligent, ultra-witty etcc…just the fact that some of you are here makes you interesting. And of course we are all interesting and beautiful in our own special way.
I’ve posted on the forum, and answered ads. So far I have not had success in responses.
But it’s early days. And how would it be if every ad or every post would find a response. The situation would become routine and the spark and adventure might eventually fade. Of course I’m disappointed I haven’t had responses, but that’s the nature of the game here. I new to this so have very little to go on, or experience in the matter. But so far it’s been fun, and I’m getting to know some of you in some ways, even by just reading your posts, and it looks alright in here. I think I’ll stay a while
Ciao for now
V.
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. But so far it’s been fun, and I’m getting to know some of you in some ways, even by just reading your posts, and it looks alright in here. I think I’ll stay a while
Ciao for now
V.
Your getting to no me :shock: :therethere: :P
there must be some thing about you that i like...........because i don't normally read long posts. :shock: ............ so :welcome: to the mad house
Master of Sex
Hi veneziano, great post, also saw your thread on lmu "can i cook for you".
To achieve ultimate popularity and go down in swinging heaven legend, you ought to offer to do the catering for a munch.
To achieve ultimate popularity and go down in swinging heaven legend, you ought to offer to do the catering for a munch.
Steph..no not those symbols, not the emoticons..the ones below that..the ones that look like childrens drawings of symbols and numbers..I've seen a lot of them around the posts on the forum..
what arcane message do they deliver...can a newbie be let into it's mysteries..?
baci e abbracci..
V
what arcane message do they deliver...can a newbie be let into it's mysteries..?
baci e abbracci..
V
Quote by Veneziano
Steph..no not those symbols, not the emoticons..the ones below that..the ones that look like childrens drawings of symbols and numbers..I've seen a lot of them around the posts on the forum..
what arcane message do they deliver...can a newbie be let into it's mysteries..?
baci e abbracci..
V
Oh, "give hugs to...", I think there's a link under the childish numbers that allows you to get your own, and explains things... lemme go look for it... brb.
*edit* here ya go... *edit*
Quote by Veneziano
Hi Debs
Steph, I've put my name down for a couple of munches ..mini munches..
Hope I get invited. I'd be nervous but be great to meet you.
Ciao
V
ooo you will be nervours meeting steph .............. she eats men alive............ i just eat them when i have killed them off :P
Quote by Sexysteph
Ahhhhh you mean the hugs counters
Can't remember who started us all off on them - again just a bit of fun. Anyone can get one they are from an external site. I'll try and find the link for you if you want one to put in your sig.
Beat ya to it!
Quote by Vix
Oh, "give hugs to...", I think there's a link under the childish numbers that allows you to get your own, and explains things... lemme go look for it... brb.
*edit* here ya go... CLICK HERE *edit*
Where'd he go? Goddamnit (Janet), bloody scared him off.
*grumble, mumble, gripe, grumble*
Might as well go to w*rk, tomorrow, if this is gonna be how it is. You find someone with a marvellous grasp of the English language (as well as Italian, no doubt) and they vanish.
Gonna go to the garden and eat worms, now.
*grumble, mumble, gripe, grumble*
Might as well go to w*rk, tomorrow, if this is gonna be how it is. You find someone with a marvellous grasp of the English language (as well as Italian, no doubt) and they vanish.
Gonna go to the garden and eat worms, now.
Master of Sex
Quote by Veneziano
Whooaaaa Bazzza..
steady on mate...
..but ehi....not a bad idea,,,, ..could take it up professionaly..
The Official UK Munch Cook.
I may get spotted by Televison ..write a top selling cook book.//
I could be the next Naked Chef..(groan!!)
V
Fame could be yours dude, give you the opportunity to show off your cannelloni
Sex God
Flippin' 'eck - one guy who lets slip he might not be looking fer sex and look at it - talk about bees around a honeypot!! 
I'm not jealous at all.
I guess this might be the ultimate in reverse psychology - chuck one or two of the right ingredients - italian name, modest admissions about how easy it all is add the spice of adventure - then say that you would but you're only mildly interested and Bob's yer uncle. Good on ya mate - I admire your style.
This message is delivered to you without a hint of bitterness :lol:
Seriously though Veneziano, good post - I'm sure a lot of people would identify with that.
I'm not jealous at all.I guess this might be the ultimate in reverse psychology - chuck one or two of the right ingredients - italian name, modest admissions about how easy it all is add the spice of adventure - then say that you would but you're only mildly interested and Bob's yer uncle. Good on ya mate - I admire your style.
This message is delivered to you without a hint of bitterness
:lol: Seriously though Veneziano, good post - I'm sure a lot of people would identify with that.
Quote by Veneziano
Indeed.
I’ve been thinking about why I joined this group, this forum and what I expected from it.
Of course the quick and most obvious answer is that we’re here to meet someone to have sex with. That is putting bluntly. But I’ve considered my reasons and I’m not so sure that this is the only motive.
Ultimately yes, I am as hot blooded as the next man, but there is a lot more going on with my decision or better my willingness to post here.
In my case I don’t actually think that the act in itself is the be all and end all of my decision to “swing†(or at least attempt to).
I am a single guy, and without sounding conceited, have never had many problems finding girlfriends, like I suspect most of the other guys on here; I have been in relationships long and short. I have had great sex and not so good sex. I am not in a relationship at present and neither am I looking. It’s not a place I want to be right now. Even if (again, apologies for sounding conceited) I would have opportunities to see someone and with it the intimate side of a relationship. I could decide, of course if the opportunities are still there (never take anything for granted) to begin another relationship.
And of course, if I was that way inclined or had the means I could pay for sexual favours. I think what I’m trying to get at here is that I’m not sexually “frustratedâ€.
I’m ok with not having sex for now, either as part of a couple or by any other means, this forum included.
What I’m after here I guess is the adventure, but not just my adventure, It thrills me that another person would want to explore that same adventure and be open to it’s possibilities and so it’s a self-propagating turn-on. The mystery that “something†might happen, or it might not!. It’s not the act of shagging someone in itself, although I’m not saying that’s not fun too, but the built up and the hope and sometimes (more oft than not ) the let –down. It’s that energy and situation that appeals to me. Wishing to find like-minded people that get a buzz from the (positive) tension that this creates. Hoping to meet new and interesting people. And by interesting, I don’t mean extremely beautiful, super intelligent, ultra-witty etcc…just the fact that some of you are here makes you interesting. And of course we are all interesting and beautiful in our own special way.
I’ve posted on the forum, and answered ads. So far I have not had success in responses.
But it’s early days. And how would it be if every ad or every post would find a response. The situation would become routine and the spark and adventure might eventually fade. Of course I’m disappointed I haven’t had responses, but that’s the nature of the game here. I new to this so have very little to go on, or experience in the matter. But so far it’s been fun, and I’m getting to know some of you in some ways, even by just reading your posts, and it looks alright in here. I think I’ll stay a while
Ciao for now
V.
An interesting post....... glad you're enjoying your stay..........
equi-princess xxx
Quote by westerross
Flippin' 'eck - one guy who lets slip he might not be looking fer sex and look at it - talk about flies around a jampot!!
I guess this might be the ultimate in reverse psychology - chuck one or two of the right ingredients - italian name, modest admissions about how easy it all is add the spice of adventure - then say that you would but you're only mildly interested and Bob's yer uncle. Good on ya mate - I admire your style.
This message is delivered to you without a hint of bitterness
*lancy gets on the phone to depol........Guisepi will do from now on.
its a fair post as you mention tune, but it did sound like the intelligent/ italian why to complain about getting no action on here. (thats twice ive been cynical today)
seems to have done the trick tho....fair play to you fella.
quote="westerross"]This message is delivered to you without a hint of bitterness :lol:
Seriously though Veneziano, good post - I'm sure a lot of people would identify with that.
I must admit that my post has turned my fortunes on this site. I have received responses to it and some PM's. But it wasn't a construed or calculated post. I was just inspired to write what I felt and how I see myself as a participant to this site.
I appreciate your comments westerross (great name) and I'm pleased that you say that a lot of people identify with what I've said. There seems to be a lot of people who seem to think that they can join the fray and have offers of sex and meets all over the place, and I think those people will be disappointed that they'rer not getting what they want straight away. I guess, in essence (no pun intended tune ) You have to put the work into it and be patient is what part of my post was trying to say.
V
:lol: Seriously though Veneziano, good post - I'm sure a lot of people would identify with that.
I must admit that my post has turned my fortunes on this site. I have received responses to it and some PM's. But it wasn't a construed or calculated post. I was just inspired to write what I felt and how I see myself as a participant to this site.
I appreciate your comments westerross (great name) and I'm pleased that you say that a lot of people identify with what I've said. There seems to be a lot of people who seem to think that they can join the fray and have offers of sex and meets all over the place, and I think those people will be disappointed that they'rer not getting what they want straight away. I guess, in essence (no pun intended tune ) You have to put the work into it and be patient is what part of my post was trying to say.
V
Quote by Sexysteph
I see that there is a member enquiry about swinging abroad. Geneva.
Have any of you had any experience of swinging in another country.
I am in Italy at present and can't find much info on anything going on here, Although I'm sure it goes on.
V
Will pm you a link which might be of use hunni.
Steph
Many Thanks Steph,
I took a look, sadly not much going on in the area I'm staying in at the moment.
Ciao for now
V
