why are some munches exclusive

19 Nov 2004

just wondering why some people have munches that they deem exclusive, I thought a munch was supposed to be open to all interested in the scene, who respect behavioural codes etc, have pm'ed in interest to munches but have not been replied to. went to one saturday event but just a few of us but civilised. So time to be more welcoming to all

19 Nov 2004

Which Munch(es) are you referring to, Flavio?
Mal
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19 Nov 2004

the erotica one for a start

19 Nov 2004

As I understand it, if a gathering is advertised as an open Munch, then that's exactly what it should be. If it's invitation only, or restricted on whatever basis, that should be made absolutely clear from the outset.

19 Nov 2004

I've just read the thread regarding the Erotica munch and it does state that you have to PM Steve_D to be added to the list.... Did you PM Steve Flavio??
Shireen
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19 Nov 2004

the erotica was/ is not a munch from what i gather but a get together at a hotel, the limited numbers was due to room quantities, however i am blonde so ill stand and and await to be corrected, confused

xxfemxxxxxxxx

19 Nov 2004

Quote by fem_4_taboo
however i am blonde so ill stand and and await to be corrected,
xxfemxxxxxxxx

No, No, No,......... you have it all wrong.......... you lay across my knee to be corrected wink

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19 Nov 2004

I did pm and add to the thread never mind I suppose it is up to the individual

19 Nov 2004

Have you tried to get in touch with Steve_D perhaps you have just been missed off the list when the details were sent out?

19 Nov 2004

I've read through the thread, Flavio, and nowhere on there does it have any restrictions. I also saw you posted twice and you say on here you PM'd as requested. Munches are not exclusive, but are organised whereby someone who has just joined or hasn't posted much and therefore is unknown to everyone, is unlikely to get an invite, purely to prevent gawpers, press, etc attending and ruining the night. I am not saying for one minute you fall into any of those categories whatsoever, but you have generalised across 'most' munches, which frankly isn't true.
I think there isn't an issue regarding the way Munches are arranged, but in this case, you should take it up with SteveD and let him explain why you haven't heard. But probably better in PM's than open forum, eh?
Hope that helps
Mal
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20 Nov 2004

Flavio,
I am sorry that you were excluded. I am however a bit relieved since I thought it was just me that was being excluded!! I posted at least twice and pmed Steve D at least two times requesting an invitation. I also wrote requesting an explanation as to why I was excluded and still have received no answer.

20 Nov 2004

Looks like it's happened to quite a few of us. OK, I'll grant that when I posted and PM'd I did state that I wasn't certain if we would be able to make it to the munch... but would try.
Some kind of reply would have been appreciated, even if only "bugger off".
Thus, we have indeed made other plans.

20 Nov 2004

I think it is worth pointing out to people hoping to come to a munch, but who have not posted very much in the forum, that you might feel a bit lost if you do get invited to a munch. The more you have posted in here, and I mean posts that show something of your personality, your opinions and sense of humour (rather than just posts about making contact), the more you have become "known" to others here, and the better that is to break the ice when you are face to face with fellow SH members, quite a few of whom are shyer than you think. Of course there are exceptions to this, especially if the new person is very outgoing.
Good luck anyway,
Mike.

20 Nov 2004

Quote by MikeNorth
I think it is worth pointing out to people hoping to come to a munch, but who have not posted very much in the forum, that you might feel a bit lost if you do get invited to a munch. The more you have posted in here, and I mean posts that show something of your personality, your opinions and sense of humour (rather than just posts about making contact), the more you have become "known" to others here, and the better that is to break the ice with fellow SH members, quite a few of whom are shyer than you think. Of course there are exceptions to this, especially if the new person is very outgoing.
Good luck anyway,
Mike.

I find this assumption somewhat offensive.
You have of course checked my past posts to see how many "we are looking for someone to shag..." posts there are? No exactly a big number, is it now?
And since we've been to more non-SH munches that I can remember without digging out old diaries, I'd say the chance of feeling a bit lost isn't very high either.

20 Nov 2004

I think Mike was making a general point and was not aiming his advice to you in particular. rolleyes

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20 Nov 2004

On reading the MikeNorths post I am certain it was intended as a follow on to Judy's post about the nature of Munches in general and he was certainly not having a go at anyone.

20 Nov 2004

I will be attending my first munch in March. At first I was disappointed at having to wait so long for one I could actually reach, however the wait has been a blessing, I have lost my bouncy over-excited puppy newbie-type posts, and now spend more time reading others. From this I am learning a lot about my fellow members of SH ,
who likes what and where and when (me: anything, anywhere, anytime wink

)
The content of my posts has also changed (subtly perhaps, maybe well ok its still crap) they are more honest, I talk about my kids, how wonderfully quiet they are
WHEN I AM TRYING TO F****NG WORK mad

Now I am enjoying the site much more and I have actually started flirting with someone.
What I am saying is a munch is an opportunity to meet people who enjoy some of the same things as you, but that does not necessarily mean that you will get on with everyone, take the time to get to know everyone, and when next a munch is in your area, you might have all of us asking to sleep on your couch. :sleeping:

20 Nov 2004

Quote by wildwilly
and when next a munch is in your area, you might have all of us asking to sleep on your couch. :sleeping:

Good thinking willy :thumbup:
So is there room on your couch for 2 after the Scottish Munch? ;)

20 Nov 2004

The only munch i, and mrs muttley have been to was the north west munch this year, and we got in by the skin of our teeth.
we came away, knowing that we were welcome in the swinging scene and the freinds we made have become an integral part of our social, as well as our swinging lives.
we were petrified at 1st but we soon were made to feel very welcome by everyone, and were honoured to become part of the scene from that point onwards.
what im trying to say is, if you persevere with the forum and chatroom and get to know the folks therein, you will gain the recognition of being genuine, and will get the invites you want.
Good luck with your efforts to get to a munch, and we hope to welcome you to one that we are attending.
steve and gilly (the muttleys) xxxxxx
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20 Nov 2004

My couch is available, the kids, the dog and the cat are also very good at waking you at 5:30am, the cat likes to lie on your face all night, the couch has an intresting smell.
And I wonder why we dont get people staying more often

20 Nov 2004

Quote by skegnessswingers
and when next a munch is in your area, you might have all of us asking to sleep on your couch. :sleeping:

Good thinking willy :thumbup:
So is there room on your couch for 2 after the Scottish Munch? ;)
We feel its only fair to warn you that Angel changes from a slightly shy, quiet and polite young lady when she is mixed with alcohol........
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redface

Guilty as charged yer honour surprised

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Although, that's not usually a bad thing ;) :twisted:

20 Nov 2004

Quote by wildwilly
My couch is available, the kids, the dog and the cat are also very good at waking you at 5:30am, the cat likes to lie on your face all night, the couch has an intresting smell.

On careful consideration, we've decided to book a hotel room after all :lol2:

20 Nov 2004

On careful consideration, we've decided to book a hotel room after all

Room for a wee one?

20 Nov 2004

Quote by Flavio12000
just wondering why some people have munches that they deem exclusive
I thought a munch was supposed to be open to all interested in the scene, who respect behavioural codes etc, have pm'ed in interest to munches but have not been replied to.

You think munches are exclusive????
You ought to try getting into one of our parties........
Now thats exclusive..........
wink

Dxx

20 Nov 2004

Bloody hell.... I think it and Judy posts it :shock:
Well said Judy kiss

Shireen
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20 Nov 2004

Are you speaking for others Judy?
I think (and i'm sure the mods the agree) it would be unwise to raise this discussion again.
I also think (that would be an opinion) that D was being light hearted.
Mxxx

20 Nov 2004

thank you Judy and others for your honesty in your replies, I would hope that this was a liberal free thinking site judging by its content but some people are still closed minded whether they think it or not and hope that munches will be open to all, back to sending another p.m to reach the truth in all this.

20 Nov 2004

Very brave of you to Edit your horrible words and very mature of you to post them Judy.
You must be proud.
If calling D homophobc and transphobic isn't against the AUP frankly i don't know what is.

20 Nov 2004

Quote by JudyTV

Are you speaking for others Judy?
I think (and i'm sure the mods the agree) it would be unwise to raise this discussion again.
I also think (that would be an opinion) that D was being light hearted.
Mxxx

I ask the same.
Are you speaking for the mods and others .
Yes. Because the last time this issue was raised the mods said anyone who brought it up again will have their threads locked and risk being banned. Feel free to confirm this.

20 Nov 2004

Quote by JudyTV
Very brave of you to Edit your horrible words and very mature of you to post them Judy.
You must be proud.
If calling D homophobc and transphobic isn't against the AUP frankly i don't know what is.

It was part of a longer message and was a PM .... not intended for posting.
If thats true why did it begin with 'stand by for the burning of Judy' seems to me you had every intention of posting that publicly but cowardice has won through.