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Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.
Each to their own Charlie
Some people including me prefer the fuller figure and the word fat can seem quite derogatory to be honest. cuddly etc is a description we can all understand and everyoe has their own views on beauty desireability etc,
Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

Each to their own, it is up to each user how they describe themselves!
wave Hi warwick xx
What you describe as being 'real', others might describe as 'being an insensitive and arrogant pillock'
The English language provides many paths to an accurate description wink
Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

I'd say that my response to your very last sentence of your post is...that at least this person is honest & truthfully & is not trying to create any illusion.
Pokes her nose in say " oh ffs change the record" and leaves :doh:
Changes her mind and comes back to say
" I might be a fat woman but I make lots of love with someone who loves me very much unlike you who says in your profile you`ve not been near a woman for 3 years, and you describe yourself as considerate, is that just to skinny women or are you considerate to all peoples feelings?" dunno
I think you`ve done a bang up job of showing a little of your personality for all to see
Well done, good luck with the swinging :huh:
Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

I'd guess for the same reason some people can't help being so rude.
Took this clip from one profile, "I haven't been withing 10 feet of a woman in 3yrs."
And now I know why.
And fat isn't the only word - try
abdominous, paunchy, potbellied, blubbery, chubby, plump, buxom, zaftig, zoftig, corpulent, obese, weighty, rotund, double-chinned, dumpy, podgy, pudgy, tubby, roly-poly, fattish, fleshy, heavy, overweight, porcine, portly, stout, curvacious, Reubenesque (my favourite). A mixture of negative and positive words and of course we are going to use positive words on our profiles.
I think you will find that the words people use on their profile are their business, not yours. If you don't like the ones they choose, you have one choice - walk away.
Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

Welcome to the forum my follicly challenged freind wink
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Nice to see you around the forums again ben
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Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

Welcome to the forum my follicly challenged freind wink
Didn`t you mean to say Baldy ??
:thumbup:
I have often wondered why people put fit on their profile, does that mean lean, thin, skinny, macilent, bony dunno
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Took this clip from one profile, "I haven't been withing 10 feet of a woman in 3yrs."
And now I know why.

:thumbup:
And I just looked at a profile which showed a man holding a fish. On a swingers site. Bit odd dunno
I shall mull over your sentiment whilst I gorge on comfort food.
I have to be honest and say when I look at a profile if the female is not what I am looking for physically then I dont get past the photos. If someone is likely to be describing themselves politely as not what I am looking for then I wont be getting as far as the profile text. For me physical attraction is a must when dealing in photo ads mainly cus they have are large part of what you have to go by.
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I have to be honest and say when I look at a profile if the female is not what I am looking for physically then I dont get past the photos. If someone is likely to be describing themselves politely as not what I am looking for then I wont be getting as far as the profile text. For me physical attraction is a must when dealing in photo ads mainly cus they have are large part of what you have to go by.

Agreed.
Same with the 'Age and looks unimportant' quote.
I could never use that, to me that is important. I have a broad variety of what I find attractive in a person, I can walk down a street and see 10 women, find all of them attractive, yet none of them have a similar look, it is purely if I find something about them attractive, regardless of what that is.
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I can walk down a street and see 10 women, find all of them attractive

Isn't that a description of desperate? bolt
Dave_Notts
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I can walk down a street and see 10 women, find all of them attractive

Isn't that a description of desperate? bolt
Dave_Notts
Sorry, I wasn't clear in my posting.
I meant in a busy street, I can look at 10 women of varying appearance, and find each of them attractive.
And I am capable of putting my own neck in a noose, without you guiding me biggrin
Actually if the advertiser is saying 'I am like this and you won't like me if that's not your thing', then that seems to me to be quite realistic, and knowing.
So take the woman's advice.
Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

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As you seem to have a limited appreciation of the use of English as a means of effective communication, thought we could try 'picktchas' :giggle:
should all ways look befor u leap....
n think befor u write....
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should always look before you leap....
and think before you write....

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should always look before you leap....
and think before you write....

innocent
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Cheeky bleeder! lol
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should always look before you leap....
and think before you write....

innocent
(Just filling in for fb)
You forgot: two's.
:whistling:
The lady in question used a selection of synonyms and a delighful simile to honestly describe her shape and size ... she communicated this effectively to you and you understood the message. So what's the problem? Whether she said fat, cuddly or obese, you still understood she wasn't slim. From that, you could then decide whether she was your type or not.
And I don't see how she was 'glorifying being unhealthy' ... correct me if I'm wrong but I was under the impression this was a swinger's site - not a health and fitness one. People only need to describe how they look and a bit about their personality - not what their blood pressure or resting heart rate is! People on here are, generally, looking for sexual encounters - not someone to go jogging with!
What a sad, flat, bland world it would be if we only ever communicated in literal terms just to suit those who lack the imagination to appreciate our colourful vocabulary.
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The lady in question used a selection of synonyms and a delighful simile to honestly describe her shape and size ... she communicated this effectively to you and you understood the message. So what's the problem? Whether she said fat, cuddly or obese, you still understood she wasn't slim. From that, you could then decide whether she was your type or not.
And I don't see how she was 'glorifying being unhealthy' ... correct me if I'm wrong but I was under the impression this was a swinger's site - not a health and fitness one. People only need to describe how they look and a bit about their personality - not what their blood pressure or resting heart rate is! People on here are, generally, looking for sexual encounters - not someone to go jogging with!
What a sad, flat, bland world it would be if we only ever communicated in literal terms just to suit those who lack the imagination to appreciate our colourful vocabulary.

Well said :thumbup:
I like big butts and I cannot lie.
Quote by MikeNorth
should always look before you leap....
and think before you write....

innocent
(Just filling in for fb)
You forgot: two's.
:whistling:
How can you quote "two's" when "twos" is "twos"?
Jeez - I'm all ""'d out.
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Quote by charlie88
Took this clip from one profile, but there are many more. I'm a size 22, 38J chest, look like a coke bottle.....I also have the belly to go with the boobs, so boys if you don't like big and bouncy you WON'T like me.
Why can't people just come out with it. "Fat" is the actual word. Or obese if you're sensitive. Why do people always dress over the fact that they are overweight, by glorifying being unhealthy.
Big, Cuddly, a few extra pounds, bouncy? Come on, what do those words really mean. You figure it out.

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