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Quote by JnBwelshcpl
We have chatted to males who say they are bi and have bi male on their profile, even confirmed it by a phone call, have arranged a meet and chat gone well and had fun playing and still turns out when it comes down to it they only want to play with fem half of cpl.
We had one nice male who did play and say he was bi curious, he played and we got the feeling he was not into it, He was good enough to contact us and say he had fun and thank you, but bi male fun was not for him, which was a nice gesture and yes we still chat to him.
So its not always what is left out or put in a profile that you can go by, so is it a lottery what type of person you chat to or meet.
J n B

Are you just answering your own question here then? You were the one who originally asked why men put one thing on their profile and then say they are another :shock:
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Quote by awol
I think a lot of people here are assuming that a man who seeks to meet couples is bi and hiding it. Whilst it must be true in some cases there's also another explanation.
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No, what many of us are saying is there are a lot of men who say, quite clearly, on their profile that they are straight and yet contact 'bi-couples' saying they are bi or bi curious. That's all, no one is questioning the fact that plenty of straight men, women and couples who love a good threesome :wink:
JnBwelshcpl
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Quote by flidais-media
We have chatted to males who say they are bi and have bi male on their profile, even confirmed it by a phone call, have arranged a meet and chat gone well and had fun playing and still turns out when it comes down to it they only want to play with fem half of cpl.
We had one nice male who did play and say he was bi curious, he played and we got the feeling he was not into it, He was good enough to contact us and say he had fun and thank you, but bi male fun was not for him, which was a nice gesture and yes we still chat to him.
So its not always what is left out or put in a profile that you can go by, so is it a lottery what type of person you chat to or meet.
J n B

Are you just answering your own question here then? You were the one who originally asked why men put one thing on their profile and then say they are another :shock:
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Carrying on the theme,
J n B
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Quote by JnBwelshcpl
We have chatted to males who say they are bi and have bi male on their profile, even confirmed it by a phone call, have arranged a meet and chat gone well and had fun playing and still turns out when it comes down to it they only want to play with fem half of cpl.
We had one nice male who did play and say he was bi curious, he played and we got the feeling he was not into it, He was good enough to contact us and say he had fun and thank you, but bi male fun was not for him, which was a nice gesture and yes we still chat to him.
So its not always what is left out or put in a profile that you can go by, so is it a lottery what type of person you chat to or meet.
J n B

Are you just answering your own question here then? You were the one who originally asked why men put one thing on their profile and then say they are another :shock:
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Carrying on the theme,
J n B
Fair enough wink
tmann
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Quote by PoloLady

There are men on here, that have bisexual "tendancies" but prefer not to advertise the fact.
Why ? I hear you, in my head, ask (bewrae the voices Nell)
Well, there are a few men, half of a couple, whilst not being openly homophobic, would be reluctant to allow a bi man to join in a 3/moresome, for some irrational fear that the bi guest wouldn't be able to control the urge to cop a feel, or more.

Good point!
There is also the point about labelling. Some people don't want to be labelled as bi-sexual as they don't think they fit that label - some even feel "why do I need a label anyway?"
I guess it has a lot to do with how you define bi-sexual. If we look at the definition of hetro or homosexual - I would define bi-sexual as being sexually attracted to either/both sex to the extent where forming a relationship with either sex is possible.
Now I am guessing that definition does not apply to may of the people who have labelled themselves as bi - I am certainly not bi-sexual by that definition, yet I ticked the bi-sexual box as it was the closest thing.
Just because you are liberated enought not to feel threatened by another cock or if the moment is right you are open to the idea of another man sucking you off (and vice versa) it does not a bi-sexual make.
So, labels can be difficult as sexuality is not always clear-cut.
I am not attracted to men full stop.
Would I have sexual contact with a man? I rule out penetration by a man. I don't think I would kiss a man. anything else, I don't know.
I am diffidently not looking for men. Where does that put me in the order of things? I don't know!
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I am not attracted to men full stop.
Would I have sexual contact with a man? I rule out penetration by a man. I don't think I would kiss a man. anything else, I don't know.
I am diffidently not looking for men. Where does that put me in the order of things? I don't know!

Straight ?
But as I used to say in my photo ad - not in any macho bullshit kind of way dunno
I kind of like Morb's "bi-tolerant" description.
tmann
Sex God
Quote by dambuster

I am not attracted to men full stop.
Would I have sexual contact with a man? I rule out penetration by a man. I don't think I would kiss a man. anything else, I don't know.
I am diffidently not looking for men. Where does that put me in the order of things? I don't know!

Straight ?
But as I used to say in my photo ad - not in any macho bullshit kind of way dunno
I kind of like Morb's "bi-tolerant" description.
Straight, yes. that how I see myself.
lalibela
Forum Virgin
tmann - has it about right. .. and as others mention there is an artificiality about imposing definitions -hetero, bi, homosexual etc... We are all sexual and by experiences and/or inclination we are all able to enjoy sexual contact. Like tmann I don't want kissing or anal with a man but do enjoy mutual masturbation and have found women enjoy seeing feeling men playing with each other or watching guys masturbating together - I suppose like men like to see lesbian porn etc..?
"Bi-curious" seems to be the "get out" (get in?) clause men use when wanting to be with a couple? It indicates a lack of phobia about male> male contact - inevitable ina real 3some with a woman. - Some guys are so concerned that they can only "take turns" or watch to avoid any contact all!
However there are some situations where the man uses his female partner as a bait to attract contact with a man rather than sharing with his woman?
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Quote by celestria
when it comes to sexuality, I refer back to the theory that there's a line that starts with completely "straight" at one end and "gay" at the other... we all fit in our own little slots somewhere along that line. We're all different but we all fit on that line somewhere.
Our sexuality is ours alone to judge and we are all what we are.

Spot on hunni. :thumbup:
What we see ourselves as, who turns us on and what we'll do in the bedroom is all very personal to each person. I've met ladies who only like to kiss or touch other ladies but not go as far as oral, men who 'tolerate' other men in the room but don't want any contact with him, ladies who will go the whole hog with another lady, men who are curious about sucking off another man but balks at the idea of penetration......they all fit along that line in different places.
As for not listing everything you like to do, I don't want to tick ALL the boxes as some of the things listed as I don't see them as an everyday occurence. Some of the things listed, I might consider doing very occasionally and then if the time, mood and partner is right. That way I don't feel obligated or pressured to perform those acts with everyone who asks but I wouldn't discount everything that was suggested.
For the same reason, I haven't ticked meeting single guys. It keeps my pm box free from uncle Tom Cobbley and all and allows ME to make the choice if I feel the need so I don't totally disregard meeting guys.
That is NOT an invitiation to my pm box :dry:
H__x
Sex God
Analogy.......
You go to a shop to buy some flour because you want to bake some bread. You read all the descriptions on the outsides very carefully. There's rye and wholemeal and multigrain and plain. You buy a packet of multigrain because you're in the mood for it, have a taste for it after reading the packet. You get it home and open it and it's not multigrain at all, it's plain. You don't feel like baking anymore because you were looking forward to your multigrain and the thought of plain doesn't appeal.
It's not that we don't accept people for their differences, each to their own and all that, it's when they lie about it and think it's ok that's not acceptable.
H.x
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Quote by H-x
Analogy.......
You go to a shop to buy some flour because you want to bake some bread. You read all the descriptions on the outsides very carefully. There's rye and wholemeal and multigrain and plain. You buy a packet of multigrain because you're in the mood for it, have a taste for it after reading the packet. You get it home and open it and it's not multigrain at all, it's plain. You don't feel like baking anymore because you were looking forward to your multigrain and the thought of plain doesn't appeal.
It's not that we don't accept people for their differences, each to their own and all that, it's when they lie about it and think it's ok that's not acceptable.
H.x

Can I have the bread instead then? dunno
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H__x
Sex God
How about a roll? buns maybe? or some baps?
H.x
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Quote by H-x
How about a roll? buns maybe? or some baps?
H.x

a nice roll and a couple of baps sound good to me hunni :twisted:
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How about a roll? buns maybe? or some baps?
H.x

Can I put one hand on a bap, one on a bun and have a roll at the same time?
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easyease
Orgasminator
there are different degrees of sexuality and everyone has a different definition of their own, i class myself as bisexual but i only enjoy oral sex with a guy, and i dont really find many men attractive as such(i just like cock), whereas there are a lot of men who use the photo ads who see themselves as straight but engage in anal sex with other men and they are also really fussy about the type of guy they meet.
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Quote by JnBwelshcpl
Why do males list on there profiles that they are looking for bi couples, str8 couples etc.
then in profile section about them selfs say they are str8, when you ask them why they say they are bi curious and always wanted to try,
Is it a male fantasy that they want to be bi or away of getting there leg over.
J n B

Why do bi couples list on their profile their looking for straight couples & straight males (like on yours) is this not the same thing? Or are you saying it’s ok for a bi couple/male/fem to play straight but it’s not ok for a straight couple/male/fem to play straight because there with a bi couple/male/fem, you’re confusing me! I thought bi meant you like both sexes, so what’s so wrong about a straight male looking to meet a bi couple, as I see it bi couples can and do play straight too, I also think that even genuine bi people have the right to decide when/who and what sex they play with on any given night, No means No in any way shape or form regardless of sexuality, Or am I missing something here?
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easyease writes 'I only like oral sex with a guy' 'I just like cock' :
Is the hairy hunk with the bald head and the 'tache on your avatar you?If so I'm gonna be looking at the bus and train timetables between Banbury and Loughborough!!!! lol :lol:
Lissa
Sex God
Quote by redpantherman
let's go into FLIP MODE!!!
Why do females NOT list on their profiles that THEY like certain...'acts' dunno

I do biggrin
But doing those acts isn't guaranteed, for various reasons.
If the guy is hung like a horse, for example, certain things are a definite no-no wink
T_cra
Warming the Bed
What is Bi anyway?
Straight is easy sleeps with opposite sex
Gay is sleeps with same sex
But Bi means so many different things to different people !!!
Classically I believe (no need to shoot me down in flames, I may be wrong smile ) Bi sexual means someone who will enter in to a same sex or opposite sex relationship, and finds both sexes attractive?
Swinging offers a very different range MMF , MFF etc etc etc, so what is Bi? Its a label that means wildly different things to different people.
Some people may be happy to play same sex to different degrees in a 3 some, but will still consider themselves straight and would never consider a purely same sex meet?
After all swinging has an element of excitement and the unknown to it. Its very hedonistic by its very nature, and one mans meat is another mans poison.
I think if you really looked at it you will find that basically people label themselves as they see themselves, not as others do? As long as they are open and honest in their PM's who cares?
essex34m
Sex God
Quote by T_cra
What is Bi anyway?

surely, if you are bi, you like both genders, therefore you like people, therefore you arent bi sexual, just 'sexual'?
the_Laird
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Labels should be left for clothes.............imho
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Quote by the_Laird
Labels should be left for clothes.............imho
confused

I agree... but what if you aren't wearing any? :rascal:
the_Laird
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Quote by Kiss
Labels should be left for clothes.............imho
confused

I agree... but what if you aren't wearing any? :rascal:
Then even those ones dont matter
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