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Quote by Alpha-Male
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
Being Bi is normal.
They may have had feelings all their lives that have been in the back ground, or have only just surfaced.
Also society's perception of homosexuality is a lot more relaxed, so maybe some men feel more comfortable.
Maybe even an accidental touching of cocks whilst engaging in an MFM sparked some interest.
Lots and lots and lots of possible reasons I guess.
And please... don't any man post that he is force to seek cock because his wife won't 'give him enough sex'!!
:lol: 
Sex God
A chance for more fun maybe 
Why is it that some normal bi men suddenly decide that they don't want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
or is it just that they think saying that they are bi/str8 will improve their chances of a shag??
sorry maybe we're being cynical - perhaps this isn't the answer your looking for
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or is it just that they think saying that they are bi/str8 will improve their chances of a shag??
sorry maybe we're being cynical - perhaps this isn't the answer your looking for
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Why is it that some normal bi men suddenly decide that they don't want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
or maybe they are just hoping a little white lie will give them more chance of a shag
oh dear!!
are we being a teeensy weeensy little bit cynical??
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or maybe they are just hoping a little white lie will give them more chance of a shag
oh dear!!
are we being a teeensy weeensy little bit cynical??
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Quote by Kiss
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
Being Bi is normal.
They may have had feelings all their lives that have been in the back ground, or have only just surfaced.
Also society's perception of homosexuality is a lot more relaxed, so maybe some men feel more comfortable.
Maybe even an accidental touching of cocks whilst engaging in an MFM sparked some interest.
Lots and lots and lots of possible reasons I guess.
And please... don't any man post that he is force to seek cock because his wife won't 'give him enough sex'!!
:lol:As the tshirt says 'Heterosexuality isn't normal it's just common' :lol:
Master of Sex
Quote by Alpha-Male
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
I think it's simple mathematics
Bi = far more chance of a shag.
The same question can, of course, be asked of hetro women turning bi.....the answer might be a little more sinister.
Well for me its a long story but bear with me please as its interesting (well I think it is anyway).
I met a fella who said he was straight and was very homophobic about 6 yrs ago. We played together regularly and enjoyed ourselves.
After a couple of years we wanted more, as we were both fed up of the same old same by that time.
We had talked a lot about our past experiences by that time and he admitted to sucking his own cock to make himself cum when a boy. An interesting way of masturbation and I had never heard of it. He also found out that I had had some bi experiences and some I had enjoyed, others not.
So we decided to try and organise a 3some or 4some if we could find anyone to play with. Hence our entry into the swinging scene. Our first meet was with an ex of mine who agreed to play, really for my sake. I loved it, despite both men being wary of each other. Glad to say the experience broke some barriers for both men as well, even though nothing visible happened at the time between them.
Ultimately my partner realised he was being a bit prejudiced over oral bi sex, since he had sucked himself off and had enjoyed the fun of more than 2 together. So we did another 3some and he sucked this man to completion. He loved it .. I loved watching it and the other man who was a complete bi virgin, was blown away with it all. Great. We have done straight swaps with other couples since, but not a proper FFM so far, but would love to try it with the right woman.
So ultimately I guess it was boredom that pushed us to stretch our boundaries, but wasn't it worth it. We both know we can do more than just 1-2-1 now and enjoy it.
DD
I met a fella who said he was straight and was very homophobic about 6 yrs ago. We played together regularly and enjoyed ourselves.
After a couple of years we wanted more, as we were both fed up of the same old same by that time.
We had talked a lot about our past experiences by that time and he admitted to sucking his own cock to make himself cum when a boy. An interesting way of masturbation and I had never heard of it. He also found out that I had had some bi experiences and some I had enjoyed, others not.
So we decided to try and organise a 3some or 4some if we could find anyone to play with. Hence our entry into the swinging scene. Our first meet was with an ex of mine who agreed to play, really for my sake. I loved it, despite both men being wary of each other. Glad to say the experience broke some barriers for both men as well, even though nothing visible happened at the time between them.
Ultimately my partner realised he was being a bit prejudiced over oral bi sex, since he had sucked himself off and had enjoyed the fun of more than 2 together. So we did another 3some and he sucked this man to completion. He loved it .. I loved watching it and the other man who was a complete bi virgin, was blown away with it all. Great. We have done straight swaps with other couples since, but not a proper FFM so far, but would love to try it with the right woman.
So ultimately I guess it was boredom that pushed us to stretch our boundaries, but wasn't it worth it. We both know we can do more than just 1-2-1 now and enjoy it.
DD
Sex God
what a load of old tosh! 
never did i expect to see such ill informed complete bollox on a swinging site? however, since it's a serious question about a complex topic, i'll do my best to give a straight answer.
once upon a time, it was generally felt that male bi-sexuality was caused when smallboys were forced to play with their little sisters barbie dolls, when all they really wanted was an action man with eagle-eye action and those grippy bendy hands, preferably in a tank, or a hanglider, or some other piece of macho machinery that barbie wouldn't be seen dead in, even if it was all pink and sparklified . while i can understand the thinking behind that one, i don't give it all that much credence, and these days such glib explanations are out of favour.
nowadays, it is generally accepted that male bi-sexuality is almost exclusively the consequence of a public school education; more specifically, the kind of public school that makes you play rugger even though you are patently rubbish at it. all that a-scrummaging and a-rummaging, faces pressed against eachothers arses, hands up between eachothers legs, full body contact between hot, sweaty lads before they all pile naked into a one ginormous bath together is only ever gonna have one outcome, isn't it? it may take years, but it will come out eventually.
the reason they do this is so that the higher echelons of the Civil Service can maintain their traditional quota of camp, foppish, slightly limp-wristed types, in the mode of Quentin Crisp for example.
hope this helps? :?
neil x x x ;)
never did i expect to see such ill informed complete bollox on a swinging site? however, since it's a serious question about a complex topic, i'll do my best to give a straight answer.once upon a time, it was generally felt that male bi-sexuality was caused when smallboys were forced to play with their little sisters barbie dolls, when all they really wanted was an action man with eagle-eye action and those grippy bendy hands, preferably in a tank, or a hanglider, or some other piece of macho machinery that barbie wouldn't be seen dead in, even if it was all pink and sparklified . while i can understand the thinking behind that one, i don't give it all that much credence, and these days such glib explanations are out of favour.
nowadays, it is generally accepted that male bi-sexuality is almost exclusively the consequence of a public school education; more specifically, the kind of public school that makes you play rugger even though you are patently rubbish at it. all that a-scrummaging and a-rummaging, faces pressed against eachothers arses, hands up between eachothers legs, full body contact between hot, sweaty lads before they all pile naked into a one ginormous bath together is only ever gonna have one outcome, isn't it? it may take years, but it will come out eventually.
the reason they do this is so that the higher echelons of the Civil Service can maintain their traditional quota of camp, foppish, slightly limp-wristed types, in the mode of Quentin Crisp for example.
hope this helps? :?
neil x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
what a load of old tosh!
once upon a time, it was generally felt that male bi-sexuality was caused when smallboys were forced to play with their little sisters barbie dolls, when all they really wanted was an action man with eagle-eye action and those grippy bendy hands, preferably in a tank, or a hanglider, or some other piece of macho machinery that barbie wouldn't be seen dead in, even if it was all pink and sparklified . while i can understand the thinking behind that one, i don't give it all that much credence, and these days such glib explanations are out of favour.
nowadays, it is generally accepted that male bi-sexuality is almost exclusively the consequence of a public school education; more specifically, the kind of public school that makes you play rugger even though you are patently rubbish at it. all that a-scrummaging and a-rummaging, faces pressed against eachothers arses, hands up between eachothers legs, full body contact between hot, sweaty lads before they all pile naked into a one ginormous bath together is only ever gonna have one outcome, isn't it? it may take years, but it will come out eventually.
the reason they do this is so that the higher echelons of the Civil Service can maintain their traditional quota of camp, foppish, slightly limp-wristed types, in the mode of Quentin Crisp for example.
hope this helps? :?
neil x x x ;)
Straight answer alright
Hi Alpha male,
Firstly my (slightly tipsy) take on it....
Perhaps they realise that it's only "dirty" and "wrong" because society deems it so- WTF does society know?
Maybe they suddenly realise that cocks are actually quite nice.
Perhaps they open their minds.
Maybe they discover an inner acceptence of what & who they truly are.
Secondly, some questions for you......
Why did you? And when you did, did that make you abnormal?
Firstly my (slightly tipsy) take on it....
Perhaps they realise that it's only "dirty" and "wrong" because society deems it so- WTF does society know?
Maybe they suddenly realise that cocks are actually quite nice.
Perhaps they open their minds.
Maybe they discover an inner acceptence of what & who they truly are.
Secondly, some questions for you......
Why did you? And when you did, did that make you abnormal?
Master of Sex
hmmmmm...so bi-males are rugby players...ok
and the wheezy boys, with notes from Matron excusing them from games, became the red blooded hetros happily shaggin' their way throgh life...
c'mon Neil, you're not giving us many options here...!
:P
and the wheezy boys, with notes from Matron excusing them from games, became the red blooded hetros happily shaggin' their way throgh life...
c'mon Neil, you're not giving us many options here...!
:P
Sex God
Quote by banlwales
hmmmmm...so bi-males are rugby players...ok
c'mon Neil, you're not giving us many options here...!
:P
oh no, you read me all wrong. only the failed rugby players, who never found the inner satisfaction that comes from scoring a try, so were overly influenced by other elements of the game, if you know what i mean? *taps nose, winks*
Quote by WinchWench
Firstly my (slightly tipsy) take on it....
at 19 minutes past 6 on a thursday evening? :shock: ok, fair enough! mine's a pint ta! :cheers:
sounds reasonable to me winchwench, but that's as near to getting a serious answer as you're gonna get on this thread! :P
neil x x x ;)
Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
Firstly my (slightly tipsy) take on it....
at 19 minutes past 6 on a thursday evening? :shock: ok, fair enough! mine's a pint ta! :cheers:
Winchwench are you ok?? :beer:
Sex God
Quote by Philfuller
Girls seem to enjoy it so much ... don't you want to know what your missing out on?
ha! so you're reiterating the mercenary bastard thing, and suggesting i was straight until i saw the look on my girlfriends face? :P
;)Quote by seasider
Straight ((( irony!? :P ))) answer alright
oh noes! :shock: they got to you too?
:therethere:
:P
n x x x :P
Casanova
What a totally bizarre question to ask!! When a woman turns bi there is no problem she is what she is but if a man turns bi its a big thing its another of society's big hang ups!
If a man shags 100 woman he is a stud but if a woman shags 100 men she is a slag slut tramp ect
If a woman is gay or bi she is sexier but if a man is gay or bi he is less of a man
I think its all to do with wanting to try new and different things. And being a member of a swinging site i would say it would be more normal to be bi then straight.
My man did wonder about and had a bit of a go but he now knows its not for him which is better then not trying at all, I always say u should try every thing once at least that way you know if you like it or not :bounce:
If a man shags 100 woman he is a stud but if a woman shags 100 men she is a slag slut tramp ect
If a woman is gay or bi she is sexier but if a man is gay or bi he is less of a man
I think its all to do with wanting to try new and different things. And being a member of a swinging site i would say it would be more normal to be bi then straight.
My man did wonder about and had a bit of a go but he now knows its not for him which is better then not trying at all, I always say u should try every thing once at least that way you know if you like it or not :bounce:
I go with the 'times, they're a changing' theory. We've always been fascinated by cocks but we needed an 'excuse' to indulge them - prisons, the army, boarding schools. Today, having spent good 30, 40 years 'finding out' and accepting it as a fact that most women (all?) are bi-sexual to a smaller or greater degree, and since the gay community has managed to establish themselves as 'cool and creative', that we finally feel okay about accepting that, perhaps, most (all?) men are bisexual, too. Surprise, surprise.
Interestingly, where I grew up (sout Europe), we used to endlessly debate how 'the screwer' is not gay, only the 'screwee'
and it is thus okay to fuck someone in th eposterior, as long as yyou don't let him do the same to you. 
:rotflmao:
As fort me, I've always been bi, but it did take me years to acknolwedge it and a few more years still to start indulging it. So you coud say I've started as 95% heterosexual and have come down to.... ...67%, maybe even % 
Interestingly, where I grew up (sout Europe), we used to endlessly debate how 'the screwer' is not gay, only the 'screwee'
and it is thus okay to fuck someone in th eposterior, as long as yyou don't let him do the same to you. :rotflmao: As fort me, I've always been bi, but it did take me years to acknolwedge it and a few more years still to start indulging it. So you coud say I've started as 95% heterosexual and have come down to....
...67%, maybe even % 
Sex God
this topic title really makes me feel uneasy.....
because I think if you had substituted the word "bi" for "gay" and said the same thing..... the person would have been flamed up to the high heavens
isn't it is really not a case of "becomming" as such, but more a case of just "being and never realising"..
for example... in alpha's signature (not picking on him in particular, but just seem apt) it has "naked cleaner"
well did you just "become"? or where you just "naturally it" without realising it?... or as some people have suggest did you do it to "increase your chances"?
:wink:
sean xxxxxxxx
because I think if you had substituted the word "bi" for "gay" and said the same thing..... the person would have been flamed up to the high heavens
isn't it is really not a case of "becomming" as such, but more a case of just "being and never realising"..
for example... in alpha's signature (not picking on him in particular, but just seem apt) it has "naked cleaner"
well did you just "become"? or where you just "naturally it" without realising it?... or as some people have suggest did you do it to "increase your chances"?
:wink: sean xxxxxxxx
Quote by Alpha-Male
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??
Does anyone really GIVE a shit anymore.
Anyone other than those sad b'stards who are so hetero that beating a guy with a pink shirt into hospital gives them a hard-on.
Quote by fabio
this topic title really makes me feel uneasy.....
because I think if you had substituted the word "bi" for "gay" and said the same thing..... the person would have been flamed up to the high heavens
sean xxxxxxxx
:thumbup: Fabio, I was just about to post the same sort of comment!
The Title & question made me cringe :shock: but everyone is entitle to their own point of view
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by fabio
isn't it is really not a case of "becomming" as such, but more a case of just "being and never realising"..
:thumbup: For me, it's a case of no one is entirely straight.....or entirely gay......everyone is just somewhere along the line of the grey area in the middle....
where someone is on that line can change through time and be affected by expieriences.....at any time of life...
just my thinking on things
Sex God
fabio? sam? i just assumed it was one of them multi-layered irony things, where you have to read it a few times to get the joke? :P ;)
steady now!
unfortunately the do! they really fucking do!
amarcord? yep? absolutely agreed!
though in my case it fluctuates between about 39% and 51%? :? very occasionally it's hits the high 80s, but that's a passing phase! :)
fabio? always knowing? denying? ultimately becoming what we have always known ourselves to be? yes! :thumbup: absolutely!
posh? enough of your shades of grey already? :P
n x x x ;)
:P ;)Quote by JTS
Does anyone really GIVE a shit anymore.
Anyone other than those sad b'stards who are so hetero that beating a guy with a pink shirt into hospital gives them a hard-on.
steady now!
unfortunately the do! they really fucking do!
amarcord? yep? absolutely agreed!
though in my case it fluctuates between about 39% and 51%? :? very occasionally it's hits the high 80s, but that's a passing phase! :) fabio? always knowing? denying? ultimately becoming what we have always known ourselves to be? yes! :thumbup: absolutely!
posh? enough of your shades of grey already? :P
n x x x ;)
Sex God
You mean to say being bi is a choice? :shock:
Bluddy hell! Knock me down with a feather.
Correct me if I'm wrong - but surely the point of having sex with another is pleasure - unless you are trying to procreate! No-one batters an eyelid when women suddenly start playing with eachother - in fact it is applauded. Yet with men it seems to be very different. As a woman I was always curious about what it would feel like to be with another woman - now I know it's GOOOOD! Surely for a man it must be the same - after all a man must know all the best bits of oral for example and therefore must be better than it than us girlies - what's the difference???????
Sexpert
For me it was more a result of years of coming to terms with the fact that whenever I was trying to identify as staright I'd be fancying men, and whenever I was identifying as gay I would be fancying women.
Bisexuality was frowned upon my everyone I talked to - to some of my straight friends it was queer and that was bad, to my more enlightened gay friendly straight friends bisexuality just meant you were undecided or greedy, and to my gay friends, particularly during the time I was an out and proud gay man, bisexuality smacked of undecided, greedy and being a traitor to the cause. They were only casually bi-phobic, but enough so I would never admit to it.
So, I was gay, but started to fancy women, so I became straight, but that didn't work out and I was obviously in denial so I started to identify as gay again - this patternn repeated itself a couple of times until I finally decided enough was enough - I obviously fancied both genders and it was time to face that and my friends would have to accept it if they were going to accept me for who I actually was.
It was a lot easier than I thought it would be - the people who had made the casually bi-phobic comments in the past were ok about it - perhaps times had changed or perhaps I just read a lot more into thier comments than was actually there.
I ran wild and became very promiscuous for a short time, sleeping with girl after boy after girl after boy, but I think that was more to do with the 'kid in the candy store' syndrome than anything else - I could, so I did - there were a couple of years when I would be snogging at least three or four different people everytime I went out, and would be bringing a different person home at the end of almost every night out, too. I have settled down somewhat since then, though.
So, it's not about the MMF fantasy for me (though any offers would be accepted... :twisted: ) - it's just about the fact I fancy both genders. I have the hots for Johnny Depp as well as Angelina Jolie, so to speak. It's just a part of who I am, same as if I was still identifying as gay.
I do admit to referring to myself as 'queer', but that's another topic, I think.
Bisexuality was frowned upon my everyone I talked to - to some of my straight friends it was queer and that was bad, to my more enlightened gay friendly straight friends bisexuality just meant you were undecided or greedy, and to my gay friends, particularly during the time I was an out and proud gay man, bisexuality smacked of undecided, greedy and being a traitor to the cause. They were only casually bi-phobic, but enough so I would never admit to it.
So, I was gay, but started to fancy women, so I became straight, but that didn't work out and I was obviously in denial so I started to identify as gay again - this patternn repeated itself a couple of times until I finally decided enough was enough - I obviously fancied both genders and it was time to face that and my friends would have to accept it if they were going to accept me for who I actually was.
It was a lot easier than I thought it would be - the people who had made the casually bi-phobic comments in the past were ok about it - perhaps times had changed or perhaps I just read a lot more into thier comments than was actually there.
I ran wild and became very promiscuous for a short time, sleeping with girl after boy after girl after boy, but I think that was more to do with the 'kid in the candy store' syndrome than anything else - I could, so I did - there were a couple of years when I would be snogging at least three or four different people everytime I went out, and would be bringing a different person home at the end of almost every night out, too. I have settled down somewhat since then, though.
So, it's not about the MMF fantasy for me (though any offers would be accepted... :twisted: ) - it's just about the fact I fancy both genders. I have the hots for Johnny Depp as well as Angelina Jolie, so to speak. It's just a part of who I am, same as if I was still identifying as gay.
I do admit to referring to myself as 'queer', but that's another topic, I think.
Quote by gothicpunk
For me it was more a result of years of coming to terms with the fact that whenever I was trying to identify as staright I'd be fancying men, and whenever I was identifying as gay I would be fancying women.
Bisexuality was frowned upon my everyone I talked to - to some of my straight friends it was queer and that was bad, to my more enlightened gay friendly straight friends bisexuality just meant you were undecided or greedy, and to my gay friends, particularly during the time I was an out and proud gay man, bisexuality smacked of undecided, greedy and being a traitor to the cause. They were only casually bi-phobic, but enough so I would never admit to it.
So, I was gay, but started to fancy women, so I became straight, but that didn't work out and I was obviously in denial so I started to identify as gay again - this patternn repeated itself a couple of times until I finally decided enough was enough - I obviously fancied both genders and it was time to face that and my friends would have to accept it if they were going to accept me for who I actually was.
It was a lot easier than I thought it would be - the people who had made the casually bi-phobic comments in the past were ok about it - perhaps times had changed or perhaps I just read a lot more into thier comments than was actually there.
I ran wild and became very promiscuous for a short time, sleeping with girl after boy after girl after boy, but I think that was more to do with the 'kid in the candy store' syndrome than anything else - I could, so I did - there were a couple of years when I would be snogging at least three or four different people everytime I went out, and would be bringing a different person home at the end of almost every night out, too. I have settled down somewhat since then, though.
So, it's not about the MMF fantasy for me (though any offers would be accepted... :twisted: ) - it's just about the fact I fancy both genders. I have the hots for Johnny Depp as well as Angelina Jolie, so to speak. It's just a part of who I am, same as if I was still identifying as gay.
I do admit to referring to myself as 'queer', but that's another topic, I think.
Sod off- they're mine! :spar:
Seriously, well said GP :thumbup:
