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why do the nice guys always lose?

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why do the nice guys lose?? and im one! i love this site but its hard geeting to know others, how do you do it?? i know there are lots of wierdos about but just sometimes theres a good apple in a barrell of bad ones!! so ladies wot do you think????
patience and talking help. I cannot say i have been thrown offers all over the place, because when you come on, you have an idea it will be every night. It aint going to happen. just join in, let people know you more and if nothing happens, it is life my friend? Some of us actually get by without, and the only real guarantee you will score tonight, is i am afraid in the local rent a shag column.... BUT, what i find on here, is the ladies, and they are really nice too, are so down to earth, you feel a different person, and I get a kick out of just talking to them, as us lads do with each other, because we seldom enter the female world of chats, and i find it really nice to converse, be it smutty, serious or logical/humour...
anyhow keep looking mate, and hope you get out of it what you put in...?
thats fair enough, i know lots of guys just come on here to get laid but i just want to broaden my horizons and get to know people, and i do know it takes time!!! but not having a piccy doesnt help-- its to big for the site!! sad
one the site is an avitar sizer program that will help you. Pictures are fine, and tell a lot. i tend to hide, like many behind daft shots, but I am a loony tuney!! If you have an art program you can resize it yourself.
will it reduce really big files?? coz some of mine are between 330m - 990m
not sure what size it works from to, but it is ok. i cannot find it for my life, but if you pm mark the administrator, or someone pops on with the link, you will download it ok. I am a bit of a dabhand on paint programs and use the resize tab, it helps if you can use paintpot type programs, but if not follow the program on the site. Hope you get it sorted ?
cheers rocky, by the way are you m or f???
as in the film, I am male, but just being helpful. Keep looking mate, and let me know how you get on..
Off for a cuppa now, and summat to eat!
JQL's avatar resizer is now on his personal page:
JQL's personal page
It's designed to resize pics for an avatar though, pics in photo ads can be a lot bigger and you're only limited by the file size (50K) and not the pixels.
You have pics between 330Mbyte and 990Mbyte? :shock: :shock:
Are you sure? A couple of those would have filled some peoples hard drive a few years ago. Have a look on the help page for some tips and a link to download the evaluation version of Paint Shop Pro.
Steve
Hello Navyguy :welcome:
wish i could steve, but i'll be on my way to the u.s.a onboard my ship, and im in plymouth at the mo, but i'd love an invite when i get bak in the second half of july??
cheers
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wish i could steve, but i'll be on my way to the u.s.a onboard my ship, and im in plymouth at the mo......

Been there done that..........was in the RN from '76 - '86. The last ship I was on was HMS Boxer, a stretched Type 22 frigate. I believe they used it as target practice a couple of years ago and sank it. biggrin
Steve (ex salty seadog)
nice one steve. i joined in 89 and am a killick stoker, on the cornwall. but its still annoying going away and missing all the fun!!!! lol
if your in the navy then isn't there women waiting for you at all your ports to gve you some funa nd that? Its not a myth you know. Girls got to army barracks and navy ports just to shag military guys.
If you after a more relationship thing then it isn't so good I guess.
Nice guys do come last, thats fact. People are too shallow or go for the bastards of this world.
You do have an advantage tho being in the navy. I imgine ur prettytheltic and that with an exciting job so u can use those as a lure for the lasies who want a good body and exciting guy and then hopefull she will like ur personality and fall for you.
Quote by navyguyuk
why do the nice guys lose?? and im one!

I'm reliably informed nice guys don't always lose. smile But I think we "nice guys" need to have something in our armoury besides being nice; niceness is just not that seductive. I mean, the way I look at it, I'm a nice guy; I try not to offend people, I usually hold the door for ladies and I try to remember to wash behind my ears, Is anyone seduced yet? sad
There seem to be two "types" of guy in ample supply on this site - "horny-and-nice" and "horny-and-stupid". I think we need to have what my old boss called a USP - Unique Selling Point - something that separates us from these categories and makes us literally stand out from the crowd. Otherwise we're just standing in a crowd making puppy-dog eyes at the women in the hope we'll get picked, and likelihood is the next guy is more sexy, more charming or has bigger equipment.
We also need patience. It does happen. I went out for a drink with a very nice couple from this site yesterday (first people I've met through an online sex/swinging site in thirteen months of trying) - just a half-hour in a pub before they left to fetch their kids, but they were pleasant people and it was nice to have a chat, and who knows where such things may lead? cool Baby steps.
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who knows where such things may lead? cool Baby steps.

No no no. You wear protection - so that there are no subsequent baby steps!!
lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
how very true rog, but believe me ive got two selling points... im 6ft 7ins tall, and have got a pierced tongue!! but im not here for just casual sex, (but obviously it would be nice) but mostly to broaden my horizons and meet people, but obviously my job keeps my sphere of friends quite small so meeting new people who are broad minded is very rare!!!
hi navyguy,
just sent you a message.
i think as ive got older my tastes have changed. much like wine drinking, when your young the rough strong stuff that gets you pissed is best, but with maturaty your pallet craves a more subtle blend and can appricitae a fine rioja.
yes i still fancie the bad boys, but now i would like a trustfull partner to be with me, hence the swinging.
sex is so much richer with conversation, after all gives you a head start in the pleasing zones if you already know what is top of the list lol.
hard fast annonomous sex is great and so is exploring the body and pusing the bounderies.
redface im going to leave now, ive rambled on, im sure a good guys dont always lose reply would have surficed.
xxfemxxxxxxxx
Niceguys always lose??? :cry:
Oh bugger I'd better change my nickname.
That explains it all then lol
:shock: dont know what to think now :cry: maybe im the booby prize sillyhwoar:
i dont care ive got very nice boobies lol
i reiterate, were not all looking for a ba***rd.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
were not all looking for a ba***rd.

Indeed; that's why we use contraception. ;)
(Stolen jokes are always the best.)
Quote by navyguyuk
why do the nice guys lose?? and im one! i love this site but its hard geeting to know others, how do you do it?? i know there are lots of wierdos about but just sometimes theres a good apple in a barrell of bad ones!! so ladies wot do you think????
:shock: :shock: :shock: Nice guys ALWAYS lose? I've met some very nice guys, wouldn't like to think they all thought they'd lost out by meeting me!
I certainly didn't, Angel!
Nor me! lol
Mal
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i dont think nice guys lose out.... as long as they not too nice!!!!!!!!!!
what we (well me) want is a nice guy who knows how to be BAD!
wave :rascal:
Mal
lol
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what we (well me) want is a nice guy who knows how to be BAD!

Oh, I'm bad... I'm very bad... just ask the guy I used to play chess with, he'll tell you that nobody's as bad as me. :silly:
what we (well me) want is a nice guy who knows how to be BAD!

Ohhhhhh! I'll be bad for you WBB!!
Back east I was known as the meanest varmit in Texas....
C'mon WBB let's get it on behind the saw mill....Yee haw!

Kinky 'hog tied' Lizard
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I certainly didn't, Angel!

Quote by mal609
Nor me! lol
Mal
:lol:

Awww thanks guys... its so nice to be appreciated! Some of us girls have very fragile egos you know rolleyes
Feel much better now though biggrin :D