Why do you think sexually related forum threads....

29 Jan 2010

I guess for some the idea that discussing things such as the more, i guess one would say, pervier aspects of sex might put their chances of successful meeting at a disadvantage.
Take for instance the fact that someone mentions that they like Watersports, OK its not everyones cup of tea but no matter how that person might insist that its not a necessity just something that they like to indulge in if, they find others like that sort of thing too, others will look and think eeurrrggghhhh that so & so likes playing with piss not meeting him. So rather than disadvantage themselves in the possibilities of a shag they dont post their more avante garde personal foibles. Does that make sens? It does to me.
You could say the same about guys who are Bi-sexual who dont admit it for fear that couples may not be interested because the male of the couple might feel uncomfortable with the idea in his head that a bi-guy might think too himself during sex with the fem o thats a nice looking cock I think i'll have a big old suck. I know he's straight but he'll not mind. after all I reckon i can deepthroat better than his Mrs.
Of course there are the exceptions and I secretly admire their upfrontedness. People may ask for honesty in their swinging and many give that honesty but an awful lot goes unvolunteered unless asked for.
I'll let you know my really pervy fantasy if you'd like if not dont read on...

I'd like to get chilled coffee in a jug and with a fem i'm keen on ask her to lie on back on a chair with her legs as far back to her chest as she possible can and then with a small funnel placed gently into her pussy i'd like to tip chilled coffee into her and once full then i'd like to lie beveath her as th she puts her legs down and leans forward so tipping the cooled coffee straight from her pussy into my mouth. Now thats fantasy!!

29 Jan 2010

We could discuss things such as fems who like fisting - do fems who like this have very big loose fannies or is it all to do with elasticity muscle control and lube? Or is it because they had natural childbirth with an 11 pound baby that its about all they can feel nowadays?
Anal sex - would it be that people who have't tried it are worried that they're going to be shat on big time. same with rimming - is it scary to think that there is a possibilty that a poo could pop out while your down there
Whipping - OK people say that in the hands of a competetant person its an art and a non damaging one - or.. could it possibly be that the whipmastewr might have a bad day and hurt you to fuck on your arse that you cant sit down at your desk for work on Monday.
What about straight guys snowballing with their partners - might it be the idea is really horny but they don't like the thought of doing it because it might be construed as a homosexual thing wanting to kiss with cum, albeit their own, in their partners mouths sharing it.
Scat or poo play how do you even start to explain how a person could enjoy that let alone advertise the fact they do. It cant be easy admitting you chew poo and like it. And to know someone who does this sort of thing even if not with you could you stop yourself imagining it, in a different no poo play situation, possibly when kissing them. However long ago or how much their mouths have been washed through since.
Cuckolding - One close to my heart. Because I like seeing J fucked doesn't mean I want to be told how good the guy fucking her is in comparison to me, because it would be bullshit anyway (i'm that good) I dont want to be belittled and ridiculed and no i don't want to "clean-up" after him (like he'd get a chance to fuck J bareback anyway ffs no chance. But for those who do, would want to admit to this outside an intimate face to face scenario? No not often I think.
We all hate the idea that we, for the most part, read a book by its cover but most of us do.
Interesting thread possibility looms methinks biggrin

29 Jan 2010

I dont think I ever think about coming in this part of the forum to talk about sex specifically but if it comes up well then I will. While I am up for talking about absolutely anything, I think there are only so many threads about sex which would or could hold my attention. To be honest though, I had never thought that sex threads died that quickly? I just used to think all but one or two threads died quickly and people went on to the next topic.
The ones that last are what do you think of the person above you, write the next 3 lines of the story etc.
Oh I am all for a bit of sex talk especially when I cant sleep. In fact may go and look at old sex threads right now lol

29 Jan 2010

I agree that they are the threads that die quickly...
I have no idea why though. Perhaps because people aren't as open as they would like to think? Perhaps because when all is said and done they believe that sex is private.?
Perhaps because they are unsure how their sexual proclivities will be received by people they admire and respect on here ?
I don't know what goes on in people's heads. I have always been quite open about all my sexual practices.
I like rimming and being rimmed. I have no worry about poo... it is a natural substance and I am thinking aboout pleasure when I have sex and not body fluids.
I like BDSM but don't do fetish stuff.
I am not particularly into Fisting either giving or receiving but have been with partners who are and am more than happy to do anything to please others if the 'other' is someone that I am happy with.
I don't like sperm -this is well documented and often the subject of other's amusement.
I have a lovely fireplace (this wasn't actually sexual but is used as a standing joke lol

)
I love sex.

29 Jan 2010

Must not fiddle with the word "standing" in Splendid's post...
I think there's a fairly simple underlying answer- it's all been done already. The oldies will have already started/contributed to/read a thread or six on every sexual practice known to mankind, the newbies may lack the confidence to start them- and the newbies are fairly thin on the ground anyway.
Oh, and there's less room for a row on a sex thread. wink

29 Jan 2010

Quote by Kaznkev
I just think there is an overiding preponderance of ppl who avoid sex here

Oi, i'm not avoiding it, i just live in an area where every bugger else seems to evil

Maybe some of them don't get much response because the main posters have been here for bloody ages so we've been there, done that, discussed all the ins and outs (fnarr, fnarr :rascal smile

I just post less in general and mainly come here for a bit of a giggle and some flirting...if anything good comes from that then it's done by PM :twisted:

29 Jan 2010

Quote by Kaznkev
cos most ppl in the forum dont meet and are more interested in slagging off those who do than anything else
start a thread on fisting/bdsm/ oral/watersports /favourite kinks/porn/toys/turn ons/breathe play/fantasies/anything really and people will move away,allow them to take the piss and avoid sex and they will run in like rubberneckers at a carcrash.
on other sites im a member off the sex threads are the most discussed,and the examples above are all threads i have commented on.

I really do not know where you get your information from but....I have been on the forums for a while ( some would say too long wink

)and we meet, and we have met many other people from the forum over the years.
I think you may be getting a tad confused with the members of this site and the members who use the forums.
We find it difficult to meet people on here and we are not alone.
This arguement has been done many times about members not meeting, and I believe that the majority on here are purely for the chat, or use it to have a wank. lol

The people that we know who DO meet say exactly the same thing as us.
But to imply that nobody meets from the forums, or the ones that use the forums a lot do not meet, is completely inaccurate.

29 Jan 2010

Quote by Kaznkev
ok varca im in a mood,it happens rarely lol
your right, i had my best meet ever with a forumite
I just think there is an overiding preponderance of ppl who avoid sex here, id love to see some of the intelligent folk here comment on some of the issues i mentioned,but the folf who leap in and dominate the forum just arent interested imo

It's ok to be moody Kaz smile

I know it can be frustrating when you start what you think is an interesting thread and it then gets hijacked and goes completely off topic arrgh! I am not innocent myself and am guilty of hijacking threads surprised

ops: Is just the nature of the forum sometimes and is rarely malicious or deliberate attack and more about human nature and an irrisistable urge for quipping in methinks :). There is though, a difference between innocent hijacking and deliberate sabotage of threads, not that I am saying that that happens here at all of course! That would be against the AUP of course and one would hope would be dealt with accordingly, given that the AUP is very clear with no room for artistic license at all :)
Ohh and throwing discretion to the wind lol, what do I have to bribe you with to find out which forumite you had your best meet with?? lol :P
Oh varca, i think naked pics to my pm box would allow me to discretly tell you ,girl to girl :twisted:
Bout the rest of wat i posted , paraphase it like this
"waaa karen spat her dummy out,annoyed by one particular person who gets her back up waa waa waa" lol

A dummy? You pervert, lol...
But I think lost is very close to the mark....

29 Jan 2010

Quote by Lost

I'd like to get chilled coffee in a jug and with a fem i'm keen on ask her to lie on back on a chair with her legs as far back to her chest as she possible can and then with a small funnel placed gently into her pussy i'd like to tip chilled coffee into her and once full then i'd like to lie beveath her as th she puts her legs down and leans forward so tipping the cooled coffee straight from her pussy into my mouth. Now thats fantasy!!

De-caf o.k.?

29 Jan 2010

Quote by varca
.....Why do you think sexually related forum threads nearly always die a death on here? Considering that we are supposed to be an openminded, liberated and uninhibited community of sexual beings, I am curious to know why is it, that, whenever someone posts any kind of sexually related thread on here, that it very often gets very little response? Conversely and curiously, non sexual threads will positively teem with responses.

I've been pondering this... (well I did once I got over Kaz's comment!) but for me personally, I think there's a few reasons that are perhaps apt for the regular forumites also.
The first for me, being that I've been here a while now and I've written essays on stuff when it's come up before so sometimes I just can't be bothered writing it again.
The second is probably a lot to do with privacy. I'm not sure I want everyone knowing everything about me any more. I've been an open book for quite some time and there are those who store up the stuff you let out on the forums, there are those who've left me with a bad taste and I don't want them reading stuff about me and there are those who I'm just not all that interested in sharing my personal stuff with.
And just for the record... I don't avoid sex all the time! :giggle:

29 Jan 2010

For the record - I rarely post in any sex related thread as I'm an extremely private person. Plus my kids read the bluddy forums rolleyes

29 Jan 2010

I think it may have to do with privacy.

29 Jan 2010

OMG...
What is it with all the sex talk round here dunno

You lot obsessed or some thing?

29 Jan 2010

Quote by noladreams
I think it may have to do with privacy.

It is for me :thumbup:
I never feel the need to explain if I am a poster or a player either which often comes up on the forum dunno

30 Jan 2010

Most times I don't post in a sexual contest. I think it's because when I come on here I'm feeling social, fancy a giggle, wanna natter and get to know forumites. I just don't feel horny enough to partake in a sexual thread.
That said, I have been a part of sexual thread, but more for info. I remember Darkfire really helping me out in a Fantasy thread. Dunno where it is now lol, but I found it a cracking thread that helped sort my mindset on the subject.
Now and again tho, someone will post something that I find totally horny! Out of the blue it turns me from social forumite, into sign off quickly and take myself upstairs to, errrr, ....... um, expand on what was written, into a raving want it now, gimme sex gimme gimme gimme! :twisted:
This just blew my mind the other day

Quote by Lost

I'll let you know my really pervy fantasy if you'd like if not dont read on...

I'd like to get chilled coffee in a jug and with a fem i'm keen on ask her to lie on back on a chair with her legs as far back to her chest as she possible can and then with a small funnel placed gently into her pussy i'd like to tip chilled coffee into her and once full then i'd like to lie beveath her as th she puts her legs down and leans forward so tipping the cooled coffee straight from her pussy into my mouth. Now thats fantasy!!

With a guy I'm keen on, as I leant forward tipping expresso straight from my pussy into his mouth, I start to lower myself down, straddling his mouth, at the same time drizzling sticky sweet syrupy liquid over his cock. Once my knees touch the ground my pussy directly over his mouth, put my mouth straight to him, no teasing, no licking round, straight over his cock and suck the gooey syrupy sweet stuff off, tongue making sure I'm getting every last drop. Staying there, sucking, feeling his tongue on and inside me, all round his mouth a mixture of coffee and my juices. Syrup and precum mixing in and around my mouth ..... eeek I need to go back upstairs!

30 Jan 2010

That's the thread Varca, just re-read it again, thank you kiss

30 Jan 2010

That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

30 Jan 2010

Quote by Witchy
That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

Remember it being quite intense at the time, a kind of learning curve for me

30 Jan 2010

Quote by Missy
That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

Remember it being quite intense at the time, a kind of learning curve for me
Exactamundo- and it didn't descend into a bitch fight either, despite the emotive subject.

30 Jan 2010

Quote by Witchy
That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

30 Jan 2010

Quote by anais
That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

Remember it being quite intense at the time, a kind of learning curve for me
Exactamundo- and it didn't descend into a bitch fight either, despite the emotive subject.
The thread was cleaned up so you don't see it.
There has been some excellent sexually related threads over the years.
I remember it at the time- including the cleaned up bits- and whilst it teetered on the edge of a barney, IMO it never quite fell in. What I remember most was the frank, adult discussion, and the open mindedness which prevailed.

30 Jan 2010

I comment on exactly what I mean to comment on............... rolleyes

30 Jan 2010

Quote by varca
I comment on exactly what I mean to comment on...............

We want you don't we? :roll:
:giggle:
some get lucky some don't..............:mrgreen:

31 Jan 2010

Quote by markz
I comment on exactly what I mean to comment on...............

Oi where you been ............ I have been waiting a whole week to say that and roll my eyes :roll:

31 Jan 2010

Quote by Missy
That stands out in my memory as being one of the best threads I've ever read on here. :thumbup:

Remember it being quite intense at the time, a kind of learning curve for me
The Missy goes dogging thread did it for me lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

31 Jan 2010

Quote by Missy
]With a guy I'm keen on, as I leant forward tipping expresso straight from my pussy into his mouth, I start to lower myself down, straddling his mouth, at the same time drizzling sticky sweet syrupy liquid over his cock. Once my knees touch the ground my pussy directly over his mouth, put my mouth straight to him, no teasing, no licking round, straight over his cock and suck the gooey syrupy sweet stuff off, tongue making sure I'm getting every last drop. Staying there, sucking, feeling his tongue on and inside me, all round his mouth a mixture of coffee and my juices. Syrup and precum mixing in and around my mouth ..... eeek I need to go back upstairs!

Holy sh*t!
Pure pure pure horn

31 Jan 2010

Quote by corrie2010
I comment on exactly what I mean to comment on...............

Oi where you been ............ I have been waiting a whole week to say that and roll my eyes :roll:
Some wait a lifetime.....................:roll:

1 Feb 2010

Hmmm. Having just re-read this thread before posting, I do think that Lost and Splendid are pretty much spot on, loosely summarised as: You may not want everyone to know all your darkest desires and most obscure proclivities in case it puts them off wanting to meet you even for a straight forward shag.
KaznKev also mentions the friendliness of the Forum. There are people we have met on here who we have never 'played' with but they have become some of our very closest friends. That's wonderful, but I do sometimes think "ohhh, I am not sure what so-and-so would think of that." Frankly, I should have more faith in them as true friends (especially if we met through a forum such as this) wouldn't be so fickle.
Personally, I hadn't noticed that sexually related threads died particularly quickly. I look at threads whose topics interest me - and I am certainly not put off by overtly sexual ones. I try to avoid posting if I am not adding anything new - unless I particularly want my opinion on the topic to be known because I think it will help people understand me better. I never think badly of someone if they're into something that I am not. Sometimes I can get quite turned on, other times I think "Hmm, interesting but I don't think it's for me." I do suspect that SOME are more judgemental.
Lastly, I do think that one of the strengths of this forum has always been that it is not ONLY sexually related. Over the years there have been some great threads - some about sex and many that were not at all.
Will
PS Sometimes, it only takes a slight alteration for a fantasy to change from mildly interesting to really hot. As an example, I read Lost's fantasy and thought - "OK, that's cool, but I am not sure that's me." Then I read Missy's take on it and thought "Phwoaaarrr. Hell yes!". Mind you I think I would replace the coffee with Champagne.