I have a question for all the lovely people on here. Why did you want to be a swinger? And why do you still want to swing? I am interested in what makes us all want to go and have sex with strangers.
To answer my own question :-
To start with for us it was that Charlotte wasn't happy with the amount of sex we were having so we discussed it and arranged to have a MFM threesome and see how things went. That experience opened us up to a lot of new things as a couple and we haven't looked back since.
As far as now goes it is almost like a hobby, we spend our time reading emails, chatting on messenger and in chat rooms and planning future parties and meetings. Rather than going out to the cinema on a free night we arrange to meet someone for sex. As far as why we do it I suppose it is the variety and anticipation, we can have sex with each other when ever we want but we have to plan and arrange a meeting other people. I think for us this is part of the fun.
So how about the rest of you? Why do you arrange to meet people for sex rather than just going down to the pub for a chat?
I don`t want to have sex with strangers, I just want to have sex with other people...........and be able to share this with Mars :P
Venusxxx
Mmm..... I'm recently single too (about 2 months now), after a very long term relationship. I enjoy sex and love meeting new people. It's the friendship side of things too. I don't have a hang up about having sex with my friends, I think it can add another dimension, so long as they feel the same way.
I guess it's something too, about meeting like-minded, liberated people who must have a certain amount of sense of humour about them to be here! I'm sure there's heaps more to say, but won't waffle on.......
I do have to confess that I am primarity here for the social aspect - as I suspect many others are.
I do however love to flirt and I have made many lovely friends - some of whom I have met..
As for the sexual side, so far still a novice. I do not expect that to change dramatically in the near future. But if it did, it would be with friends, not strangers.
The thought of no commitment relationships or casual sex (whether they remain fantasy or are realised) does provide a well needed excitement which adds to day to day life and detracts from life's problems.
Bigs hugs, Alex x x
fuck buddys mmmm i had one and it was brill
read it in the paper were all at it dont you know millions of brits hideing behind thier curtain s bonking
if it makes you happy do it but when it makes you feel bad get out
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If you hide behind the curtains... doesn't that mean the people in the street can see what you're doing? :confused:
I'm just here for a laugh; I don't want to be a swinger and in all honesty I never have. I shake my head sometimes to remember that I spent over a year of my life posting adverts, answering literally hundreds of adverts, sitting in chatrooms, arranging meets (v. occaisionally) and washing myself all in the vain hope of obtaining something I didn't want anyway.
Thank you everyone for the excellent responses, it is very interesting to see why other people do what they do and how it compares to our experiences.
By the way when I said "Stranger" I did not mean anonymous one-night stands, I meant people who you would not meet or chat with if you were not a swinger. We have met a number of people through swinging who are becoming very good friends. Friendship for us is an important part of swinging as well.
Whilst I've had a few partners prior to meeting DH hasn't, and he often asked me about it.
We explored a lot sexually and both felt that we could separate love and sex. We wanted to make friends and as we're both flirty and sexually charged people, we wanted to meet others who weren't necessarily offended by us.
It also means that whilst we have fantasies that we couldn't or wouldn't necessarily carry out with one another, we can and the other can watch and gain pleasure that way.
It's taken us a while to get organised (we have young children) and now are ready to start swinging officially, instead of it being a thing we discussed.
Calista
I want to have sex with strangers cos it makes me horny.
I could give you a deeper and more theoretical explanation, but why should I bother when the above sentence sums it up perfectly.
I just want sex, my way and at a time that is convenient to me. If anyone that meet and I like who wants to see more of me then it can be arranged.
A site like this offers more than just sex, if offers friendship, you can talk to people about that you would not discuses on other sites.
As for sex with a stranger, how many people get dressed up for the evening, go out clubbing and end up in bed with a stranger?
Doing it that way is the so called normal thing.
TS
Well, Daz has always been interested in it all, i was innocent till i got with him!
Anyway, he'd always thought i was bi but i denied it for months and months until my friend jumped on me and seduced me after a night out! (ok, it was both of us but thats not the point!!)
As it happened, i really enjoyed it, admitted i was bi, and a couple of weeks later, daz broached the subject of swinging talked about it really seriously and in depth for about 2 hours, i had a think about it, went on Google, and here we are!!
I dont regret for 1 second anything we've done, the meets we've had have been great experiences and we've made loads of friends along the way.
Swinging for us is more about finding friends who understand what we do and why, and this is the best place to do it!!
for me its a lot about being able to lay your cards on the table and say EXACTLY what u want.. without being looked at like you have 2 heads!
i LOVE recreational sex, but equally as important .. i love making friendships with people who REALLY understand what i am about.
This link provides an interesting and in my view fairly accurate analysis.
Interestingly it suggests that men are usually the instigators of a couple entering the swinging world but then the woman usually wants to stay in it when the man doesn't.
It also suggests that women with a high sexual drive are attracted to the scene. Based on the theory that a bloke will shag anything that is why it is like bees around a honeypot around here.
Be nice to put the theory to test!
Sorry this is an old post to reply to but I'm a newbie whose been trawling the forum and I've found something interesting.
Has anyone out there never discussed the prospect of swinging with their partner and then brought the subject up out of the blue with them?
If so, how did it go down? Well or not well at all?
Also, was anyone considering swinging but thought their partner wouldn't want to know so didn't say anything about it until their partner brought the idea up?
At first we joked about it as Neal's parents had been swingers some years ago, but at first i wasnt interested. Then over a time the more i thought about it the more it interested me, and i became attracted to other females too so i spoke to N about it. Like many others we are in a loving relationship and we dont want that to change, we began to try new things out and it was a natural progression to do this, although we dont want just sex with strangers we like to chat and be friends first. We have young kids and its not always easy explaining why you need a sitter but the excitment is there when things do happen as its something/someone new.
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Found out !!!! 
