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BTW is my photo viewable in my profile, I dont want it to be.
YES... Better change the age back to 108 now.
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why dont women reply back to me?
I'm lucky because I'm female? If I get 100 pm's and none of them have taken the time to read my profile then I may as well have had none. I get inundated with whispers in the chat room, all of them run a mile if I suggest actually meeting, I go in as a couple and sometimes even go in as asingle mail for some peace and quite (I know that's naughty and I don't do it often). I hate the them and us attitude. I like talking to people, getting to know people, which is very difficult when all they want is to be able to add a sbf knotch to thier collection.
H.x
Didnt mean to sound horrible, what I am saying the market is mainly for females or couples then males, so therefore females and couples have more chance of meets.
Quote by m1970
Didnt mean to sound horrible, what I am saying the market is mainly for females or couples then males, so therefore females and couples have more chance of meets.
the 'market' is for anyone, and as in every 'market' some stand a better chance than others, some work harder at it, some end up 'forced out' by market pressures
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Didnt mean to sound horrible, what I am saying the market is mainly for females or couples then males, so therefore females and couples have more chance of meets.
Exactly right...
I have not had the best sucsess rate here but some other single guys I could mention do very well thankyou very much
Its all about how you portray yourself and how you conduct yourself I reckon..
Stick with it and only time will tell.......Its not instant sucsess thats for sure.
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Can still see your pic! :shock: and so can everybody else, thought you wanted it hidden :doh:
i don't understand.....why would he want to hide his pic......isn't that your selling point?
Maybe because he's married, his wife might come on to here too and see it
bet she'll have more success!
Quote by m1970
We all get them. They're enfuriating and make you wonder why you bother. But not eberyone is like that.
H.x
I know that not everyone is like that, and probably 99% of people on these forums are genuine.
Your lucky cos you are a female and they seem to be the sought after, you can be picky and choosy.
Ive dont get alot of response TBH, probably cos of me being 108 and being married, timewasters, Ive sent emails got a reply, when replying back, never hear of them again, goes from last online 5hours to never coming on the website again.
BTW is my photo viewable in my profile, I dont want it to be.
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
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must admit, seems to be alot of timwasters on here from my area, i suppose there are good members but not many, everytime i do a search the ads have been dorment for like 25 weeks etc
the search facility would be better if it searched by last visted, might have a slight glimmer of hope.
we should have an ebay style rating on here too, i know the site owners have plenty of time
Was going to say something really meaningful but it's all been said before lol and to be honest I find your attitude very tiresome, sorry but I do. There is a reason why ladies are not responding to you aside from the reasons I mentioned in my post previously and only you can address that, maybe it is because you are married, maybe your ad is awful, maybe you spam people, I don't know?
There are guys on here who do very well, they socialise in here or the chatrooms, and don't just sit trawling through the ads. They have ads that are interesting and informative, take care over how they respond ie they tailor their response personally to the lady in question and yes as mentioned above, they take care with grammar, spelling etc, it all helps!! :) They go the extra "mile" shall we say. I'd better shut up now before I say something I really shouldn't :gagged: Now this lady has a point, I can appreciate the problem of a dyslexic keyboard particularly after a few beers in the chatroom or forum no problem but if you are making first contact with someone are they going to be overly impressed with an reply featuring the spelling and grammar of a 5 year old or "txt spk"? I apologise if anyone who might be dyslexic or has trouble spelling is offended but there are online spell checkers that can help to get over this. Also before anyone flames me I must state this is just my opinion, and that if you want to make an impression rather than spam for hopes of a 1 in 100 chance reply, then surely you might take time about writing a reply?
Quote by PoloLady
Why don't women reply?
Ignore all the nicey-nicey bollox about numbers, being patient, blar blar blar. There is only one answer and the truth of the matter is staring you in the face...
The ones you sent messages to didn't want to shag you!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:After reading the new posts I was formulating a reply in my head, when I just read this very to the point, spot on and classic Polo comment.
I don't think I'll bother.
Quote by PoloLady
Why don't women reply?
Ignore all the nicey-nicey bollox about numbers, being patient, blar blar blar. There is only one answer and the truth of the matter is staring you in the face...
The ones you sent messages to didn't want to shag you!
Damn i knew there was a simple answer
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Most ad's you've replied to are prob guys pretending to be female (Fk knows why they do it)
And you know they are female because?
because they are not on here during shop opening hours
Markz.... I'm as gobby as they come but even I don't know what to say to that. :lol2: :lol2:
Quote by PoloLady
Why don't women reply?
Ignore all the nicey-nicey bollox about numbers, being patient, blar blar blar. There is only one answer and the truth of the matter is staring you in the face...
The ones you sent messages to didn't want to shag you!
yes your right, although i havent contacted many as the married part puts them off, plus members havent been online for numbers of weeks.
I might change my ad to single
, just kidding Genius reply Polo....
Remember though, it may not just be the married bit that puts them off but the fact that you could *possibly* come across as someone who thinks that joining a site like this guarantees you a 'right' to get laid.....
It's not an escort agency, its a swinging site and as such we all reserve the right to be picky
getting involved like this and not just expecting sex the moment you get on here may help your cause
Remember though, it may not just be the married bit that puts them off but the fact that you could *possibly* come across as someone who thinks that joining a site like this guarantees you a 'right' to get laid.....
It's not an escort agency, its a swinging site and as such we all reserve the right to be picky
getting involved like this and not just expecting sex the moment you get on here may help your cause
Sex God
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Was going to say something really meaningful but it's all been said before lol and to be honest I find your attitude very tiresome, sorry but I do. There is a reason why ladies are not responding to you aside from the reasons I mentioned in my post previously and only you can address that, maybe it is because you are married, maybe your ad is awful, maybe you spam people, I don't know?
Excellent post :D
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.... There are guys on here who do very well, they socialise in here or the chatrooms, and don't just sit trawling through the ads. They have ads that are interesting and informative, take care over how they respond ie they tailor their response personally to the lady in question and yes as mentioned above, they take care with grammar, spelling etc, it all helps!!
So it is nothing to do with women thinking the guy is fit then
So it is nothing to do with women thinking the guy is fit then
:roll: :roll: :roll: Totally agree Polo - don't know why people have such a problem admitting that they don't want to fuck someone that they dont find attractive!
Lets all be honest here - it comes down to whether someone floats your boat physically or not most of the time - we're not here to make nicey nicey or find 'soulmates' or somesuch, we're here to get laid with people we find hot. It (generally speaking) really *is* that simple...
We'd much rather have an illiterate Hiedi Klum lookalike than a ugly bird who was 'nice' and who could write nice messages on here, but maybe we're freaks?! Lol
Peace and love to all
Sex God
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Lets all be honest here - it comes down to whether someone floats your boat physically or not most of the time - we're not here to make nicey nicey or find 'soulmates' or somesuch, we're here to get laid with people we find hot. It (generally speaking) really *is* that simple...
We'd much rather have an illiterate Hiedi Klum lookalike than a ugly bird who was 'nice' and who could write nice messages on here, but maybe we're freaks?! Lol
Different people come here looking for different things. Don't include everyone when you're stating what youwant.
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Genius reply Polo....
Remember though, it may not just be the married bit that puts them off but the fact that you could *possibly* come across as someone who thinks that joining a site like this guarantees you a 'right' to get laid.....
It's not an escort agency, its a swinging site and as such we all reserve the right to be picky
getting involved like this and not just expecting sex the moment you get on here may help your cause
i am hoping to get laid, old age will get to me first though :cry:
i am confused though, i thought people advertised on here to get laid.
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Genius reply Polo....
Remember though, it may not just be the married bit that puts them off but the fact that you could *possibly* come across as someone who thinks that joining a site like this guarantees you a 'right' to get laid.....
It's not an escort agency, its a swinging site and as such we all reserve the right to be picky
getting involved like this and not just expecting sex the moment you get on here may help your cause
i am hoping to get laid, old age will get to me first though :cry:
i am confused though, i thought people advertised on here to get laid.
If I just wanted to 'get laid' I'd go out on the pull to a pub/club/etc.
Having read throught this little post in its origional form i thought "oh here we go a newbie having a whinge, everybody is going to tear him to bits etc etc" and then reading through some of the replies, i must admit to the origional poster that much of what has been said is true.
If you think of the amount of singlre fems using the site and the huge mass of correspondance they get, your chances are at best very slim!! Like others have said the old adage goes "what you put into the site you wil get out" and even this isn't guaranteed.
We are a young swinging copuple and i (ste) am fortunate to have a very attractive lady partner who is keen and interested in the swinging scene too. When we started on the site we thought we would have people queueing at the proverbial door to want meets ups with us! WRONG! It wasn't untill we settled in, got the true jist of the place and started regularly(ish) posting on the forums that we had responses and made a few friends and aquaintances who we eventually met and swung with!
We have only started using the site again recently after an abscence of a few months and we dont expect to be meeting people again straight away, give it a bit of time, patience and stop trying to use the site as a quick shag fix (which it isn't believe us), and contribute and maybe you will get what your after, unless your a complete freak, intellectually inferior or a quick shag merchant whom most of the established members can see from a country mile away, onlytime will tell.....
If you think of the amount of singlre fems using the site and the huge mass of correspondance they get, your chances are at best very slim!! Like others have said the old adage goes "what you put into the site you wil get out" and even this isn't guaranteed.
We are a young swinging copuple and i (ste) am fortunate to have a very attractive lady partner who is keen and interested in the swinging scene too. When we started on the site we thought we would have people queueing at the proverbial door to want meets ups with us! WRONG! It wasn't untill we settled in, got the true jist of the place and started regularly(ish) posting on the forums that we had responses and made a few friends and aquaintances who we eventually met and swung with!
We have only started using the site again recently after an abscence of a few months and we dont expect to be meeting people again straight away, give it a bit of time, patience and stop trying to use the site as a quick shag fix (which it isn't believe us), and contribute and maybe you will get what your after, unless your a complete freak, intellectually inferior or a quick shag merchant whom most of the established members can see from a country mile away, onlytime will tell.....
Quote by m1970
Genius reply Polo....
Remember though, it may not just be the married bit that puts them off but the fact that you could *possibly* come across as someone who thinks that joining a site like this guarantees you a 'right' to get laid.....
It's not an escort agency, its a swinging site and as such we all reserve the right to be picky
getting involved like this and not just expecting sex the moment you get on here may help your cause
i am hoping to get laid, old age will get to me first though :cry:
i am confused though, i thought people advertised on here to get laid.
you talk about "hoping to get laid".....but can't you get that at home.....think of the people who don't even have that.....
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We have only started using the site again recently after an abscence of a few months and we dont expect to be meeting people again straight away, give it a bit of time, patience and stop trying to use the site as a quick shag fix (which it isn't believe us) , and contribute and maybe you will get what your after, unless your a complete freak, intellectually inferior or a quick shag merchant whom most of the established members can see from a country mile away, onlytime will tell.....
I think you'll find it is the forum that isn't a 'quick shag fix' (at least not openly anyway) and the rest of the site happens to be quite good for getting an instant leg-over
Actually I am in a mood and so feeling pretty tired of some of this bollox - yes I said it - bollox!
Get yourself known...
Join in...
Be patient...
I have heard this same bollox year in year out. OK there are some who like to take some time to get to know people, however, there are some that just like to say that in type and do something completely different in reality.
I can recall twice taking guys along to a munch and a club meet/social type thingy. Both guys pretty much unknown (probably 10 posts between them and they were posted in LMU) but both guys were 'fit'.
Now what is that old saying that sums up what happened when they were left to wonder at these events - oh yes, I know what saying it is I am thinking of.....
"flies around shit"
At the munch the guy was getting offered back to hotel rooms, to after parties, to peoples homes, phone numbers, shags in the toilets and all anyone new about him was his name.
At the club meet social thingy the guy was getting one offer after another.
Now each and every woman that (flung might be too strong a word) made them selves available to these guys has at some point or another on this very forum spouted the same bollox that is appearing in this thread.
The conclusion of these two events:
If you are a good looking, fit, nice enough guy - it is layed out on a plate for you.
If not then the advice on this thread may/many not work - depending on what else is on offer at the time and how long you stick around for.
It's all a question of benchmarking.
Get yourself known...
Join in...
Be patient...
I have heard this same bollox year in year out. OK there are some who like to take some time to get to know people, however, there are some that just like to say that in type and do something completely different in reality.
I can recall twice taking guys along to a munch and a club meet/social type thingy. Both guys pretty much unknown (probably 10 posts between them and they were posted in LMU) but both guys were 'fit'.
Now what is that old saying that sums up what happened when they were left to wonder at these events - oh yes, I know what saying it is I am thinking of.....
"flies around shit"
At the munch the guy was getting offered back to hotel rooms, to after parties, to peoples homes, phone numbers, shags in the toilets and all anyone new about him was his name.
At the club meet social thingy the guy was getting one offer after another.
Now each and every woman that (flung might be too strong a word) made them selves available to these guys has at some point or another on this very forum spouted the same bollox that is appearing in this thread.
The conclusion of these two events:
If you are a good looking, fit, nice enough guy - it is layed out on a plate for you.
If not then the advice on this thread may/many not work - depending on what else is on offer at the time and how long you stick around for.
It's all a question of benchmarking.
Quote by PoloLady
I can recall twice taking guys along to a munch and a club meet/social type thingy. Both guys pretty much unknown (probably 10 posts between them and they were posted in LMU) but both guys were 'fit'.
But do you think they could be more 'shaggable' by association? You took them to the club, therefore some people may have assumed that they guys were 'ok' or known?
Did the guys have to make any effort with you before you took them to the club or did you just see their picture and think they were fit? Or did you already know them?
Of course I don't know any of the answers but they were the questions that popped into my mind and hope you don't mind me asking?
