QUESTION....
Why do couples talk the talk but when it comes down to it never reply after you have taken the time to send them a very long nice email and extra personal pics that aint on the site? only want to find honest couple or female..... DEBS XXX
Debs i do understand your frustrations.
but ive seen for years now couples complaining about not getting a bi fem to join them yet how many bi fem profiles do you see? loads.
and its the same for couples who want to meet a single guy. they will arrange it for one or the other to bail out and vanish near time of meet. yet how many single guys do you see wanting to meet a couple? loads.
only thing i can say is hang in there and stay calm. can take a while to find the right people.
good luck.
patrick.
Hi there Debs
State norm am afraid people making arrangements then breaking them so easy because they don't know you and may never see or meet so they don't give a xxxx
It should be so easy all these adverts and people looking but when it gets near the time there are some, for no reason just dont show.I have been on various sites over the years and I have noticed a few people stay on site a while and are actively looking because you see their adverts regularly updates and others come and go for no reason.
Its pot luck am afraid and don't think it will get any better
Dxxxx
Hi there Debs
I guess its how your approach the whole scene, personally we much prefer to chat to people either via mail or chatting in the chatrooms with people, we find it gives people a chance to get to know you and your personality to see if there is compatibility first n foremost before you even get to second base so to speak, its very easy for people to sit at a computer and be a keyboard warrior and sending emails to people you have never even spoken to, which are generally ignored IMHO, but as you say when it comes to the crunch people do back out, and get cold feet etc, which I can imagine is so frustrating. Some people prefer the fuck and go and not wanting anything more which is down to the individuals, but we have found that chatting is a massive part of the trust that comes with swinging and building a rapport before any meet, hence then when you do meet, its not quite so drastic and nerve racking etc, and peeps are less likely to back out, this is what we have found and seems to have worked so far.
I have observed from your profile, that you come as a "3some" ie 3 of you which may put some people off or be reluctant, but it obviously doesnt after reading your profile and the fact that you have had some fab meets.
Tis all mind boggling at times, but stick with it guys, xxxxxx
Hi everyone. Ive just read read the orginal concern. There is no question regarding actual people turning up for meets. But actually people not replying to messages. Especially long ones...
And i think that answers your question
Personally I rarely reply to any messages Long or short like Rhea and tyracer, both of whom ive met ;0) I prefer real life interaction so chatrooms and socials and clubs a good start to windle the wood from trees .
I also would completely ignore a massive full page message with photos attached....especially if no pre contact has been made , I personally find it way to over whelming , unnessary.
Try to keep them short sweet and funny
Ps apologises for typos. Tired on the ipad xx
it's the way of swinging, i think people start to make contact then stop for what ever reason.
This is funny for me to read because I assumed it was just single guys like me that would be having to play the long game. I guess there are just different crowds within each site; set up your own chatroom/playroom and pull people in to you I guess? Then you can pick and chose someone after you get to know them. Plenty of people will interact with a couple online and some of them will be willing to meet up off it.
It's not hard to find couples who wish to meet..... well it might be on here, but out in the real world they'll pick you up anywhere anytime.
I'm afraid I have had contact with quite a few 'couples' who seem to be blokes with some sexy photos of their wife or a woman up as if she is 'up for it' too. I so want to really meet and really share these lovely things that are possible between happily consenting people but it seems very hard to find on here, even for a lady looking as well then!
we have met a few lovely folk from here as well as been messed around by people who are not really serious.
i'm not sure what the ratio is between the 2 groups, but as has been mentioned above you can improve your chances by building a bit of a relationship via the chat-room/phone/webcam then move from there to a real life meet.
use your intuition and you will weed out the time wasters early on and avoid disappointment.
we all have busy lives so there will be the odd occasion when something unexpected comes up and you might have to cancel an arranged meet, but communication is the key here, let people know with as much notice as possible, and if you have been chatting for a while and at least gotten to know each other a bit then i am sure it wont be a problem.
Just send your missus online, she'll be swamped 8p. Pick out the guys that are in a couple and invite them for a pre-meet coffee/beer with nothing else on offer. If they turn up you have a quartet, if not you have a beer and a nice meal. Simple, in theory.
Because perhaps the % of people on here seeking real meets is actually very small.
1.5 million members is one thing, but a vast majority of them stopped logging in years ago.
A large proportion are only here to watch or exhibit on cams not to meet.
Some are just here to look at pictures.
Some are here seeking single females only
Some are here seeking single men only
Some are here seeking only couples.
The amount looking for an MMF trio are probably few and far between so you are in a small majority from the outset, we too are a trio albeit FFM or for daytimes meets we are an FFFM group, add to that our age differences 21, 30, 31 and me at a young 58.
It is no wonder it takes us a year to get one meet and we make it easy, we have our own playrooms including dungeon, massage room, 2 play/bedrooms (and more for overnight stays) a cupids couch room, sex swing, etc, we are available 24/7 and don't have kids.
We still love the site and make friends online but don't ever expect meets off here anymore, the odds against us finding compatible couples are just too great.
We do go to swingers clubs though.
