I'd just like to know why people click on sending a wink when they haven't even read your profile: there are certain types of a person I am looking for and some people either completely ignore my preferences OR they just don't bother reading at all. It should would save me a lot of time sifting through uneccessary messages and clicking ignore! frustrating! In fact I think I am going to turn off my winks!
Simple,
Block anyone you are not looking for, disable the winks, or simply just delete the messages. At the end of the day, they are just messages, no one is actually hurting you, and if it bothers you that much then perhaps you should rethink whether the internet is the place to explore this side of your sexuality.
You will get all sorts of attention, some welcome and some not. You can guarantee that the only person that will lose any sleep over it is you - so simply ignore the attention that you don't want and follow up that which you do.
Easy.
that is if I could work out how to turn the damn winks off! lol :sad:
It's male animal extincts. I'm male,don't agree with it, but understand it. Just ignore them lol
be flattered by all the attention.
sorry but this is an adult site and if you post images of yourself which will attract attention and then complain about wink and messages etc remove your pics.
i get a lot of winks from bi guys yet im straight but do not get angry or upset over it.
they are paying me a compliment in my view because i look after myself.
they are paying you a compliment because your an attractive women.
same as i would.
its nothing personal, just relax and delete.
and its not just guys who dont read profiles. i get messages from couples and there profiles states no single guys.
so clearly they are just as bad.
ok thanks everyone! I'm not moaning about the attention. Just would have hoped people could be bothered to read my profile and see that I clearly state that I only wish to meet men and only fit and well endowed, preferably 6 ft or over, between the ages of 18-40 (max possibly 45). So the ones who clearly are not any of those things I would hope would not bother? Don't get me wrong if someone ticks most boxes and not quite "all" of them then I can't complain for them giving it a try. Plus I didn't for one minute suggest that it's only the men on this website that do that: But in my personal experience there has been far fewer women to have contacted me (which is ok, I'm happy about that) as maybe they have bothered to read my profile properly. I'm sorry I just wanted a rant so I'm giving my soap box back now lol, rant over!
I agree with everyone else in as much as if you publicise yourself you will get attention, remove your photo's and I guarantee you will get far less.
Around 98% of the attention we get is from people that don't meet our profile. It gets a bit boring pressing delete all the time but thats just tough. of the 1.4 million accounts that have been registered on this site over the years almost 1 million of them are single male profiles. and out of that 1.4 million 50% are single males between 18 and 45. So it's easy to see that you are likely to get a lot of attention.
Why do you get attention from couples or women? who knows. We get it to, but press delete and ignore and you won't get further attention from them.
Why do you get attention from single males that dont fit your profile? because thay are chancing there luck. You stipulate what you are looking for on your profile, but you also indicate that those preferences can be changed (QUOTE: my preference is to meet guys of age 40 or younger. (I may consider a young looking early forties).) even in this thread you have said you are looking for guys up to 45.
So if I am 5'11 is it worth me trying? If I am 46 should I give it a go? If I can't be bothered to read your profile just the bit that says looking for a single male should I send a message? After all you might just like what you see. You see it's not all black and white. Perhaps a change of tack on your part might help speed things up for you. for example we state many times on our profile that first contact must include a face pic. So after we have deleted all the unwanted winks we zoom through all the messages deleting all the ones that don't have a face pic, we don't even bother to read them as they clearly didn't bother to read our profile in the first place.
you aren't the first and you won't be the last to moan on this subject. But as soon as you learn to press delete and ignore then you will notice a reduction in unwanted messages.
As a single male I get few enough mail so I have to admit that I even look at the profile of winkers (yes I did spell that right), even if I then subsequently delete and block.
Even those of us who receive limited mail/winks/contact get our share of interest from those who are not only unsuitable for what we want but clearly haven't read our profiles. These are the easy one's to deal with. Delete, block! I have in the past received a friend request from a couple who I would actually quite like to "get to know" better, but on reading their profile find that I don't fit what their profile says they want, at all. I guess that shows people will consider others not in their "job description" and hence why, on the other side of the coin, some chance their arm.
I can take the moral high ground and say that I have never sent a wink in all my years on SH. I usually only mail those where I definately fit their profile, but have also been known to chance my arm to a degree if the profile in question alludes to a bit of leeway and I am very close to what they want. My own profile is worded this way and I 'consider' all comers.
All that said I'm sure as a single female your problem is mulitiplied 100 fold on my own so I do see how it can become frustrating and annoying, but at the end of the day you have no obligation to reply or accept their advances. As has been said already, take it as a compliment and move on. Oh, and make sure you have fun when you do move on.
Ultimately you get out of a site like this what you put in. As long as you meet the people you like and have fun, that's the main thing. Most of those causing your 'issue' don't seem to put much in and therefore probably won't get much out of it. Their loss.
thanks guys! 
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