I have to say that I find this site very interesting there are some really lovely people on here and I am gradually getting to know a few, but what I donot understand is why do some have to lie about there situation, I am married but leading a seperate life its hard but circumstances prevent me from moving on ie ( having a parent living with me) but we get on with our lives as best we can. But why do some men have to say they are single when they arenot why lie, this doesnt bother me as I know the score but it does sadden me. What do you think???????
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Quote by sizzling
I have to say that I find this site very interesting there are some really lovely people on here and I am gradually getting to know a few, but what I donot understand is why do some have to lie about there
:P :shock: tion, I am married but leading a seperate life its hard but circumstances prevent me from moving on ie ( having a parent living with me) but we get on with our lives as best we can. But why do some men have to say they are single when they arenot why lie, this doesnt bother me as I know the score but it does sadden me. What do you think???????
Human beings are liars !!!
Did your parents really christen you sizzling then? :shock:
Most people on here exhibit artistic licence with the truth to one degree or other, for a huge variety of reasons. Some of these reasons are honorable and understandable, some fall outside our own perception of what is necessary.
Each to there own.
lhk
Kat
Most people on here exhibit artistic licence with the truth to one degree or other, for a huge variety of reasons. Some of these reasons are honorable and understandable, some fall outside our own perception of what is necessary.
Each to there own.
lhk
Kat
Have to agrre with isn't much point to lying as it always comes back to bite your @rse sooner or later.
Might be just me but the stress of having to remember what you lied about and what you haven't would take away the ,meets etc would be exercises of trying to get away with things which defeats the point of joining the site in the first place.
Might be just me but the stress of having to remember what you lied about and what you haven't would take away the ,meets etc would be exercises of trying to get away with things which defeats the point of joining the site in the first place.
Sex God
Do you lie to your husband? Does he know you frequent this site and meet with other men? 
Does your aging parent know about it too? No? So you lie also . . .
Lots of people lie for lots of different reasons. Maybe they are like you and trying to fit in some fun into their lives?
Maybe the guys who lie expect that you wouldn't want to meet with them if you know they are married? That's can't be true though, as of course that would be double standards on your part wouldn't it :roll:
Don't spend your time fretting about them. Move on. There are plenty more guys to chose from.
Perhaps next time you should ask them for a CV and proof of being single first although I fail to see a problem with them being married, since you are too :dry:
Tracy-Jayne
Does your aging parent know about it too? No? So you lie also . . .
Lots of people lie for lots of different reasons. Maybe they are like you and trying to fit in some fun into their lives?
Maybe the guys who lie expect that you wouldn't want to meet with them if you know they are married? That's can't be true though, as of course that would be double standards on your part wouldn't it :roll:
Don't spend your time fretting about them. Move on. There are plenty more guys to chose from.
Perhaps next time you should ask them for a CV and proof of being single first although I fail to see a problem with them being married, since you are too :dry:
Tracy-Jayne
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Do you lie to your husband? Does he know you frequent this site and meet with other men?
Does your aging parent know about it too? No? So you lie also . . .
Tracy-Jayne
Not quite sure the analogy is correct there T-J. Lying to someone deliberately and protecting your own privacy are two different things. My parents would be mortified if they discovered I was a swinger, additionally, they would look upon my girlfriends differently if they realised that this is how I met them. Why tell the truth about that if it serves no purpose. I can see where you are coming from though.
As for sizzling's situation, I also spent two years 'living apart' from my ex/w but still in the same house. I wasn't a swinger then but if I was I would have told people my situation so they can make up their own minds as to whether they wanted to swing with me or not.
Sex God
I can see everybodys points here in this posting...Yes we are all liars at some point... But at the same time... Why do people lie to others on this site???? We are all, at the end of the day here for the same reasons, arn't we???
May it be behind some1's back or with there consent.... were all looking for uncomplicated sex!!!
May it be behind some1's back or with there consent.... were all looking for uncomplicated sex!!!
for a start TJ I am married yes but we are leading seperate lives, one thing is for sure I donot throw it in his face, as we still both care for each other, but more as friends than partners, no my parent doesnt know, do yours do your children??????? somethings just need to be kept private, I am having fun and yes I have moved on I just cannot understand why lie, if your married say your married, it might put some off but hey thats life!!!!!
Sex God
Quote by sizzling
for a start TJ I am married yes but we are leading seperate lives, one thing is for sure I donot throw it in his face
So he doesn't know then . . . but have you lied about it, or merely concealed the truth? It's not the same thing. Whereas if you have actually lied about where you are going when you go out to meet these guys . . . .
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no my parent doesnt know, do yours do your children??????? somethings just need to be kept private,
Unless my parents are looking down from the clouds, then no, they don't know, but since that they are both dead, I don't suppose they much care either :dry:
As for the children, well they are all adults now and if they were to ask then yes we would tell them, but since they haven't asked they don't know. That's not lying. That's just not making them aware. Totally different things here.
I still fail to see why you have a problem with someone being married and lying about it. Surely if you're only after NSA sex, does it matter whether the guy has a wife at home or not?
Jon and I have had 3 sum's with several married men. It's not a problem to us, but then we are not looking for a replacement husband or long term swinging partner . . .
One thing is for sure. Married men will always join sites like this and try to get some extra sex in. Some will lie about their circumstances, other won't, but you are in for a rough ride if you get so *saddened* each time a guy tells you he is married.
Quote by sizzling
somethings just need to be kept private
As you say yourself, some things need to be kept private. Maybe these guys feel they *need* to keep the fact of their marriage secret for whatever reason.
After all they probably lie to their wives, so why do you feel you are any different and deserve the truth? Just because you have sex with them?
T-J
When a poster asks a question, looks through a string of replies, and chooses only the most contencious one and replies to that, the words 'spoiling for a fight' spring to mind,
It is now unlikely that this thread will generate any useful debate about the way people interpret honesty on this site, and will be used for nothing more than a bun fight.
So I am locking it.
Kat
It is now unlikely that this thread will generate any useful debate about the way people interpret honesty on this site, and will be used for nothing more than a bun fight.
So I am locking it.
Kat
