Why, oh why did i say I'd do this......

20 Nov 2004

O.M.G.... I can't believe we're doing this. We're going to cupids tonight, it's our 1st time ever in a club and we have only a vague idea of what to expect. It was a spur of the moment decision to go after reading a post in LMU but now we've decided to go we're not gonna bottle it(least not til we're on the carpark outside anyways confused

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Right at this moment in time I'm cackin' it. I'd rather be jumping out of an aeroplane than doing this as it seems less daunting...and Lisa....well she's just worried about what to wear, anyone would think she does this every week. It feels like a driving test, 1st date, new job, sky diving, etc all rolled into one and I don't mind admitting I'm just a little bit scared. I absolutely cannot wait for tomorrow cos at least then it'll be over and we'll either be ready to go again or all my fears will have been confirmed. Dunno if it's normal to feel this way cos I'm not usually the nervous type so if anyone has any words of comfort I'll be around the forum for the next couple of hours with my tension levels increasing rapidly.
Right, think it's time I headed over to the certification thread to get my badge cos I fookin need certifying for even thinkin' about doing this. bolt

20 Nov 2004

Quote by iain_nw
O.M.G.... I can't believe we're doing this. We're going to cupids tonight, it's our 1st time ever in a club and we have only a vague idea of what to expect. It was a spur of the moment decision to go after reading a post in LMU but now we've decided to go we're not gonna bottle it(least not til we're on the carpark outside anyways ).
Right at this moment in time I'm cackin' it. I'd rather be jumping out of an aeroplane than doing this as it seems less daunting...and Lisa....well she's just worried about what to wear, anyone would think she does this every week. It feels like a driving test, 1st date, new job, sky diving, etc all rolled into one and I don't mind admitting I'm just a little bit scared. I absolutely cannot wait for tomorrow cos at least then it'll be over and we'll either be ready to go again or all my fears will have been confirmed. Dunno if it's normal to feel this way cos I'm not usually the nervous type so if anyone has any words of comfort I'll be around the forum for the next couple of hours with my tension levels increasing rapidly.
Right, think it's time I headed over to the certification thread to get my badge cos I fookin need certifying for even thinkin' about doing this.

Iain,
Good on yer.
You know that wobbly, tingley, almost quivering feeling you have?
Take it to the club with you and have a blast!!!

20 Nov 2004

Wishing you both all the best. Cupids will probably be our first club so let us know how you get on.
Nerves?.....................
ask us after the Scottish Munch confused

20 Nov 2004

You'll be fine lol

. This won't help your nerves, but it's the advice on clubs from the Advice section:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swingers-clubs.html
Cupids was my first club too.......... memories eh! :lol:

20 Nov 2004

Iain, I'm sure it's perfectly normal to be as scared and nervous as you are now smile

My first visit to a club, I was fine when I was at home, the nerves were starting to kick in when we were on our way there, and by the time we got there I could hardly bring myself to get out of the car :shock: :shock:
After quite a bit of chatting with my partner, he eventually convinced me to open the car door, and once we were inside my nerves all but disappeared.
I think the best advice I can give you is to remember
1) Everyone has a first time,
2) Almost everyone will have been feeling exactly the same way you are on their first visit,
and (to me the most important factor)
3)Everyone is there for the same reason, therefore you will not be judged
Have a great night biggrin

20 Nov 2004

ive pm,d

20 Nov 2004

I'm the same, I'm going to Satin and Blues party next week and I am bricking it!!! It's only my second party, the first one was fantastic though so I definately want to do it again! I have found my nerves disappear once I start getting horny so anyone at the party next week, if I start looking flushed and scared, come and grope me pmsl!!!! lol

:lol:

20 Nov 2004

Thankyou all very muchly. I can type much better now my hands have stopped shaking. I guess i'm just feeling nervously excited now although I fully expect my earlier feelings to return when we're walking through the door of the club but....nothing ventured nothing gained. Just wish I'd bought that vibrating tongue stud i was looking at last week just in case.
Anyways, thanks for the advice, links and pm's, all much needed and very welcomed. I'll update this thread tomorrow and let ya know how it went.

20 Nov 2004

You better let us know for sure, I love a good sexy story wink

20 Nov 2004

Good Luck, and i hope you enjoy your night.....looking forward to your reply...... smile

21 Nov 2004

Come on then - how did it go????? The curiosity is aroused now smile

Did you get over the nerves at the door?
Did you enjoy it?
Are you now full of a new enthusiasm?

21 Nov 2004

IAIN,,WAKE UP,EVERYONE WANTS TO KNOW HOW IT WENT,,WAKEY WAKEY

21 Nov 2004

Blimey, what time does it stay open til? :shock:

21 Nov 2004

Any news yet????? confused

21 Nov 2004

now i know how expectant dads feel,pacing the waiting room,chain smoking,waiting for news,,,,, Iain and Lisa,,,,, WAKE UUUUUP!!!!

21 Nov 2004

i think they've stayed over and are back there again tonight !!! good luck if you are btw!!

21 Nov 2004

Shall we all go over there and have a look for them - get that SH bus out the SH fancies driving?I can't I've had three diet cokes - way over the limit! rolleyes

21 Nov 2004

i think a rescue truck may be in order.....i would drive, but i can't either....nothing to do with what i've drunk.....just my sheer incompetence on the road!! sad

21 Nov 2004

Quote by mellow
i think a rescue truck may be in order.....i would drive, but i can't either....nothing to do with what i've drunk.....just my sheer incompetence on the road!!

Well when it comes to it we could do with something like International (Swingers)Rescue
- Can I go in the big green one,thats Thunderbird 2 I seem to recall - yes thats the one!

21 Nov 2004

Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
Well when it comes to it we could do with something like International (Swingers)Rescue
- Can I go in the big green one,thats Thunderbird 2 I seem to recall - yes thats the one!

you certainly can....or you can ride with me and other invited guests in the back of the pink cadillac that parkers driving!!

21 Nov 2004

Quote by mellow

Well when it comes to it we could do with something like International (Swingers)Rescue
- Can I go in the big green one,thats Thunderbird 2 I seem to recall - yes thats the one!

you certainly can....or you can ride with me and other invited guests in the back of the pink cadillac that parkers driving!!
Yus m'lady! wink

21 Nov 2004

i knew you'd say that!!!! biggrin

21 Nov 2004

Quote by mellow
i knew you'd say that!!!!

Predictable?Moi m'lady?

21 Nov 2004

Sorry to keep you all in suspense. There's no easy way to say this so I'll get straight to the point...we bottled it. Got as far as a pub about half a mile from the place but after a drink and a chat we decided to go for a meal and talk things through. Seems we're both cowards and we need our hands holding whilst we get through the door so we're gonna spend this week trying to find a nice, understanding couple to come in with us.
Sorry we didn't have more to tell you but we aint giving up so am sure pretty soon we'll break our duck and get over the threshold. Tell ya what though we're feeling a bit sheepish now but it's better than the abject terror we felt last night, still, the meal was good so it wasn't a complete waste of time.

21 Nov 2004

Awwwww Mr n Mrs Iain :therethere:
But hey, never mind - if you're still keen then you will get round to it, and then you will wonder why you were so worried lol.
Remember you can go in, do absolutely nothing, just take a look around, soak up the atmosphere - just stay for an hour or so, if you don't like it you can always leave. You don't even have to venture further from the loungy bit, although once you're in there for a little while, the curiosity will get the better of you lol

It's easy to explain all that to you, but you really don't realise how relaxed these places are until you see for yourself. Good luck for the next time kiss

to you both.

21 Nov 2004

Oh forgot to say ....... the person up there remembers only too well her first venture into a club. Scared, I was absolutely terrified, had an upset stomach and everything the day before. By the time the day arrived, I was just numb, walked in the place like a rabbit caught in headlights :lol2:
But I was comfortable within about 10 mins of being there, so long as you remember that you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with - it's your evening, for you two to get what you want out of it cool

21 Nov 2004

Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one to feel like that Miss_chief! I will probably spend most of Saturday on the loo before Satins party! rolleyes

22 Nov 2004

Iain - you are not cowards - you were clearly nervous before - and it clearly was too big a hurdle for you no shame in that.
If - IF you try again then don't post it on here beforehand - you really can go to a place as Misschief said and just have a look around with no pressure to do anything YOU both don't wish to do.