Why do we have so many guys on here who want to chat and ask all the intimate details of your sex life then when it comes time to show real commitment ie send face pics disappear ? Are they all just sat at home masturbating and getting off talking dirty with no real intention to do anything. We chat to guys and try to be honest at all times and if the guy is not for us then we tell them, maybe causing slight offence but at least being honest in our preferences. Sorry rant over
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Why so many timewasters ?
Sex God
No answer to your question but I do know they spoil it for the genuine guys like myself...
Warming the Bed
Guess everyone is here for their own reasons. And everyones are not the same thats for sure.
There no doubt are lots who just want to jack off to any intimate details you're prepared to share and the photos on our profiles, clue is they often don't have anything on their own profile but yet are still happy to ask to see your private albums.
Like in most other aspects of life too, its wading through, being patient and you'll find what you're after. Even those single guys that are annoying you will come across someone who is more than willing, who wants to give them what they're after, its why they're persistent and why they're always still around.
My suggestion is if it doesn't feel right just move on. Theres someone for everyone here, no matter what you're after, just gotta find the right ones for you.
There no doubt are lots who just want to jack off to any intimate details you're prepared to share and the photos on our profiles, clue is they often don't have anything on their own profile but yet are still happy to ask to see your private albums.
Like in most other aspects of life too, its wading through, being patient and you'll find what you're after. Even those single guys that are annoying you will come across someone who is more than willing, who wants to give them what they're after, its why they're persistent and why they're always still around.
My suggestion is if it doesn't feel right just move on. Theres someone for everyone here, no matter what you're after, just gotta find the right ones for you.
Hi,
it's human nature, people are interested in what they want and not what you want, or in being fair and honest. If they want to be on here to look at photos, whisper and wank, they will justify it in their own minds that it's fair to be dishonest or lead you on, you've got to expect it.
We were very naive when we joined a few months back, but soon realised (with advice from some great members) that to prove that you are genuine:- get verified, have photos on your profile, get into chatrooms (sometimes on cam) -: you can soon fit in. Going to a social or two also helps :-)
If all they ever do is whisper with a blank profile with no photo's there's very little chance of being genuine so look at the profiles before you reply and weed out the majority of timewasters and the fake 'couples' too?
I honestly feel sorry for all the genuine single males out there as it is ruined for them by all the timewasters.
Cheers,
Neil
it's human nature, people are interested in what they want and not what you want, or in being fair and honest. If they want to be on here to look at photos, whisper and wank, they will justify it in their own minds that it's fair to be dishonest or lead you on, you've got to expect it.
We were very naive when we joined a few months back, but soon realised (with advice from some great members) that to prove that you are genuine:- get verified, have photos on your profile, get into chatrooms (sometimes on cam) -: you can soon fit in. Going to a social or two also helps :-)
If all they ever do is whisper with a blank profile with no photo's there's very little chance of being genuine so look at the profiles before you reply and weed out the majority of timewasters and the fake 'couples' too?
I honestly feel sorry for all the genuine single males out there as it is ruined for them by all the timewasters.
Cheers,
Neil
Sex God
The main problem with timewasters, I would imagine, is the wasted time. It must be disheartening for someone to put in the time and effort and be let down again and again. I appreciate that everyone is here for different reasons, and just having sexy chats and seeing people's pictures is as valid as anything - but it would be nice if they don't pretend that they're offering something else just to lure people in. Honesty is key in everything.
My suggestion is to spend time in chat and go to socials. The people who fit in and are accepted by others over the long term are probably going to be better chances than the messages out of the blue.
Sadly, whatever you do, it's going to require work, and will always come with a few disappointments. And even the most genuine have to let you down sometimes.
(says the single guy with almost nothing in his profile and shrep not switched on)
My suggestion is to spend time in chat and go to socials. The people who fit in and are accepted by others over the long term are probably going to be better chances than the messages out of the blue.
Sadly, whatever you do, it's going to require work, and will always come with a few disappointments. And even the most genuine have to let you down sometimes.
(says the single guy with almost nothing in his profile and shrep not switched on)
Orgasminator
Think it comes with the territory on here am afraid, all mouth and no trousers as I say lol, but saying that, there's ladies on here just the same, gives a bad name to us all xx
Sex God
Quote by hornygirlanhim
Why do we have so many guys on here who want to chat and ask all the intimate details of your sex life then when it comes time to show real commitment ie send face pics disappear ? Are they all just sat at home masturbating and getting off talking dirty with no real intention to do anything. We chat to guys and try to be honest at all times and if the guy is not for us then we tell them, maybe causing slight offence but at least being honest in our preferences. Sorry rant over
Women pretending to be men it's becoming a real problem in chat
Sex God
Quote by Lizaleanrob
Women pretending to be men it's becoming a real problem in chat
So on those rare occasions I put my camera on, all my watchers are really women? That makes me feel much better :-)
Warming the Bed
The biggest problem i find is they are attached, and don't have the wife's/girlfriends approval. so when it comes down to it they have to make excuses. as they are scared of getting caught. it is so simple to catch them out early doors. I ask for a phone number and say i will call when i want and at no given time. this always sorts them out, I even rang one who when he answered and i said who I was said to me in reply "Sorry i am not interested in double glazing" Obviously his wife/partner was with him. he even had the cheek to send me an apology and said he was in a meeting.
Lisa xx
Lisa xx
thing you will find is a lot of people talk a good fuck but dont have it in them.
and when they do turn up you may experience some of the most lame people ever to walk the earth as i have.
its a mix, you get highs and lows, good and bad. quality meets can take time arranging and i have some really lovely friends i meet and its always great.
i look at it as an investment. you put your money somewhere safe getting you interest not in some bum account with fuck all to gain.
sure ive had women on this site treat me like absolute shit on meets for no reason at all but they wont beat me or put me down because i truly know what they are all about.
so take your time, quality does take time to find. anyone can fuck, same as animals.
put yourself first and dont change for anyone. why should you?
when you get with the right people it is a great feeling and some of the parties ive held at my place in manchester and birmingham have been fantastic.
good luck to you.
and when they do turn up you may experience some of the most lame people ever to walk the earth as i have.
its a mix, you get highs and lows, good and bad. quality meets can take time arranging and i have some really lovely friends i meet and its always great.
i look at it as an investment. you put your money somewhere safe getting you interest not in some bum account with fuck all to gain.
sure ive had women on this site treat me like absolute shit on meets for no reason at all but they wont beat me or put me down because i truly know what they are all about.
so take your time, quality does take time to find. anyone can fuck, same as animals.
put yourself first and dont change for anyone. why should you?
when you get with the right people it is a great feeling and some of the parties ive held at my place in manchester and birmingham have been fantastic.
good luck to you.
I think we have all had moments where things haven't gone the way we planned - my answer to it is this little ditty - then move on and forget the experience and hunt someone out that really floats your boat ;) Even better wait for them to find you - the best things happen when you are least expecting them too ;)
Thanks for all your replies folks and some valid points made. We go to the socials when we can and always try and "Do the right thing" but it is frustrating when people try to manipulate situations to suit what ever it is they are getting out of pretending . Anyway like when you fall off a bike and get right back on we have got a meet with a guy tonight so will see if he turns up, if not its back to the drawing board again 
Warming the Bed
Good luck hope it turns out well
Forum Virgin
I have been called a time waster a couple of times and here is the reason.
I logged into the chatroom and within 30 seconds a private message pops up from a guy and it says " nice pics would you like to come and suck my cock?" When I have declined to just drop everything I am doing get into my car drive 250 miles and suck his cock he called me a time waster. Along with the fact that my profile has me down as straight and I had not even been chatting to him. Why do some guys think that just because you are looking through the chatrooms that you will be able to drop everything just to go and please them, then when you say no they think you are timewasting?
I logged into the chatroom and within 30 seconds a private message pops up from a guy and it says " nice pics would you like to come and suck my cock?" When I have declined to just drop everything I am doing get into my car drive 250 miles and suck his cock he called me a time waster. Along with the fact that my profile has me down as straight and I had not even been chatting to him. Why do some guys think that just because you are looking through the chatrooms that you will be able to drop everything just to go and please them, then when you say no they think you are timewasting?
Sex God
Quote by Lisafunfun
The biggest problem i find is they are attached, and don't have the wife's/girlfriends approval. so when it comes down to it they have to make excuses. as they are scared of getting caught. it is so simple to catch them out early doors. I ask for a phone number and say i will call when i want and at no given time. this always sorts them out, I even rang one who when he answered and i said who I was said to me in reply "Sorry i am not interested in double glazing" Obviously his wife/partner was with him. he even had the cheek to send me an apology and said he was in a meeting.
Lisa xx
And how do you know he wasn't in a meeting?
Sex God
Well I'm a single married man, and I only come ere to waste time 
gotta be better than bein' out in the real world havin' sleazy sex wi' other folks.
gotta be better than bein' out in the real world havin' sleazy sex wi' other folks. 