We are couple in 30/26. We fantasized and loved the idea of swinging.
We even went ahead to post advt here and got some decent replies but to the end wife pulled off saying it contradicts with religious beliefs. I am still very much interested and not sure. Did anybody else come accross similar situations and how did you resolve it.
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Wife is interested in swinging but resisting coz of religion
I have to agree with Andy on this subject....... your Wife has made her views perfectly plain. She obviously has some very deep-seated religious beliefs and it would be wrong of you to try to disuade of those.
Just accept it.... she doesn't want to swing.... and that is that...................
equi-princess xxx
Just accept it.... she doesn't want to swing.... and that is that...................
equi-princess xxx
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Thanks Andy and Equi, if i go solo swining while wife doesn't approve swining... i will be cheating. I am confused as i am having deep desire to get swining for years now.
Well thats for you to decide mate, my thoughts are, is a fantasy worth more then your marriage?
Like i say only you can decide that.
I suppose you could always suggest 'soft swing'.......... where you stick to your own partner but are with another couple in the same room..... although if it's a different partner you're after and your Wife still isn't interested in swinging...... then ... yes.... you would be cheating.... and as Andy said..... is the fantasy of swinging... which may not be as good in reality.... worth risking your marriage for??????????
Think about what you want and the fact that fantasy and reality are not always the same.........
equi-princess xxx
Think about what you want and the fact that fantasy and reality are not always the same.........
equi-princess xxx
Quote by an&naz
We are couple in 30/26. We fantasized and loved the idea of swinging.
We even went ahead to post advt here and got some decent replies but to the end wife pulled off saying it contradicts with religious beliefs. I am still very much interested and not sure. Did anybody else come accross similar situations and how did you resolve it.
well i have never had this problem cause i'm not religious lol
but saying that i have to agree it does sound like you wife has made her mind up, if it goes against her beliefs this week it will next week as well as religeon don't change over night
Sex God
Quote by an&naz
We are couple in 30/26. We fantasized and loved the idea of swinging.
We even went ahead to post advt here and got some decent replies but to the end wife pulled off saying it contradicts with religious beliefs. I am still very much interested and not sure. Did anybody else come accross similar situations and how did you resolve it.
Haven't been in a similar situation so can't help you there. If someone answers and they have, there will likely be three outcomes:
1. They didn't swing because they respected their wife's wishes.
2. They swing anyway and are cheats.
3. Their wife changed her mind and they now swing together.
I can't see any other scenarios, to be honest.
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Thanks Andy and Equi, if i go solo swining while wife doesn't approve swining... i will be cheating. I am confused as i am having deep desire to get swining for years now.
Does your wife know you have an ad in Men seeking Couples
If you haven't told her, then your looking to cheat, simple as
Quote by an&naz
Thanks Andy and Equi, if i go solo swining while wife doesn't approve swining... i will be cheating. I am confused as i am having deep desire to get swining for years now.
so your wife is not interested in swinging but you have a deep desire to do so..why?...is it just the thought of sleeping with other women other than your wife?...if so why not just pay for it if thats the case,have you decided to swing because it doesn't sound as sordid as sleeping with a prostitute instead or is because you just don't want to pay for it?
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Thanks Andy and Equi, if i go solo swining while wife doesn't approve swining... i will be cheating. I am confused as i am having deep desire to get swining for years now.
Maybe you should go on the channel 5 reality TV show "the Farm" - Apparently they've got plenty of swining activities for people on there..........look at rebecca loos !!! pmsl
DONT DO IT ALONE
this is guaranteed to end your marriage if she ever finds out. Dont try to coax her into it because even if she did end up joining you shoe would not be entirely happy with the situation and she would feel guilty
I would suggest that you keep the whole thing a fantasy enjoy sex together whilst talking about it that way no one gets hurt and your wife doesnt go against her beliefs
bunnies x
this is guaranteed to end your marriage if she ever finds out. Dont try to coax her into it because even if she did end up joining you shoe would not be entirely happy with the situation and she would feel guilty
I would suggest that you keep the whole thing a fantasy enjoy sex together whilst talking about it that way no one gets hurt and your wife doesnt go against her beliefs
bunnies x
Orgasminator
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I think she should have been more than aware of her beliefs before even contemplating, or going so far as showing interest. Don't you think?
I agree with you. This guy's talking rubbish. If she had such deep religious beliefs, then would she have even gone along with you in terms of placing ads? Probably you want to swing, your missus doesnt. Now your looking for us to try and tell you how to get her to change her mind. Bottom line, you cant trick her.
Secondly if you go behind her back, thats cheating. Theres nothing to be confused about that. Why do you think its any different to cheat as a swinger than a non-swinger? Get over it.
Sex God
My gut reaction is if a man is surprised by his wife's decision on religious grounds, he doesn't know her well enough even to contemplate swinging.
If she feels it would be wrong then for her it IS wrong, end of story.
If she feels it would be wrong then for her it IS wrong, end of story.
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We are couple in 30/26. We fantasized and loved the idea of swinging.
We even went ahead to post advt here and got some decent replies but to the end wife pulled off saying it contradicts with religious beliefs. I am still very much interested and not sure. Did anybody else come accross similar situations and how did you resolve it.
Haven't been in a similar situation so can't help you there. If someone answers and they have, there will likely be three outcomes:
1. They didn't swing because they respected their wife's wishes.
2. They swing anyway and are cheats.
3. Their wife changed her mind and they now swing together.
I can't see any other scenarios, to be honest.
i agree as some of you no i was in a similar situation but nothing to do with religious beliefs but me and my partner sat down and had a long talk about everything and we now swing together and were very happy
sharron
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sounds more like shes not interested rather than religion ! ?
i was going to say something like that.
maybe shes useing religion has a excuse cos she dont want to swing.
if you dont want to lose your wife, then pls dont go behind her back.
cos i can tell you she will find out oneday.
Thanks very much to everyone who has replied.
Its my mistake i did not give the background why she backed out.
Some of them thought i am after just other woman and pointed i could very well pay for it.
Others say i am not sure.
The fact is me and my wife and loving happily married couple and enjoy.
It was my wife who read about swininging on net and over last 2 years we have been talking about it. I love her and we talk quite openly about these aspects.
After discussing, realised she was keen for a MMF threesome and i also liked it.
We posted advt here and got some very good responses. Spoke to a couple and other guy over phone. We invited other guy for a coffee too so that we can know more.
During this wife was chatting with her girl friend in general about swinging and her opinions. Her friend told her about the religious aspect etc. That became a reason my wife pulled out of this saying we can't go ahead. Since then it has left a deep desire in me to try swinging.
Thanks for all your advices and help.
Its my mistake i did not give the background why she backed out.
Some of them thought i am after just other woman and pointed i could very well pay for it.
Others say i am not sure.
The fact is me and my wife and loving happily married couple and enjoy.
It was my wife who read about swininging on net and over last 2 years we have been talking about it. I love her and we talk quite openly about these aspects.
After discussing, realised she was keen for a MMF threesome and i also liked it.
We posted advt here and got some very good responses. Spoke to a couple and other guy over phone. We invited other guy for a coffee too so that we can know more.
During this wife was chatting with her girl friend in general about swinging and her opinions. Her friend told her about the religious aspect etc. That became a reason my wife pulled out of this saying we can't go ahead. Since then it has left a deep desire in me to try swinging.
Thanks for all your advices and help.
Quote by an&naz
Thanks very much to everyone who has replied.
Its my mistake i did not give the background why she backed out.
Some of them thought i am after just other woman and pointed i could very well pay for it.
Others say i am not sure.
The fact is me and my wife and loving happily married couple and enjoy.
It was my wife who read about swininging on net and over last 2 years we have been talking about it. I love her and we talk quite openly about these aspects.
After discussing, realised she was keen for a MMF threesome and i also liked it.
We posted advt here and got some very good responses. Spoke to a couple and other guy over phone. We invited other guy for a coffee too so that we can know more.
During this wife was chatting with her girl friend in general about swinging and her opinions. Her friend told her about the religious aspect etc. That became a reason my wife pulled out of this saying we can't go ahead. Since then it has left a deep desire in me to try swinging.
Thanks for all your advices and help.
SWINGING IS A RELIGOUS EXPERIANCE !!!
Quote by an&naz
Thanks very much to everyone who has replied.
Its my mistake i did not give the background why she backed out.
Some of them thought i am after just other woman and pointed i could very well pay for it.
Others say i am not sure.
The fact is me and my wife and loving happily married couple and enjoy.
It was my wife who read about swininging on net and over last 2 years we have been talking about it. I love her and we talk quite openly about these aspects.
After discussing, realised she was keen for a MMF threesome and i also liked it.
We posted advt here and got some very good responses. Spoke to a couple and other guy over phone. We invited other guy for a coffee too so that we can know more.
During this wife was chatting with her girl friend in general about swinging and her opinions. Her friend told her about the religious aspect etc. That became a reason my wife pulled out of this saying we can't go ahead. Since then it has left a deep desire in me to try swinging.
Thanks for all your advices and help.
No offence intended here but that sounds a bit weird to me, your wife just suddenly remembered that it was aginst her religous principles after a conversation with her friend?
This is the bit that you may find offence:
1. Sounds as though she may have grasped at any reason not to do it other than the simple one of "I don't fancy it" - which does suggest that possibly the communication isn't there in your marriage and your best to leave the swinging alone
Or.
2. This is a made up story looking for a reaction from a bunch of swingers saying, Bollox to your wife I'll shag you!! so you can use the replies to your advantage.
I'll live to regret this but I don't think you are a genuine swinger wanna be, think your story is made up and possibly a reporter. - just gut feeling, you're story doesn't hold up for me.
I'll apologise unreservedly if I am worng, just doesn't make sense.
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Thanks very much to everyone who has replied.
Its my mistake i did not give the background why she backed out.
Some of them thought i am after just other woman and pointed i could very well pay for it.
Others say i am not sure.
The fact is me and my wife and loving happily married couple and enjoy.
It was my wife who read about swininging on net and over last 2 years we have been talking about it. I love her and we talk quite openly about these aspects.
After discussing, realised she was keen for a MMF threesome and i also liked it.
We posted advt here and got some very good responses. Spoke to a couple and other guy over phone. We invited other guy for a coffee too so that we can know more.
During this wife was chatting with her girl friend in general about swinging and her opinions. Her friend told her about the religious aspect etc. That became a reason my wife pulled out of this saying we can't go ahead. Since then it has left a deep desire in me to try swinging.
Thanks for all your advices and help.
No offence intended here but that sounds a bit weird to me, your wife just suddenly remembered that it was aginst her religous principles after a conversation with her friend?
This is the bit that you may find offence:
I'll live to regret this but I don't think you are a genuine swinger wanna be, think your story is made up and possibly a reporter. - just gut feeling, you're story doesn't hold up for me.
I'll apologise unreservedly if I am worng, just doesn't make sense.
Blimey, if he is a reporter, it must be for the News of the World. The spelling and English is atroshous, errrr..atrocius.......terrible!!
Actually, I think he should probably sit down and detail why his wife has changed her mind and try to let us know exactly what the conversation with her friend detailed and why exactly his wife has changed her mind.
If he really wants us to try and give him a helping hand with an opinion that is......
I am not entirely sure that he should be coming on here without his wife anyway. He said that she has been doing the research on the net, so I assume she has seen this site? If she is OK with looking, it wouldn't do her any harm to look here would it. Does she even know that you have asked us this question?
Perhaps she should post on the Forum asking of peoples religious views on swinging?
Matters of faith are shakeable, despite what some may think and it may be more religious guilt rather than a real religious belief.
Just a thought....
Sex God
Suddenly forgot her religious beliefs!! ?? Outrageous , this hardly ever happens with religious people :twisted:
Warming the Bed
I thought taking it up the bum off lots of strange men was pretty much a compulsory part of the CofE Sunday service, these days?
Sorry, superstition fans....
Sorry, superstition fans....
