Hi.. my man and I have been trying to get our swinging sex life off the ground for some time now. We've been to a club, met a few couples but all the time they say they like me.. fancy the fuck out of me and want a threesum with me and not my bf cos they "dont like the look of him" or he isn;t their type. When we went to the club I went with a bloke but John cudnt get more than a cock suck which was by a woman who had about 7 cocks round her at the time and was sucking them all one by one.. so wots wrong with him? Cos I fancy him like the mad.. he's got amazing shoulder and arm muscles.. he makes me wet just to look at him! I will give u our ad link so u can take a look and see wot u think and get back to me.. i wud post some more pics of him in this post except I dunno how to so any tips on that too wud be great. Thanks
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Cassie
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Hi.. my man and I have been trying to get our swinging sex life off the ground for some time now. We've been to a club, met a few couples but all the time they say they like me.. fancy the fuck out of me and want a threesum with me and not my bf cos they "dont like the look of him" or he isn;t their type. When we went to the club I went with a bloke but John cudnt get more than a cock suck which was by a woman who had about 7 cocks round her at the time and was sucking them all one by one.. so wots wrong with him? Cos I fancy him like the mad.. he's got amazing shoulder and arm muscles.. he makes me wet just to look at him! I will give u our ad link so u can take a look and see wot u think and get back to me.. i wud post some more pics of him in this post except I dunno how to so any tips on that too wud be great. Thanks
http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-392109.html
Cassie
yep made me wet looking at him, but its a cheap shirt and I will wipe the tea up in a minute... It may well be that its just as folk say, your guy simply isnt thier choice or type, we all find compatability in some and not others, keep plugging away and you will undoubtedly find a couple that you are suited to.
Well from my point of view he looks pretty good looking to me.....so I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with him.
But the problem is that it depends on your own point of view......the people you're mixing with clearly haven't fancied him, why don't you try getting to know us a bit and then you'll find that we don't give a shit what people look like and it is more to do with their personality than anything else....
Does that make sense?
But the problem is that it depends on your own point of view......the people you're mixing with clearly haven't fancied him, why don't you try getting to know us a bit and then you'll find that we don't give a shit what people look like and it is more to do with their personality than anything else....
Does that make sense?
from a male point of you he may have the same problem as me - he looks a bit like a hoolie with his hair cropped..
if you meet a couple in a club it tends to be an instant attraction thing, so if he doesn't catch her attention it doesn't mean there is something wrong with him !
just meet a couple in a pub or bar and let his personality shine through - it works all the time for me..
personally i dont give a s**t if someone doesn't fancy me - it is a big whole world out there and you will find someone.
good luck to you both anyway.
if you meet a couple in a club it tends to be an instant attraction thing, so if he doesn't catch her attention it doesn't mean there is something wrong with him !
just meet a couple in a pub or bar and let his personality shine through - it works all the time for me..
personally i dont give a s**t if someone doesn't fancy me - it is a big whole world out there and you will find someone.
good luck to you both anyway.
yeh it makes sense a lot. you said "mixing with us a bit" u mean like on the forum? I can tell he is really down about it.. he don't say anything but I can tell.. he tells me to go for it.. but I dont want to.. he has low self esteem anyway.. I dunno why.. which is why he works out every day in the gym lol.. but I really wanna find a couple who fancies both of us just to give him that confidence boost u know
Cassie
Cassie
You are not really going to get anyone coming on here, and saying, "yep... he's a minger". Unless they want to be cruel. So, half of the reason for the post is pointless.
As I am sure you are aware, there are more males around than females. So you are bound to have more interest shown to you as a 19 year old bi-fem than your bloke. Besides he is very young at only 22 and it may not be his face putting people off it may very well be his immaturity or demenour while in the club. Basically this is just a " I can't get a shag" post, written by the girlfirend on behalf of the fella.
Anything I have said above, please don't take personally. I have no view on wether or not your boyfriend is good looking. He just looks like a bloke to me...
And Steph's advice is top-notch, I suggest you take her advice regarding the email thing.
As I am sure you are aware, there are more males around than females. So you are bound to have more interest shown to you as a 19 year old bi-fem than your bloke. Besides he is very young at only 22 and it may not be his face putting people off it may very well be his immaturity or demenour while in the club. Basically this is just a " I can't get a shag" post, written by the girlfirend on behalf of the fella.
Anything I have said above, please don't take personally. I have no view on wether or not your boyfriend is good looking. He just looks like a bloke to me...
And Steph's advice is top-notch, I suggest you take her advice regarding the email thing.
well actually as he is never gonna read this I was hoping people wud be brutally honest.. I mean I have the feeling its the hair u know? or lack of it lol.. ppl get the wrong impression of him from that. I just wanna know wot it is so i can try and sort something out, hopefully short of plastic surgery lol! Please be honest.. he wont read this..
Cassie
Cassie
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. i wud post some more pics of him in this post except I dunno how to so any tips on that too wud be great. Thanks
Cassie
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Just to make the other half of the post have a point...
he's a minger
davej trying to make you feel better in his own special way
he's a minger
davej trying to make you feel better in his own special way
Casanova
From a blokes point of view all I can say is that it might be his hair or lack of it. Crew cuts do tend to be associated with scallies and chavs. May be if he lets his hair grow a little?
As others have said dont worry you will meet others it just takes time. You wont have any problems as you are female, sad fact but true. :cry:
As others have said dont worry you will meet others it just takes time. You wont have any problems as you are female, sad fact but true. :cry:
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I will have you know that I once talked a guy down from a third storey ledge :smug: if the Fire service had got there a bit quicker with thier net catcher they might have even been able to save him.....oh yes :smug:
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I will have you know that I once talked a guy down from a third storey ledge :smug: if the Fire service had got there a bit quicker with thier net catcher they might have even been able to save him.....oh yes :smug:
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:smackbottom::whip:A lot of couples only want to meet women so may use it as a excuse to try and get to meet just you, as for club well they funny anyway, sometimes unless your a bit forwards you not get anything as a guy cause all the other men will 'beat you to it' just out of interest is he forwards or does he tend to wait to be invited?
Not everyones for everyone as we all know but i find it odd nobody likes him :shock:
Not everyones for everyone as we all know but i find it odd nobody likes him :shock:
There will always be more men around in the swinging scene, so even in couples you'll always have the advantage. Also, men don't tend to be as fussy with who they like, whereas women can have the pick of the crop. He's not really my type, but that doesn't mean that many others won't find him attractive (women). As others have said, make friends through the social side of swinging first and people will get to know your personalities which will help with the attraction. The club scene is really about initial physical attraction, and I can't speak for bi-females, but as above, men aren't that picky.
Get him to read all this, sometimes there's nothing worse than trying to protect someone's feelings, especially in a case like this. And good luck
Get him to read all this, sometimes there's nothing worse than trying to protect someone's feelings, especially in a case like this. And good luck
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There will always be more men around in the swinging scene, so even in couples you'll always have the advantage. Also, men don't tend to be as fussy with who they like .....
Sorry? :shock:
I'm very fussy... this makes all blokes sound desperate :shock:
Ok...... pedantic sod :P :P Most men, but when men outnumber women in the swinging scene by a fairly large ratio, women have the advantage in being able to pick the cream of the crop, so to speak.
Sex God
Hi hun
You say in your post youve been to a club. just how many times in total?
you never know who will fancy who in a club, and to be honest it just takes time,
you need to both be a bit forward and make conversation with other couples, even if its just to chat and not play, other couples are a mine of information, about experiences etc, this in itself may help you both.
your man looks ok to me may just need to be a tad more outgoing, and more patient
Hope this helps
Vicky
You say in your post youve been to a club. just how many times in total?
you never know who will fancy who in a club, and to be honest it just takes time,
you need to both be a bit forward and make conversation with other couples, even if its just to chat and not play, other couples are a mine of information, about experiences etc, this in itself may help you both.
your man looks ok to me may just need to be a tad more outgoing, and more patient
Hope this helps
Vicky
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There will always be more men around in the swinging scene, so even in couples you'll always have the advantage. Also, men don't tend to be as fussy with who they like .....
Sorry? :shock:
I'm very fussy... this makes all blokes sound desperate :shock:
Ok...... pedantic sod :P :P Most men, but when men outnumber women in the swinging scene by a fairly large ratio, women have the advantage in being able to pick the cream of the crop, so to speak.
So do the bi-guys :twisted: :wink:
He is the type of guy to wait to be invited.. this is a result of his already somewhat lack of self confidence.. its now turned into a viscious cycle lol! We've only been to once club.. managed to get the couple who fancied me to take us with them cos we dont own a car at the mo so its hard to get to places. Garden of Eden is very local for me but it says on here that its shut due to a fire.. anyone know when that will be open again? Thanks for all ur advice.. uv really helped me figure it out so i can try and give him some tips.
Cassie
Cassie
To answer your original question Cassie, I can't comment on your boyfriends personality but based on the photo alone I'd say: he looks way too young and inexperienced to grab my attention (mid 30s) - so the age of the people in clubs might have an impact, a 19 year old girl is an entirely different prospect.
Its a swinging fact of life women get more offers than men as its been pointed out there are lots more men than women
My advise it take your time be patient get to know people first and remember clubs do not suit everybody so it may be worth trying a diffrent aproach
I personaly do not enjoy swinging in clubs but i would definatly recomend people to try them
Only swing with people that you are both comfortable and happy with
politly refuse the offers to swing on your own if you do not wish to swing seperatly
Swinging as a couple is not as easy as it may apear
I personaly find it alot better as a single guy than i did as a couple
I have been in the same situation where most want my partner but not me so i understand your problem
I belive there is some body for everybody but the trick is finding them
Good luck with your swinging and remember its not a race and there is no need to rush things
My advise it take your time be patient get to know people first and remember clubs do not suit everybody so it may be worth trying a diffrent aproach
I personaly do not enjoy swinging in clubs but i would definatly recomend people to try them
Only swing with people that you are both comfortable and happy with
politly refuse the offers to swing on your own if you do not wish to swing seperatly
Swinging as a couple is not as easy as it may apear
I personaly find it alot better as a single guy than i did as a couple
I have been in the same situation where most want my partner but not me so i understand your problem
I belive there is some body for everybody but the trick is finding them
Good luck with your swinging and remember its not a race and there is no need to rush things
