I was talking to a guy a while back that asked if I had tried something I haven’t tried before, I said I haven’t thought about it, but maybe in the right conditions I might try.
I think he took that that I would so I had to tell him I was not interested as I would never do anything or be pushed to do anything I wasn’t totally comfortable with.
He hasn’t spoken to me since so was glad I wasn’t pushed into something I might have later regretted.
This could also relate to everyday life.
Have you had this happen to you?
How would you deal with this?
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Sex God
I do things to please others all the time. I would guess others do too. Isn't that whats called give and take?
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I do things to please others all the time. I would guess others do too. Isn't that whats called give and take?
I know what you are saying, I agree to a point.
We all do things for people close to us that we sometimes feel a bit of I bind, but do it anyway.
But my question was more about in the swinging playing sense. I do believe in give and take but I don't think when meeting anyone anything should be expected. Just because you said you might consider it doesn’t mean they should expect it.
Warming the Bed
I can honestly say, I am with you there, Minx. There is nothing I would do without being comfortable. I draw my lines and wouldn't step over those. At the same time, I would also not expect my partner do anything they don't feel comfortable with. Pleasure to me is not a unidirectional expression. Either both enjoy whatever they are doing or it defeats the point. If I or my partner have to push ourselves to do something just because the other person likes it, it isn't fun. I am sure nobody would enjoy it over any length of time tickling their partner's feet because you like it but they can't stand the sensation.
Sex God
I only ended up here to please someone but that sort of backfired :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I do things to please others all the time. I would guess others do too. Isn't that whats called give and take?
I know what you are saying, I agree to a point.
We all do things for people close to us that we sometimes feel a bit of I bind, but do it anyway.
But my question was more about in the swinging playing sense. I do believe in give and take but I don't think when meeting anyone anything should be expected. Just because you said you might consider it doesn’t mean they should expect it.
Well why not say no until the time that you made your mind up. That way theres no need to for the person enquiring to hang onto a hope or nag about it. If you eventually say yes then that to them would be a bonus! This maybe maybe not game is childish and can be cruel.
I do things to please others, sometimes I enjoy them, sometimes I find I do not. I have limits, sometimes I allow them to expand. My limits change with the person I am with. They expand, if not daily then over time. I imagine that one day they will stop. After all there are thing I know I will not do, and things that I will not do today.
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