Would you ever shop a family member to the police?

16 Jan 2009

A Mother told the police her son was the one who beat up an old lady.
A Father informed the police his son was a drug dealer.
A sister told the police she had seen a gun at her brothers house.
So the question is......would you inform on one of your family members?
Personally, I will defend my family to the ends of the earth, but only if they deserve it!
I would probably try to get them to turn themselves in, and face the action that their action deserves, if that failed, I feel I would have to inform the police.
What do others feel about this?
(T.V documentary on the subject tonight)
Lucys post.

16 Jan 2009

To be honest we couldn’t really give an honest answer unless we were faced with it, However from the examples you gave above then we would probably say yes we would, but when your actually faced with something like this thats a different story alltogether.

16 Jan 2009

I would take them along to hand themselves in.

16 Jan 2009

I'd defend my family to the end if they were in the right but if they were guilty then I'd try to get them to hand themselves in. If they refused then I would turn them in myself.
I've tried to bring my sons up to be good people and so far I've done a damn fine job. They both know what's right and what's wrong but sometimes circumstances take over and people can find themselves doing things that would normally go against their better judgement.
That said, if they commit a crime they should pay the penalty

16 Jan 2009

been there done that, when i found out my son had committed a burglary with another local bad lad and hid the items in premises belonging to my employer. Would i do it again confused

: YES if the occasion warranted it.

16 Jan 2009

i saw this on a programme this morning about a father who found bullets in his sons bedroom.
he made a point of saying those who think he did the wrong thing by shopping his own son to the police, was, if his son had used that gun on ur son, and you knew the father knew he had a gun, would u not question why the rather did nothing about it??
i really dont know how i feel about this but his above statement made me pause for thought

16 Jan 2009

We bring our children up to know right from wrong, and know if they done wrong there are consequences for their actions.
I would hope they would give themselves up, but if not I would, then hope that one day they might thank me for it.

16 Jan 2009

I have to say no. With family and really close freinds I love in unconditional way. I might not approve indeed dispise them for their actions but would not be able to bring myself to shop them.
I had a situation a few years back, when a friend came to my house in tears. Now he was a hard and tough sort of fella and i had never seen him cry. Sat him down made him a coffee..and said whats the matter. he said" Had agrument with the missus and I'ave gone and done it now...I really have gone and done it !!" now the guy concerned lived in country and i know owned a firearm( quite legally i may add) and so all sorts of things were going through my head. I really did think he had shot her. I was thinking about where to hide him..and how could get him ticket for Brazil etc etc...I almost had my coat on ready to go ATM to get some money to buy a plane ticket. Then explained...what he meant was he thought he had blown it..as argued and wife had kicked him out...I was so relieved i actually said " Thank fuck for that" ...he did look a bit surprised at me... it was that I was just so relived that was all it was !!!

16 Jan 2009

Yes I would as I would expect other family or friends to do the same to me, Doesnt mean I would disown them though

16 Jan 2009

Quote by TanKinky
Yes I would as I would expect other family or friends to do the same to me, Doesnt mean I would disown them though

I remember a lady who appeared on GMTV last year.
She had turned her son in, and he is now in jail for GBH. The victims head is permenantly damaged, and he now will have on going problems all his life.
The mother who turned her son in, now has no contact with him at all by her sons choice. The worse thing is though, is that her other children will now have nothing to do with their Mum either, she has not seen them or her many Grandchildren believed she was wrong to of shopped him to the police.
How sad that so many peoples lives are affected for ever by mindless violence.

16 Jan 2009

I shopped my son for dealing cannabis last year. Absolutely the right thing to do.
It seems that he was being pressured into dealing coke recently and he called the police to explain what was happening.
I'm sure he would have been a coke dealer by now had last year not happened.

16 Jan 2009

Quote by attman69
I shopped my son for dealing cannabis last year. Absolutely the right thing to do.
It seems that he was being pressured into dealing coke recently and he called the police to explain what was happening.
I'm sure he would have been a coke dealer by now had last year not happened.

:welcome: to the forum.
And I admire your decision. Must've been tough. Hope your son is ok.

16 Jan 2009

Quote by noladreams30
I shopped my son for dealing cannabis last year. Absolutely the right thing to do.
It seems that he was being pressured into dealing coke recently and he called the police to explain what was happening.
I'm sure he would have been a coke dealer by now had last year not happened.

:welcome: to the forum.
And I admire your decision. Must've been tough. Hope your son is ok.
What she said! :smile:
:welcome:
EDIT: To actually answer the question! redface

I'd like to think that I'd do the right thing, whatever that may mean for my child but that's easy to say when you're not a parent. I have every faith that my parents would do anything they possibly could to help me but ultimately I'm fairly sure they would have done what you did attman. I'd like to think I'd do the same. :smile:

16 Jan 2009

I wouldnt shop my friends/family.... but i might threaten to... :twisted:

16 Jan 2009

Yes- we found cannabis in my son's drawer and reported it and they came round and gave him a talking to. He was about 15.
Only trouble was the police woman that came round is married to Stormy's very good friend from school, who happened to be the one that Stormy tried cannabis with many years ago confused

16 Jan 2009

of course - im a cold hearted swine lol :smile2:

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Sassy-Seren
I'd defend my family to the end if they were in the right but if they were guilty then I'd try to get them to hand themselves in. If they refused then I would turn them in myself.
I've tried to bring my sons up to be good people and so far I've done a damn fine job. They both know what's right and what's wrong but sometimes circumstances take over and people can find themselves doing things that would normally go against their better judgement.
That said, if they commit a crime they should pay the penalty

In a word NO......... a private word in their ear , but no way would I drop my son or daughter in the s..........they were not brought up to break the law so it wouldnt be an issue :shock:
steve x

16 Jan 2009

Quote by travlinmanukok
I'd defend my family to the end if they were in the right but if they were guilty then I'd try to get them to hand themselves in. If they refused then I would turn them in myself.
I've tried to bring my sons up to be good people and so far I've done a damn fine job. They both know what's right and what's wrong but sometimes circumstances take over and people can find themselves doing things that would normally go against their better judgement.
That said, if they commit a crime they should pay the penalty

In a word NO......... a private word in their ear , but no way would I drop my son or daughter in the s..........they were not brought up to break the law so it wouldnt be an issue :shock:
steve x
With the greatest of respect travlin, I think that's a tad naive. Most kids are not brought up to break the law; some do though.
Loyalty - even familial loyalty - surely sometimes has to be transcended by right and justice etc?

16 Jan 2009

Yes I would shop them confused

I love my children no matter what, but I also love them enough to try and save them from going down a very dark and nasty route.

16 Jan 2009

In a heartbeat, if you hide it then they do it again where do you draw the line?
Don't do the crime if you can't do the time !

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