would you shag an ugly one....

5 Jul 2005

Quote by PoloLady
The question does lead to another question - How would you feel about having sex with someone who told you " I don't find you sexually attractive at all - but I think you are a nice person" ????

now that is a good question
personally i wouldn't have sex with someone who said that to me, ok so i have already admitted i would have sex with someone i didn't find attractive but i would never tell them i didn't find them attractive if i did i would expect a slap in the mouth lol

5 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
The question does lead to another question - How would you feel about having sex with someone who told you " I don't find you sexually attractive at all - but I think you are a nice person" ????

now that is a good question
personally i wouldn't have sex with someone who said that to me, ok so i have already admitted i would have sex with someone i didn't find attractive but i would never tell them i didn't find them attractive if i did i would expect a slap in the mouth lol
redface

Kinda remember telling someone, "you're not the type I'm usually attracted to but..." surprised

ops:
And yes, I did have sex with them....and lots of it. :twisted:
I've not stopped to think what that says about me though.....not because I'm selfish and/or self-centred....ok, maybe just alittle bit....I'm just glad I didn't let the "not my usual type" head-thing rob me of the intamcy we did enjoy, and I believe they feel the same.
EDIT: Think what I was trying to say is....I don't feel I compromised myself by sleeping with someone I didn't initially find physically attractive. I am richer for the experience.
Oh and .....you asked the question the other way around, didn't you? :oops: confused

5 Jul 2005

Alcohol can do a lot to improve ugliness.

5 Jul 2005

I've had sex with some who would be outside of what I would define as 'my type' physically; in these cases the personality factor was there.
Couldn't sleep with someone who was absolutely ugly (to me) because of the very nature of sex - up close and personal - unless completely out of my face and therefore not in full control of my faculties!
xx

5 Jul 2005

Had an on-going experience a few years ago, with someone id regularly meet up with for sex. She wasnt the type i would normally go for, but the sex was good and we were both happy with the arrangement! lol

5 Jul 2005

Who's to say who's ugly & who's not confused

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People have different tastes in every thing its whats inside that counts wink

If your happy with who your playing with there should be no complaints .

5 Jul 2005

Quote by sword
Who's to say who's ugly & who's not :
You decide who is ugly to you!
People have different tastes (very true) in every thing its whats inside that counts Even if it is a one-off? An encounter at a club? A spur of the moment thing at a party?
If your happy with who your playing with there should be no complaints.
It is not whether you complain or not - it is whether YOU feel they are ugly and what the definition of ugly is to you!

5 Jul 2005

Quote by Libra+Love
Kinda remember telling someone, "you're not the type I'm usually attracted to but..." ops:

Is 'not our usual type' the same as thinking someone is ugly? To me it is not.
Not having the 'classic looks' does not mean someone cannot be attractive or us attracted to them. I have given up trying to work out what my type is - it changes with every new encounter. I have preferences, but there have been many exceptions to those. :twisted:

5 Jul 2005

Quote by Jags
Ah! It's the question which is flawed. :shock: :shock: :shock:
'Ugly' is a personal perception but not a criteria for deciding a relationship on or a sexual encounter on. Look deeper for the beauty within. Most times the 'beautiful' people lack that depth, focussing their lives of shallowness of first impressions.
I find the subject tasteless actually. On the borders of offensive but definitely tasteless. Or to use the newly coined word from the mighty Sarge, it's 'bobbins'.

Surely tho with a purely sexual enounter why look deeper than a sexual attraction, true friendships are important in the swinging lifestyle but I have found more often than not that people swing first and become "truer" friends after but my observation may not hold true for others.
Maybe as I have grown older and my sexual tastes have become refined I find that what I seek in a swinging situation has also grown more selective and physical attraction does play a high part in the equation personally. I'm not here to just fuck, I'm here to have a mutually satisfying sexual encounter and while the numbers of people I have swung with may have been low compared to others the huge majority of my experiences have been excelent for myself and I guess equally pleasureable for the others involvend as subsiquent meets have often evolved.
All that said, there can be times when despite the physical attraction towards someone or a couple the spark of animal lust is just not there where perhaps the personality is either so un-attractive or the other people seem so dis-interested and going through the motions that it is a serious turn off.... I did meet one person that I played with who was physically stunning and quite beautifull visually as well, but was the worst sexual encounter that I have ever had; when asked, sadly after not before the event, "you didnt seem to really enjoy that?" her response was "Its not that I dont like sex, it just does't really do anything for me..." "so why do you do it then?" "Why not, guys like it and tell me i'm beautiful and good at it." :shock: confused

:shock: :?
For a lifetime partner the person as a whole is important, we can overlook things we may find unattractive such as looks, build, personality traits where we find other parts attractive such as looks, build, personality traits... where the whole sum of the person is attractive, with your own weighting applied to each factor, then it has the start of a relationship but the problems start when time slowly adjusts the factors you found important and thoes you did not; a "good" relationship where the phisical beauty and sexual attraction was high may desolve as the initial lust factor dies off and you find out they are such boring self-centered gits that the only time you want to be near them is for a fuck; the inverse is true where you emotionally click with someone and can talk to the wee hours of the morning, but you find that the sexual side becomes so boring and mundain that the relationship is no longer worth continuing.
Now that you are all bored to death and this post is probably a thread killer, lol.
I think the term "ugly" is a very ill-defined one and rather to generalised... Does it mean ugly in the clasical sence of what is beautifull or how others would percieve, does it mean personally ugly to the individual who is potentially going to sleep with the person they find ugly? Why anyone would want to sleep with someone they personally found "2. repulsive... ?" now for some of the other definitions I can see why it could be fun, as a "...displeasing in some way..." has a place in D/s roleplay.

5 Jul 2005

BUT you must also take into account the "alcohol factor" .....
the difference between a fox and a dog..is only 5 pints... :shock:

5 Jul 2005

who gives a fuck if there ugly or not or if they have a shit personality and as for all this friendship bullshit.... makes me wanna puke .sure go to a club meet some people have a drink perhaps then go fuck each other thats what swinging is all about if there a bit fat got a lazy eye knockneed or there fannys resembles a kebab it dosnt matter it about enjoyint the sex for me they can look like they have been applebobbing in a hot chip pan that is not the issue its meeting with like minded individuals for carnal gratifiaction bonus if there atually very good looking
alex
ps mind you i have to admit im not over keen on big hairy bushes lol

5 Jul 2005

Quote by tonysb09
BUT you must also take into account the "alcohol factor" .....
the difference between a fox and a dog..is only 5 pints... :shock:

I've been told in the past that 5 pints is the difference between a straight man and a bi man. lol. I dont drink though so I dont know about that one. ;)

5 Jul 2005

Quote by aa
who gives a fuck if there ugly or not or if they have a shit personality and as for all this friendship bullshit.... makes me wanna puke .sure go to a club meet some people have a drink perhaps then go fuck each other thats what swinging is all about if there a bit fat got a lazy eye knockneed or there fannys resembles a kebab it dosnt matter it about enjoyint the sex for me they can look like they have been applebobbing in a hot chip pan that is not the issue its meeting with like minded individuals for carnal gratifiaction bonus if there atually very good looking
alex
ps mind you i have to admit im not over keen on big hairy bushes

what a nice man
i bet u get loads of meets lol

5 Jul 2005

Quote by aa
who gives a fuck if there ugly or not or if they have a shit personality and as for all this friendship bullshit.... makes me wanna puke .sure go to a club meet some people have a drink perhaps then go fuck each other thats what swinging is all about if there a bit fat got a lazy eye knockneed or there fannys resembles a kebab it dosnt matter it about enjoyint the sex for me they can look like they have been applebobbing in a hot chip pan that is not the issue its meeting with like minded individuals for carnal gratifiaction bonus if there atually very good looking
alex
ps mind you i have to admit im not over keen on big hairy bushes

If I was a woman I would be gay. {sigh} Can't get my breath. confused

5 Jul 2005

Quote by PoloLady
Ah! It's the question which is flawed. :shock: :shock: :shock:
May be , may be not.
Definitely!
'Ugly' is a personal perception but not a criteria for deciding a relationship on or a sexual encounter on.
The question did not ask about forming a relationship - that is something different, even if it is a friendship, it is different. The question asked about a sexual encounter.
I know, that's why I said what I did!!
Look deeper for the beauty within. Most times the 'beautiful' people lack that depth, focussing their lives of shallowness of first impressions.
Poeple enjoy recreational sex in all different ways (though there are some on here that don't seem to enjoy it at all) - sometimes there just isn't the time to get to see a persons inner self or it is not important in that particular encounter
I wonder why so many people ask for photos (face pics or body shots) if our outwardly appearance is not important.
Why do people spend a bit more time getting ready to go out if they are meeting someone?
Look at nature and the displays many animals have to attract a mate!

I find the subject tasteless actually. On the borders of offensive but definitely tasteless. Or to use the newly coined word from the mighty Sarge, it's 'bobbins'.
May be because you are looking at it on the surface and not what really lies beneath. At face value most questions are 'bobbins' it is what you can draw from the answers that adds depth.

The question does lead to another question - How would you feel about having sex with someone who told you " I don't find you sexually attractive at all - but I think you are a nice person" ????
I can't imagine EVER having sex with someone who said that to me!

Wish I could do the multi-quote thing!!
rolleyes

:roll:

5 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!

actually i don't agree, i have met a woman on a regular basis for over 2 years now who i do not find at all attractive in the looks department but shes a really nice woman and has come to be one of my best friends, i don't feel that i am despatate for choosing personality over looks but each to their own i suppose, i have also has sex with many men in clubs thats i do not find attractive, again i do not feel that i am desparate its just a case of going there for a reason and having good sex is more important that having a good looking guy who loves himself. Again each to their own and i don't suppose theres a right and wrong on the subject its just a matter of opinion smile

But then does that not mean you ARE attracted to teh person - or are we just talking about Physical appearance here (proper question just jumped in without read all the thread)
I'd agree with Debs that if you had sex with someone who had no redeemable features to you, then you are bordering on desperate.

5 Jul 2005

well glad you had a chuckle MARK....yea it is a subject you talk about down the pub....you look over and see someone ..shall we say who is unattractive ( before everyone gets on my case..yes I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that) but it is what us guys do do over a pint...anyway geting back to the point...you look over and say " well would you ? "......and judging by the poll we see that twice as many would say yes, ..than no........now it seems the ladies on the other hand are a bit more picky and its split 50 / 50.

5 Jul 2005

Quote by deancannock
look over and say " well would you ? "......and judging by the poll we see that twice as many would say yes, ..than no........now it seems the ladies on the other hand are a bit more picky and its split 50 / 50.

Oh bugger, I read the questions as "Female, no I'd make excuse" as meaning would you shag an ugly woman so I voted in the wrong section, lol.

5 Jul 2005

Go by one simple rule, if they're ugly enough to make you go :uhoh:, don't. Otherwise hump

away :haha:

5 Jul 2005

So. 75 votes cast and only 16% of women would shag an ugly bugger. OMG, there's even less chance for me than I thought!
:violin:

5 Jul 2005

I would and I also wake up next to him every morning he he confused

6 Jul 2005

How can you get turned on by someone who doesnt turn you on ?????
Ok i admit it im shallow, i have to find a person attractive, now with that said doesnt mean they have to be beautiful, or built like Angelina Jolie, but there has to be something there that makes me say COOOORRRRRRRRR inside and if it doesnt happen thru eye contact or personality then it aint ever gonna happen.
MM

6 Jul 2005

I find most women atractive, maybe I'm in a mid life crisis, it doesnt feel like I am but would I know? :shock:
What really turns me off is sloppyness, especialy when it comes to hygene. I couldnt fuck a smelly. Bad teeth are a no no too. :scared:
But sex is one of lifes greatest pleasures, almost everyone loves sex. And there is usualy something sexy in just about anyone. As long as they are clean and lookafter their teeth!
What a fuss pot huh? lol

6 Jul 2005

Quote by AndyS-NE
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!

actually i don't agree, i have met a woman on a regular basis for over 2 years now who i do not find at all attractive in the looks department but shes a really nice woman and has come to be one of my best friends, i don't feel that i am despatate for choosing personality over looks but each to their own i suppose, i have also has sex with many men in clubs thats i do not find attractive, again i do not feel that i am desparate its just a case of going there for a reason and having good sex is more important that having a good looking guy who loves himself. Again each to their own and i don't suppose theres a right and wrong on the subject its just a matter of opinion smile

But then does that not mean you ARE attracted to teh person - or are we just talking about Physical appearance here (proper question just jumped in without read all the thread)
I'd agree with Debs that if you had sex with someone who had no redeemable features to you, then you are bordering on desperate.
well i'm not sure i read it as meaning ugly as in looks, i also think someone posted later on in the tread 'we are not talking personality the question is would u shag someone u found ugly to look at' so i would still have to say yes but i still do not feel that i am desparate lol
honest innocent

anyone wonna shag? bolt

20 Jan 2007

Quote by sword
Who's to say who's ugly & who's not :
People have different tastes in every thing its whats inside that counts
If your happy with who your playing with there should be no complaints .

what a nice thing to say mr sword! you must be a lovely person inside and out! biggrin

:D :smitten:

20 Jan 2007

Quote by Sally-dave
Who's to say who's ugly & who's not :
People have different tastes in every thing its whats inside that counts
If your happy with who your playing with there should be no complaints .

what a nice thing to say mr sword! you must be a lovely person inside and out! biggrin

:D :smitten:
Do you know him? The last post on this thread was in July 2005 - either you know him and went looking for a nice post to make him look good, or you're very bored! lol

20 Jan 2007

I would say very bored FB :giggle:

20 Jan 2007

Quote by BrightonGeezer
I'll put it in plain English here. A FUCKS A FUCK!

thats your goose well and truly cooked rolleyes

20 Jan 2007

Does Goose know you are about to cook him?? :eeek: :eeek: :eeek:

20 Jan 2007

Quote by Shireen
Does Goose know you are about to cook him?? :eeek: :eeek: :eeek:

Who cares :twisted:

would you shag an ugly bugger