Quote by SXBOY
now theres good in everyone
and too sexual exclude someone on looks alone is a bit shallow
I am shallow - so what!
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would you shag an ugly one....
would you shag an ugly bugger
Quote by Ice Pie
please note I totally agree beauty and therefore ugliness is very subjective.....but that is not what question asks.....it asks if you would still shag the other person if in your subjective view they were ugly.
If I find a person ugly, then by definition I do not find that person attractive. I am physically incapable and psychologically unwilling to have sex with a person I do not find attractive.
What Ice said :thumbup:
Shireen
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Quote by Shireen_Mids
please note I totally agree beauty and therefore ugliness is very subjective.....but that is not what question asks.....it asks if you would still shag the other person if in your subjective view they were ugly.
If I find a person ugly, then by definition I do not find that person attractive. I am physically incapable and psychologically unwilling to have sex with a person I do not find attractive.
What Ice said :thumbup:
Shireen
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Yep - I'm with you guys
Sexpert
Well I guess if you define the question like that then I couldnt.
If I thought someone was a nasty piece of work and didnt give a shit about anyone other than themself then I couldnt and wouldnt want to please them.
Ive come a cropper a few times though with people putting on a front of niceness until they had what they wanted.
If I thought someone was a nasty piece of work and didnt give a shit about anyone other than themself then I couldnt and wouldnt want to please them.
Ive come a cropper a few times though with people putting on a front of niceness until they had what they wanted.
Ugly does not equate with unattractive!
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive. Sometime the most 'ordinary' of men can turn me on with nothing more than a glance. I had a very very intense relationship with a conventionally unattractive man and he was the most wonderful lover I have ever had or could ever hope to have again.
Don't judge a book by it's cover - that used to be my signature and I follow it's advice every day of my life.
:inlove:
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive. Sometime the most 'ordinary' of men can turn me on with nothing more than a glance. I had a very very intense relationship with a conventionally unattractive man and he was the most wonderful lover I have ever had or could ever hope to have again.
Don't judge a book by it's cover - that used to be my signature and I follow it's advice every day of my life.
:inlove:
Quote by Jags
Ugly does not equate with unattractive!
I beg to differ - if I find someone ugly it can be for a variety of reasons. But if I find them ugly for what ever reason I will not be attracted to them.
Quote by Jags
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive. Sometime the most 'ordinary' of men can turn me on with nothing more than a glance.
Ordinary does not equate to unattractive or ugly. Unconventional, quirky, whatever, does not equate to ugly.
You either find someone ugly or you don't and as Ice said - if I see them as ugly (for whatever reason) I will not be attracted to them. To have sex with someone I need to be attracted to them - for whatever reason - and appearance is part of that.
Quote by PoloLady
Ugly does not equate with unattractive!
I beg to differ - if I find someone ugly it can be for a variety of reasons. But if I find them ugly for what ever reason I will not be attracted to them.
Quote by Jags
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive. Sometime the most 'ordinary' of men can turn me on with nothing more than a glance.
Ordinary does not equate to unattractive or ugly. Unconventional, quirky, whatever, does not equate to ugly.
You either find someone ugly or you don't and as Ice said - if I see them as ugly (for whatever reason) I will not be attracted to them. To have sex with someone I need to be attracted to them - for whatever reason - and appearance is part of that.
SO Don't agree. Appearance is ONLY part of attraction.
Mmmmmmmmmmmm - worried now!
Quote by Jags
Ugly does not equate with unattractive!
I beg to differ - if I find someone ugly it can be for a variety of reasons. But if I find them ugly for what ever reason I will not be attracted to them.
Quote by Jags
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive. Sometime the most 'ordinary' of men can turn me on with nothing more than a glance.
Ordinary does not equate to unattractive or ugly. Unconventional, quirky, whatever, does not equate to ugly.
You either find someone ugly or you don't and as Ice said - if I see them as ugly (for whatever reason) I will not be attracted to them. To have sex with someone I need to be attracted to them - for whatever reason - and appearance is part of that.
SO Don't agree. Appearance is ONLY part of attraction.
Mmmmmmmmmmmm - worried now!
Yes appearance is only part of the attraction - but a bloody important one! If that isn't right it isn't happening. The rest of the attraction only establishes whether:
a - they can stop the whole night or clear off afterwards
b - I wanna shag 'um a second time or not
c - I would take them to the club or not
d - I would do them with some of my other friends or not
edit = I must add that it is true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Myself and a female friend are always disagreeing over who is good-looking.
you no this post has made me really think here!
i would hate to think some one wants to shag me just for the sake of it!..........and not botherd what i look like.... :shock: as i take a lot of time to make my self look good!
infact i am very shocked :shock: to here some men say they are not botherd ..makes us women feel like a lump of meat!....well it does me
Debs writes notes!.......to be more picky in future! :notes:
i would hate to think some one wants to shag me just for the sake of it!..........and not botherd what i look like.... :shock: as i take a lot of time to make my self look good!
infact i am very shocked :shock: to here some men say they are not botherd ..makes us women feel like a lump of meat!....well it does me
Debs writes notes!.......to be more picky in future! :notes:
you no when you think of some thing that gets you so much you want to repete it again well i am so sticks tongue out!
Quote by Debbiewebs
you no this post has made me really think here!
i would hate to think some one wants to shag me just for the sake of it!..........and not botherd what i look like.... :shock: as i take a lot of time to make my self look good!
infact i am very shocked :shock: to here some men say they are not botherd ..makes us women feel like a lump of meat!....well it does me
Debs writes notes!.......to be more picky in future! :notes:
I am with Jags on this one.
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive.
I have had amazing sex with a person that would not be deemed conventionally attractive facially, but he worked for me in lots of different ways.
But, there are lots of ways to be ugly - this can be inside or out. As Libra said, there are lots of people who are really ugly on the inside, although they may be conventionally attractive on the outside.
So, I guess, if the question is about the whole person and not just their looks then my answer would be - if a person is ugly inside then, No!
Lack of physical conventional beauty is not the same as not being sexually unattractive.
I have had amazing sex with a person that would not be deemed conventionally attractive facially, but he worked for me in lots of different ways.
But, there are lots of ways to be ugly - this can be inside or out. As Libra said, there are lots of people who are really ugly on the inside, although they may be conventionally attractive on the outside.
So, I guess, if the question is about the whole person and not just their looks then my answer would be - if a person is ugly inside then, No!
Quote by Debbiewebs
you no this post has made me really think here!
i would hate to think some one wants to shag me just for the sake of it!..........and not botherd what i look like.... :shock: as i take a lot of time to make my self look good!
infact i am very shocked :shock: to here some men say they are not botherd ..makes us women feel like a lump of meat!....well it does me
Debs writes notes!.......to be more picky in future! :notes:
thats the point really....do we view sex for what it is an animal urge...and take it whenever offered....or do we put more emotion in it.....but then that can be dangerous in a swinging situation. Lets say a couple is good enough to share there time with a single guy....you would not want an emotional link as such between the lady and the single guy...else it may get out of control and break up what was a very good relationship. Like you say Debs makes you think that litle bit harder about your and others true intentions !!!
Quote by deancannock
you no this post has made me really think here!
i would hate to think some one wants to shag me just for the sake of it!..........and not botherd what i look like.... :shock: as i take a lot of time to make my self look good!
infact i am very shocked :shock: to here some men say they are not botherd ..makes us women feel like a lump of meat!....well it does me
Debs writes notes!.......to be more picky in future! :notes:
thats the point really....do we view sex for what it is an animal urge...and take it whenever offered....or do we put more emotion in it.....but then that can be dangerous in a swinging situation. Lets say a couple is good enough to share there time with a single guy....you would not want an emotional link as such between the lady and the single guy...else it may get out of control and break up what was a very good relationship. Like you say Debs makes you think that litle bit harder about your and others true intentions !!!
Finding someone sexually attractive does not mean you are over come with emotions does it
And surely the fact we cannot control who we find sexually attractive demonstrates it is a natural instinct???
Sex God
I wouldn't shag someone if there was no attraction but my ideas of whether someone was ugly or not may not be the same as someone elses. To be honest I find personality much more of a turn on or turn off although I'll be honest and say a nice pair of boobs do turn my head! 
Quote by PoloLady
Where ever you find the beauty is irrelevant in this case... the question was would you shag an ugly person?
Would you shag a person YOU found to be ugly? Not whether other people find them ugly or not. If you saw them as ugly... would you shag them?
i have shagged loads of people i find ugly
Sex God
Quote by Debbiewebs
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!
davej looks down at the wizzened palm of his hand. At the once straight fingers with their bright nails now bent and yellowed with age, at the deep score lines and veins, that are thInly shielded by a dry parchment like skin, that was once taut and fresh, at the warts and liver spots that seemed so repulsive when first viewed on an elderly parents hand and thinks......
fuck it I'm desperate.
Quote by davej
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!
davej looks down at the wizzened palm of his hand. At the once straight fingers with their bright nails now bent and yellowed with age, at the deep score lines and veins, that are thInly shielded by a dry parchment like skin, that was once taut and fresh, at the warts and liver spots that seemed so repulsive when first viewed on an elderly parents hand and thinks......
fuck it I'm desperate.
well that buggers up are meet then dont it :P
Quote by davej
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!
davej looks down at the wizzened palm of his hand. At the once straight fingers with their bright nails now bent and yellowed with age, at the deep score lines and veins, that are thInly shielded by a dry parchment like skin, that was once taut and fresh, at the warts and liver spots that seemed so repulsive when first viewed on an elderly parents hand and thinks......
fuck it I'm desperate.
desperate is ugly
Ah! It's the question which is flawed. :shock: :shock: :shock:
'Ugly' is a personal perception but not a criteria for deciding a relationship on or a sexual encounter on. Look deeper for the beauty within. Most times the 'beautiful' people lack that depth, focussing their lives of shallowness of first impressions.
I find the subject tasteless actually. On the borders of offensive but definitely tasteless. Or to use the newly coined word from the mighty Sarge, it's 'bobbins'.
'Ugly' is a personal perception but not a criteria for deciding a relationship on or a sexual encounter on. Look deeper for the beauty within. Most times the 'beautiful' people lack that depth, focussing their lives of shallowness of first impressions.
I find the subject tasteless actually. On the borders of offensive but definitely tasteless. Or to use the newly coined word from the mighty Sarge, it's 'bobbins'.
Quote by Jags
Ah! It's the question which is flawed. :shock: :shock: :shock:
May be , may be not.
'Ugly' is a personal perception but not a criteria for deciding a relationship on or a sexual encounter on.
The question did not ask about forming a relationship - that is something different, even if it is a friendship, it is different. The question asked about a sexual encounter.
Look deeper for the beauty within. Most times the 'beautiful' people lack that depth, focussing their lives of shallowness of first impressions.
Poeple enjoy recreational sex in all different ways (though there are some on here that don't seem to enjoy it at all) - sometimes there just isn't the time to get to see a persons inner self or it is not important in that particular encounter
I wonder why so many people ask for photos (face pics or body shots) if our outwardly appearance is not important.
Why do people spend a bit more time getting ready to go out if they are meeting someone?
Look at nature and the displays many animals have to attract a mate!
I find the subject tasteless actually. On the borders of offensive but definitely tasteless. Or to use the newly coined word from the mighty Sarge, it's 'bobbins'.
May be because you are looking at it on the surface and not what really lies beneath. At face value most questions are 'bobbins' it is what you can draw from the answers that adds depth.
The question does lead to another question - How would you feel about having sex with someone who told you " I don't find you sexually attractive at all - but I think you are a nice person" ????
Quote by Debbiewebs
i have to say this as i am off on one tonight!
If you do not find the other attractive in anyway and just want a shag.......... you must be desprate!................ and i am total not interested in peeps that are!
Debs has vistions of dirty men in rain coats!
actually i don't agree, i have met a woman on a regular basis for over 2 years now who i do not find at all attractive in the looks department but shes a really nice woman and has come to be one of my best friends, i don't feel that i am despatate for choosing personality over looks but each to their own i suppose, i have also has sex with many men in clubs thats i do not find attractive, again i do not feel that i am desparate its just a case of going there for a reason and having good sex is more important that having a good looking guy who loves himself. Again each to their own and i don't suppose theres a right and wrong on the subject its just a matter of opinion
