Yo Single Guys, why can't you accommodate?

4 Jun 2012

Quote by M1ssVery
If you were on a night out, in a bar, met someone, decided to get frisky..would that be ok to bring them home? Does it then have an element of "normal" to it?

:shock: Nope. Not in our family. No way.
I must admit I'm a dab hand at sorting out a hotel room at very short notice. wink

4 Jun 2012

Quote by noladreams
If you were on a night out, in a bar, met someone, decided to get frisky..would that be ok to bring them home? Does it then have an element of "normal" to it?

:shock: Nope. Not in our family. No way.
I must admit I'm a dab hand at sorting out a hotel room at very short notice. wink

Must remember that. ;)

4 Jun 2012

It's not like we wear neon pants that say "Property of SH"
Speak for yourself I think my neon pants look cool and people in Tesco's just think SH is my partner :thrilled:

6 Jun 2012

Quote by M1ssVery
There are many reasons why someone may not be able to accommodate, be they single guys, girls or couples.
With the current economic climate, lots if singles simply can't afford to move out anymore and many are moving back in with parents but maybe don't want to admit to that.
Some single guys have kids, I know it's recognised as the norm that kids live with their mum but it's not a rule. We have come across (not literally) a few single guys who can't accommodate due to having full custody of a child. I wouldn't accommodate if my kids were here and wouldn't get accused of being dishonest and not would a single girl, why should a guy?
Bit of a 'tar them all with the same brush' cos they're all cheating bastards' single guy bashing thread to me!!

But excuses I'm getting are "i live with people", "my housemate's friend is over this weekend" etc.. So that's what's got me thinking dunno

No bashing intended, I'm the single man's number one fan!
easy, just go for guys who can accomodate....problem over

7 Jun 2012

We think that it is up to each individual to whatever they put or don't put on thier profile but surely that does not mean that people cannot debate the subject in a forum without people ssying it is a problem, it is just a debate people discussing a subject that they have a view about, nobody needs to agree with them, some will some won't, it does give everyone a chance to air thier own opinion, kinda what forums are for really lol

8 Jun 2012

OP is right to pass over "single guys" who can't accomodate - if the guy is looking to make the most of this lifestyle then he has no excuse at all not to be able to accomodate.
House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy
There are plenty of "single" guys out there and the OP is doing the right thing passing over guys who can't accomodate. Not even worth getting into a discussion with them about the reasons - no need - there are plenty out there who can accommodate.

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy

I've read some garbage in my time but I'm pretty sure this tops it all :lol2:

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Steve

House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy

I have read some opinions and views in my time but this is one that I cannot wholeheartedly agree with, I would not want to meet anyone with a dirty home, clothes or personal hygene and do think that they do go hand in hand, a person who can live in filth is less likely to care for thier own personal hygene, so there is some truth in that. Living with parents meaning no commitment is not something I would agree with but garbage, no, just one persons opinion, I think there can be valid reasons for living with your parents such as having elderly parents who need caring for, that for me does not automatically mean a lack of commitment, perhaps actually the opposite, showing more of a commitment but with higher priorities than personal gratification, (no reason why they cannot state this in thier profile though)
Children in the house - celibacy, no just a decent set of morals, sometimes play can be achieved when kids are in the house but not in all homes, that applies to couples and 1 parent families, just my opinion though your statement about it being garbage is your opinion and one your entitled to so I will not insult you for what you write.
I've read some garbage in my time but I'm pretty sure this tops it all :lol2:

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
OP is right to pass over "single guys" who can't accomodate - if the guy is looking to make the most of this lifestyle then he has no excuse at all not to be able to accomodate.
House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy
There are plenty of "single" guys out there and the OP is doing the right thing passing over guys who can't accomodate. Not even worth getting into a discussion with them about the reasons - no need - there are plenty out there who can accommodate.

Does the same apply to women and couples who can't accommodate?
We can rarely accommodate. He has housemates and my neighbours can hear us cough let alone having a meet with another couple, so it's just not happening.
Yes it can be a red flag, but it's by no means a foregone conclusion and to be so scathing is a little harsh imo.

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Sexi_n_Bright
OP is right to pass over "single guys" who can't accomodate - if the guy is looking to make the most of this lifestyle then he has no excuse at all not to be able to accomodate.
House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy
There are plenty of "single" guys out there and the OP is doing the right thing passing over guys who can't accomodate. Not even worth getting into a discussion with them about the reasons - no need - there are plenty out there who can accommodate.

Does the same apply to women and couples who can't accommodate?
We can rarely accommodate. He has housemates and my neighbours can hear us cough let alone having a meet with another couple, so it's just not happening.
Yes it can be a red flag, but it's by no means a foregone conclusion and to be so scathing is a little harsh imo.
But the answer is in your profile, you like many couples state that accommodating is difficult, but you explain WHY, that's all anyone has to do, single guy but cannot accommodate due to shared accommodation, housing is part of employment like fireman, army barracks etc, single parent and wont play while kids home etc etc
It's not Rocket Science (unless you live on site at Cern in Switzerland or at NASA of course

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Steve

House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy

I've read some garbage in my time but I'm pretty sure this tops it all :lol2:
Yes right
If you want to be a Swinger - just sort your life out so you can do it properly - how hard is that? God if I were single I'd have a top shag pad just to make the most of opportunities. This sounds so tytpical of British equal opportunities for everyone bollocks. If you are a single guy and want to be a successful swinger - make a flippin effort.
What is the point listening to excuses and reasons - just a waste of time and plenty of other people out there.

8 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot

House/flat is a mess? - Dirty home, dirty person
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle
Children in the hous? - Clearly committed to a future life of celibacy

I've read some garbage in my time but I'm pretty sure this tops it all :lol2:
Yes right
If you want to be a Swinger - just sort your life out so you can do it properly - how hard is that? God if I were single I'd have a top shag pad just to make the most of opportunities. This sounds so tytpical of British equal opportunities for everyone bollocks. If you are a single guy and want to be a successful swinger - make a flippin effort.
What is the point listening to excuses and reasons - just a waste of time and plenty of other people out there.
I guess for most people, swinging is just one part of their lives instead of feeling that their life has to be centred around it :-?
So they'd not feel the need to kick out their kids or elderly mother or break the bank to afford a place on their own just so they could get a couple more people interested in a shag.
What a bizarre attitude you display - serious swingers adhere to your way of doing it or they're pissing about.

8 Jun 2012

I just have no idea how you can find anything to argue about the point.
If you are a single guy and you want to make the most of swinging opportunities - then just make an effort to sort your life out so that you can.
This is not about women singles, or couples but about "single" males cos that is what the OP started the thread about. Why be a desperado single guy who can't accomodate because of any multitude of complete bollox excuses. A one bedroom flat costs a few hundred quid a month - get yourself sorted out for goodness sake.
If, as a single guy, you cant afford to sort yourself out - then don't bwe surprised if hottie single women like the OP give you short shift - no effort, no reward. That's the real world.

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
If, as a single guy, you cant afford to sort yourself out - then don't bwe surprised if hottie single women like the OP give you short shift - no effort, no reward. That's the real world.

When I was single, I would gladly pass them over. Swinging and private was kept seperate, at one point, when I enetered the lifestyle.
My home was seperate to my lifestyle. If the other person didn't like it and thought something was fishy, then tough luck on them. My rules, my lifestyle and no complaints from me.........that is also the real world. I lost no sleep over it and if I was single I wouldn't lose sleep over someone not wanting to meet me because I would not meet them in my home, or tell them what my job was, or give them any information about my private life that I was not comfortable in giving.
However, as time moved on I did start to invite people from the lifestyle into my home............I married someone from this site, and a few members attended the wedding.........but it was all about me, my rules and what I was comfortable with. It was definately not to have a "reward"
Dave_Notts

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
I just have no idea how you can find anything to argue about the point.

Easy, cos I think you're talking rubbish.
I'm not looking for a life partner, nor was I when I played as a single female. I'm looking for someone fun, who does it for me in bed.
As long as they have a decent reason for why they can't accommodate so I feel happy that they're not cheating, I don't care. If I want to meet them, I'll meet in a club, a hotel or at mine. Their situation could be caused by all sorts of reasons, not just being a loser as you imply. None of those reasons impact on me having some NSA fun with that person.

9 Jun 2012

A lot of people keep referring to "the lifestyle" and keeping that hidden from housemates or neighbours.. Maybe I am just naive, but how is bringing someone home (especially for a guy in this day an age) "outing" you as part of this lifestyle?
I think swinging is a mindset.. it's about how liberated you are about your sexuality and your thoughts and attitude.. How can anyone pinpoint that about you if they spot you bringing a girl home?
I refer to guys, because, the topic was started after I experienced 4 different guys who refused to accommodate me and then turned out to be having partners..So please easy on me with the whole "single fems are just as guilty )
I do and have invited guys over even when I was once staying as a lodger with a friend for a few weeks!
In the "real world" I have never come across this issue..sometimes labeling me as a girl FROM said "lifestyle" feels like a bit of a punishment for being on an "immoral" website..I am still girlfriend material you know he he, decent girl next door you can introduce to your mother!! No real life/vanilla date has ever offered to take me to a hotel or thought twice about having me over..maybe they would have if I had told them I'm looking to shag a couple? :giggle:

9 Jun 2012

It's all just daft...just put in your profile that you won't meet single guys who can't accomodate....you know that there are few good reasons why they couldn't. Lots of people, every day meet guys who can't accomodate......but they're often being paid to remain discreet. Make a rule never to meet single guys who won't accomodate and you're ahead of the game to start with.

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
Living with parents? - No committment to make the most of lifestyle

:shock: WTF? Seriously? I was living with my folks for the last few years whilst I undertook a career change and got my finances sorted.
Not committed to the 'lifestyle'? I would beg to differ and so would the many, many people I've met (sexually and socially wink

) As would the hoteliers who have put me up so I could demonstrate my commitment over and over again! :rascal:
Now I am living in my own house it is highly unlikely that either my commitment will wane or my swinging modus operandi will change. I don't want to invite random strangers into my home. I like fucking them in expensive hotels though. :thumbup:
But then by other folks' narrow definitions, I probably ain't a swinger... never mind a really committed one rolleyes

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Too Hot
If you want to be a Swinger - just sort your life out so you can do it properly - how hard is that?

PMSFL - really?
We know plenty of swingers that don't accomodate, including us. Does that make us and them not 'proper' swingers? I would hazard a guess that we have played with more people than most 'proper' swingers that accomodate - but then maybe playing isn't 'proper' swinging dunno

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The simple answer has been suggested to the OP - don't even respond to people that can't accomodate and the problem is solved.
There is too much bollox written on this site, and others, about how people should swing. Do what you want to do and let others do what they want to do. Superior pontificating never looks good.

9 Jun 2012

Quote by noladreams
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Now I am living in my own house it is highly unlikely that either my commitment will wane or my swinging modus operandi will change. I don't want to invite random strangers into my home. I like fucking them in expensive hotels though. :thumbup::

I suppose a Travelodge meet is out of the question then.... :sad:

9 Jun 2012

Quote by MikeNorth
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Now I am living in my own house it is highly unlikely that either my commitment will wane or my swinging modus operandi will change. I don't want to invite random strangers into my home. I like fucking them in expensive hotels though. :thumbup::

I suppose a Travelodge meet is out of the question then.... :sad:
Ha! I'm not averse to a travelodge wink

9 Jun 2012

Quote by northwest-cpl
If you want to be a Swinger - just sort your life out so you can do it properly - how hard is that?

PMSFL - really?
We know plenty of swingers that don't accomodate, including us. Does that make us and them not 'proper' swingers? I would hazard a guess that we have played with more people than most 'proper' swingers that accomodate - but then maybe playing isn't 'proper' swinging dunno

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The simple answer has been suggested to the OP - don't even respond to people that can't accomodate and the problem is solved.
There is too much bollox written on this site, and others, about how people should swing. Do what you want to do and let others do what they want to do. Superior pontificating never looks good.
Neither do we - but the OP was referring to single men.

9 Jun 2012

/delete. Overly annoyed for no particular reason.

9 Jun 2012

because moving back to Mum`s a good option.......

9 Jun 2012

Quote by twos_company
because moving back to Mum`s a good option.......

Sometimes it is the only option. I had to for a while when I moved back into the area after leaving a job that my accommodation included before I bought the house I am in now.

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Meeko
because moving back to Mum`s a good option.......

Sometimes it is the only option. I had to for a while when I moved back into the area after leaving a job that my accommodation included before I bought the house I am in now.
yep.. but we`d just about got used 2 the peace n quiet... now it`s a mad house again
n 2 think i was complaining 3 of us were rattling around...

9 Jun 2012

n they prob don`t wanna say they 30 somethings who moved back 2 mums

9 Jun 2012

is it the time of the month for bashing single guys again?
isnt this supposed to be a community and all treated as equal regardless or colour,creed and sexual preference.
in some of you i am very disappointed that you overlook this repeatedly for your own gratification and love to bash single guys.

10 Jun 2012

Quote by ip-man
is it the time of the month for bashing single guys again?
isnt this supposed to be a community and all treated as equal regardless or colour,creed and sexual preference.
in some of you i am very disappointed that you overlook this repeatedly for your own gratification and love to bash single guys.

I do not bash anyone ip-man, unless it's in the bedroom ;) The opening post was derived from (and i reiterate!) recent personal experiences of non-accommodating "single" guys turning out to be attached.. if anyone has similar experiences with fems or couples, feel free to discuss ;)

10 Jun 2012

Quote by ip-man
is it the time of the month for bashing single guys again?
isnt this supposed to be a community and all treated as equal regardless or colour,creed and sexual preference.
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Equally cant happen if people want different things and as for single guy bashing? That aint really happening here. In fact one could say that the thread at least shows that there are swingers out there who go out and f*ck single guys and yes we are one of those couples, well I don't f*ck them but i do watch me Mrs f*ck them and it is on unequal terms as they must be able to accommodate and we wont accommodate.