I agree with your mate M1ssvery...
Although sometimes, excuses aside, its all about gut instinct. That it the best way to judge a situation. :bounce:
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Yo Single Guys, why can't you accommodate?
I tend to be cautious about accommodating for a couple of reasons.
A few years ago I managed to land myself with a complete nutjob who wouldn't leave me alone ... ended up having the police involved and all sorts - kinda made me cautious about first time meets at my place, although it does happen if I feel ok about it.
Mostly though it's 'cos I'm an untidy bugger and feel embarrassed about the state of my flat ... gimme enough notice however and the place will be spotless.
Edit: Slightly off topic, but also on the subject of nutjobs and accommodating, I also once managed to find a girl who tried to keep me prisoner in her home and wouldn't let me out until I'd threatened to break her windows to escape!
I think I might be a nutter magnet!
A few years ago I managed to land myself with a complete nutjob who wouldn't leave me alone ... ended up having the police involved and all sorts - kinda made me cautious about first time meets at my place, although it does happen if I feel ok about it.
Mostly though it's 'cos I'm an untidy bugger and feel embarrassed about the state of my flat ... gimme enough notice however and the place will be spotless.
Edit: Slightly off topic, but also on the subject of nutjobs and accommodating, I also once managed to find a girl who tried to keep me prisoner in her home and wouldn't let me out until I'd threatened to break her windows to escape!
I think I might be a nutter magnet!
Quote by Waterpistol
I tend to be cautious about accommodating for a couple of reasons.
A few years ago I managed to land myself with a complete nutjob who wouldn't leave me alone ... ended up having the police involved and all sorts - kinda made me cautious about first time meets at my place, although it does happen if I feel ok about it.
Mostly though it's 'cos I'm an untidy bugger and feel embarrassed about the state of my flat ... gimme enough notice however and the place will be spotless.
Edit: Slightly off topic, but also on the subject of nutjobs and accommodating, I also once managed to find a girl who tried to keep me prisoner in her home and wouldn't let me out until I'd threatened to break her windows to escape!
I think I might be a nutter magnet!
Waterpistol - I do concur. I too have been in such situations. Reading your post then sent a shudder through me. I guess meeting potential strangers is always going to present such a risk. Admittedly i can and do accommodate, only i wouldnt do it on a first meet. I tell you what though, off topic or not, Ive had a girl refuse to leave my flat. Ive also had one threaten to turn up at my work making up stuff. Its really quite amazing at the 'un-hinged' element. Thats not just exclusive to SH thbough, you can meeet these people in every day life. Only you get to make some sort of Dynamic risk assessment in those situations. Where as many a "Nut-job" can hide being a text or two with no issues...
Good luck for the future mate,
) I think the thing is, while I'm willing and able to accommodate, I would rather meet up somewhere neutral first.
However, I suppose I do have a degree of double standards 'cos I have gone straight 'round people's houses before without a care in the world - mostly a success, but also with my fair share of "how on earth do I get out of this?" moments.
However, I suppose I do have a degree of double standards 'cos I have gone straight 'round people's houses before without a care in the world - mostly a success, but also with my fair share of "how on earth do I get out of this?" moments.
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This is a pretty common theme and I stopped entertaining anyone who couldn't accom as it always worked out that they'd lied about their status. Now, I don't give two shits if you're married or not and you can lie to your wife all you like - that's your problem. But lie to me, especially when there's no reason to since I don't have an issue with meeting attached people, then I am not interested.
This followed an incident where I met a single male, who then admitted he was still married but separated, got to his house and not only was there his wedding photo on display but the dresser is full of perfume and make up and even her slippers are still next to the fucking bed!!
Oh C'mon Marya, the poor guy was still in shock....he was hoping she'd eventually see that he was a good honest straight up guy and return to him, hell he even has her slippers waitin' for her. Anyway, I hope you managed to comfort him somewhat......before the bingo finished.
Quote by Too HotYup, that's me
House/falt is untidy? - Can't be bothered attitude
I'm busy, I have a busy life - so my energy goes into the things I like doing ... mostly keeping fit and being creative. If things bore me then I can't be bothered, and housework is something I do in my own time, not 'cos I'm on a promise.
Quote by Too HotActually I do get you here.
If you want to be a Swinger - just sort your life out so you can do it properly - how hard is that? God if I were single I'd have a top shag pad just to make the most of opportunities. This sounds so tytpical of British equal opportunities for everyone bollocks. If you are a single guy and want to be a successful swinger - make a flippin effort.
I'm not a swinger, I've never identified as such, but I still like sex so in that respect I guess I'm just a single bloke trying his luck ... and sadly what I've seen of the swinging scene in Britain are a lot of people who really wouldn't get laid under "normal" circumstances - males, females and couples who make no effort to take care of themselves.
Which is another good reason not to accommodate on a first meeting. I mean, each to their own, and it's not all about looks, but photos on the net can be seriously deceptive.
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Recently I posted about a "SINGLE" guy who wanted to meet me at a hotel because turns out he has a girlfriend...
You also put on your profile that you're looking for straight men. You may not venture into the bi rooms, but if you do, you will know that a lot of guys with 'straight' on their profiles can be found proudly on cam and knocking one out for the lads.
Yes, some might have been drunk and got there by accident, but not all. Certainly if I'm having a play on cam as well, I get plenty of whispers from 'straight' guys.
Most of them tend to have something like 'almost divorced' on their profile, but after a bit of talking that turns out to be more wishful thinking on his part more than anything else.
I'm not bothered about this, it's just all part of the deal of a website like this.
If he says to you that he cannot accomodate, then decide if you like him enough to take a chance that he's not married etc.
Not being able to accommodate shouldn't be the deal-breaker.
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This is a pretty common theme and I stopped entertaining anyone who couldn't accom as it always worked out that they'd lied about their status. Now, I don't give two shits if you're married or not and you can lie to your wife all you like - that's your problem. But lie to me, especially when there's no reason to since I don't have an issue with meeting attached people, then I am not interested.
This followed an incident where I met a single male, who then admitted he was still married but separated, got to his house and not only was there his wedding photo on display but the dresser is full of perfume and make up and even her slippers are still next to the fucking bed!!
Oh C'mon Marya, the poor guy was still in shock....he was hoping she'd eventually see that he was a good honest straight up guy and return to him, hell he even has her slippers waitin' for her. Anyway, I hope you managed to comfort him somewhat......before the bingo finished.
:lol:
Yeah, she came back for slippers and we went to a hotel instead. :mrgreen:
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I have to 'fess up...during easter hols I wasn't able to accomodate (for the whole month) cos my wife and 3 youngest kids were stayin with me, and I only have one bedroom. Well I thought it might not have gone down well to bring someone back under the circumstances, but I might have risked it if there was an offer to do the washin' up thrown in.
Warming the Bed
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Edit: Slightly off topic, but also on the subject of nutjobs and accommodating, I also once managed to find a girl who tried to keep me prisoner in her home and wouldn't let me out until I'd threatened to break her windows to escape!
I think I might be a nutter magnet!
Wow! This reminds me of my husband emailed me a month or two ago. Gotta love insane ladies!
You might be a nutter mugnet? Quoting from your profile:
Looking for Miss Wrong ;-)
Definitely attracted to the bad girlsTeehee! Only a tiny *twist* and you've crossed over to full-blown nutter territory! (don't ask me how I know haha). It's the risk of your tastes.
