You bitch!

3 Apr 2007

Reading a couple of other threads about posting, comments, general bitchiness et al got me to thinking. Why do we bitch about people? Whether it's deliberate or not, some things we say can sound incredibly hurtful.
Example: I was chatting to a mate the other day and the name of a mutual acquaintance popped up. I said something which I meant as witty but my friend was horrified! She berated me in no uncertain terms and asked why I'd said what I did, as it's not like me to be so bitchy. It wasn't until I thought about what I'd said that I realised it DID come across as bitchy and not witty at all. I was mortified! redface

Now I know some people ( not necessarily on here I hasten to add ) have a bitchometer which goes off scale at times and every venom dripped word is meant wholeheartedly and they seem to take pleasure in it. Some of my work colleagues for instance can be the cattiest and most hurtful women on the plane, as I'm sure every workplace has them.
It's the innocent remarks I'm on about. Have you ever said something to/about someone that's come out entirely the wrong way and you've regretted it ever since?

3 Apr 2007

I have to admit....
nah, Im saying nowt...
oh ok then;
I can be just a tad bitchy... often with a humourous slant, but can get a tad carried away with that myself.. and afore long, Im spitting hatred and bile in the general direction of anyone and no-one in particular!!! :shock:
It's a good job I'm harmless is all I can say....
as to *why*...well... dunno...
feel a hell of lot better when spent though... hehe
lp

3 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Now I know some people have a bitchometer which goes off scale at times and every venom dripped word is meant wholeheartedly and they seem to take pleasure in it.

I'm working on correcting that. Sorry

4 Apr 2007

hi i tend to have a sarcastic moment at times, not on purpose it just comes out, its my mother coming out of me lol

:lol: :lol: :lol:

4 Apr 2007

I am prod to say I am not bitchy, how can I be , I am male.
Tender Loving Female, were you really born in 1416. Still at least you are not American...are you? redface

4 Apr 2007

I feel like ive been a bit of a bitch on here recently. It was totally unintentional but after sending a pm to someone, realised straight away that I should never have sent it :shock:
I was trying to do good with it but it sort of upset the person that it was meant to do good for :doh: ( which they have forgiven me for I think)
Im not normally a bitchy person, and normally take great offence at being bitched at, but I can give as good as i recieve, if need be.
Some people are bitchy just for the sake of it and need a taste of their own medicine now and again.
Not just here but real life too.
Louise xx

4 Apr 2007

OK sorry, a joke is sometimes not a joke.

4 Apr 2007

Quote by
I am prod to say I am not bitchy, how can I be , I am male.
Tender Loving Female, were you really born in 1416. Still at least you are not American...are you?

Nah she means she was born at 16 minutes past 2 rolleyes

DD :giggle:

4 Apr 2007

hi sassy....i obviously said some things on here last year that got a few people up,which was meant to be tongue in err..cheek!but i don't regret saying bottle of baileys is still in my cellar by the way wink

4 Apr 2007

I think I suffer from terminal foot in mouth. My list of examples would be endless.
I was chatting with an attracive woman at a party, we discovered we went to the same secondary school.
"oh" she said "we must have been at school together"
"No" I replied "I think you left a few years before I went there"
I might as well said your really old redface

4 Apr 2007

I think the trouble with cyber/text world especially is the recipient cannot always gauge how the writer is posing their comments... ie., the writer may think they've written something funny or witty but the recipient could be having an 'off' day and pick it up so wrong.
As for here on the other hand, I'm aware of one person who has left here because of downright bitchiness and another who is well on the way to leaving... there's simply no need - I always think to myself, how would I feel if I was on the receiving end and that tends to keep my mouth shut even if I am feeling in a bitchy mood (which isn't very often I have to add).

4 Apr 2007

After being on the receiving end of so much abuse over the years, I sometimes have to physically restrain myself from saying or typing things I hear in "real life" and on here. I hate bitchiness. I'm not saying I'm not capable of it (and when I have been I feel bad about it immediately). But it's human nature (one of the more negative aspects...), and I'm afraid that it is something that won't just resolve itself over night.

4 Apr 2007

i tend not to bitch as it some thing i just dont like but have found my self doing this at time and think to my self walk away life to short but think we all do it just some time we dont know were doing it

4 Apr 2007

Quote by
I am prod to say I am not bitchy, how can I be , I am male.
Tender Loving Female, were you really born in 1416. Still at least you are not American...are you?

See ... prime example of how things can be taken in a different way than how you meant them cos my first reaction to that was "WTF does he mean 'At least you're not American'" :shock:
In fact I still don't know what you mean so I'm just gonna go get a cup of tea instead. ;)

4 Apr 2007

i admit that i can be a bitch at times, i dont mean to but sometimes things slip out.
the only thing i can say in my defence is that i dont normally mean it, and if i do, its because i have a reason and in those cases would happily tell the person to their face anyway
wbb
x

4 Apr 2007

"You say it best when you say nothing at all" has been sung to me before now biggrin

no I am not bitchy but can be too honest which can hurt just as much so sometimes have to remember this rolleyes

4 Apr 2007

Quote by
I am prod to say I am not bitchy, how can I be , I am male.
Tender Loving Female, were you really born in 1416. Still at least you are not American...are you?

Now how do you know im not American rolleyes

:roll: :roll:

4 Apr 2007

I am definately not a bitch, never have been, never will be :smug:

4 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard
I am definately not a bitch, never have been, never will be :smug:

I can vouch for that! drinkies

5 Apr 2007

Quote by Abilene
I am prod to say I am not bitchy, how can I be , I am male.
Tender Loving Female, were you really born in 1416. Still at least you are not American...are you?

See ... prime example of how things can be taken in a different way than how you meant them cos my first reaction to that was "WTF does he mean 'At least you're not American'" :shock:
In fact I still don't know what you mean so I'm just gonna go get a cup of tea instead. ;)
I wanted you to talk to be, and I was to shy to approach you directly.
Like someone said it help if both are on the same wavelength. What is a friendly jive to the speaker becomes something else to the listener.
To put your mind at rest, it was not a good idea, but I knew it would gain your attention. surprised

ops: FOOL that I am.

10 Apr 2007

Bitchyness can also be
1 an attempt to be like by the person you are with to the determent of another
2 to gain attention.
3 to prove a point, sorry Ab.
Bitchyness may be wrong, but it is done for many reasons.

10 Apr 2007

to be honest i probably have and if ive managed to find out ive always apologised.
got to the point sometimes i even apologise b4 i even speak my mind.