We'd love to chat with other couples in the same sort of relationship as ours. Polly is 23 and Alfie is 58 and we have a wonderful loving relationship but have large problems with the way people react to us when out and about, mainly from women strangely. It's amazing how judgemental people can be! We even had one woman spit at Polly!! I think a lot of it is jealousy from the women because their man is oggling Polly but who knows. Any advice would be really appreciated. Perhaps we could even meet up with couples in the same situation to exchange experiences etc.
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Hi, I am a single male so not sure how much my personal opinion is but for what it is worth... I think you should ignore all together the bigotry and intolerance showed by other people.
I do not understand why do people like to judge and impose their life views on other people. The spiting act as far as i am concerned is just an act of desperation and demonstration of lack of understanding and tolerance. Also a pure case of primal instincts taking control over actions when the brain fails comprehend and come up with proper response to the situation, which would be, if you don't like it or feel displeased with something move on and respect the people around you.
I fail to find anything wrong with your relationship and even more so i fail to understand what it's got to do with me or any other person really. As far as i am concerned you are two loving individuals who share the same interests and feelings for each other and if somebody has a problem with it they can leave the planet as they are the one instigating conflict not yourselves.
I hate intolerance and i hate people poking their noses in other people's private affairs so you should just ignore the clowns and disapproving looks and just have fun and leave them in their peril to drown in their anguish that they cannot comprehend anything that is outside of their pre programmed understanding of the world is and what it has to look like.
To me physical demonstrations and outbursts are a sure sign of low mental capabilities. An intelligent person regardless of his/her feelings towards certain aspect of the surrounding world will either say something intelligent to show his views or keep himself out of things that do not concern him/her directly. Failing to do so links you directly to your animal ancestry.
I am sorry for the fragmented thoughts but every time i see and hear something like what Alfie and Polly have experienced i just feel exasperated and loose faith in humanity.
Sincerely,
T
I do not understand why do people like to judge and impose their life views on other people. The spiting act as far as i am concerned is just an act of desperation and demonstration of lack of understanding and tolerance. Also a pure case of primal instincts taking control over actions when the brain fails comprehend and come up with proper response to the situation, which would be, if you don't like it or feel displeased with something move on and respect the people around you.
I fail to find anything wrong with your relationship and even more so i fail to understand what it's got to do with me or any other person really. As far as i am concerned you are two loving individuals who share the same interests and feelings for each other and if somebody has a problem with it they can leave the planet as they are the one instigating conflict not yourselves.
I hate intolerance and i hate people poking their noses in other people's private affairs so you should just ignore the clowns and disapproving looks and just have fun and leave them in their peril to drown in their anguish that they cannot comprehend anything that is outside of their pre programmed understanding of the world is and what it has to look like.
To me physical demonstrations and outbursts are a sure sign of low mental capabilities. An intelligent person regardless of his/her feelings towards certain aspect of the surrounding world will either say something intelligent to show his views or keep himself out of things that do not concern him/her directly. Failing to do so links you directly to your animal ancestry.
I am sorry for the fragmented thoughts but every time i see and hear something like what Alfie and Polly have experienced i just feel exasperated and loose faith in humanity.
Sincerely,
T
Thanks for that tintiri, it was very helpful. We agree that we should ignore them but sometimes, especially in restaurants it gets very difficult. We were in one a couple of weeks ago when the woman on the next table started openly criticising us. It just gets wearing at times especially as we're so happy and in love and find it hard to hide the fact. Don't get the impression that we're all over each other all the time, although the temptation is huge at times and Polly is quite an exhibitionist, it's just the looks we give each other and the fact that obviously enjoy each other's company so much that seems to get them.
I was in a relationship 10 years ago (I was 47) my partner was 17, she had told me she was 19 but I still believed she was too young for me, but she fancied me and wanted a relationship so who was I to refuse a very attractive girl, I figured it would last a month before she bored with me, so what had I got to lose, a month of fun 
As she was at college the friends she brought home were also 17-18, I was surprised how they were all willing to join us as a couple and not just interested in her.
We stayed together for 6 years and I learned that the age difference did not matter, I loved her and to me her age was immaterial, she was very intelligent, taught me a lot of things, tried to teach me more, quantum physics and bending space really baffled me but her knowledge of BDSM and other sexual matters amazed me.
Now I am with Sasha, we are into our 5th year together and the age gap is slightly less, just 28 years between us now.
With my ex I was occasionally asked if she was my daughter to which I just gave an honest reply "no she is too young to be my daughter she is my partner"
With Sasha people don't tend to ask, we don't see any animosity towards us out on the street, shopping or in restaurants.
I do believe it would be different in pubs or nightclubs but we don't use them, we have two great swingers clubs within 5 minutes, these are our pubs and dance venues.
In the world of swinging we do find it makes a difference, for a small few Sasha is too young (30) but for most that would like her I am too old (57) I believe if we were both in our early 30s we wouldn't have a problem, neither would we have a problem getting meets if we were both in our late 50s but the age gap means it takes us around 4-5 months to get a meet despite the fact that with no kids and working from home we are pretty much available anytime.
I would not say to anyone "go and find yourself a younger woman or man and it does have it's relationship difficulties over and above normal relationship issues but when it does work it is as fantastic as any other relationship when two people are in love, honest with each other and above all talk to each other.
As she was at college the friends she brought home were also 17-18, I was surprised how they were all willing to join us as a couple and not just interested in her.
We stayed together for 6 years and I learned that the age difference did not matter, I loved her and to me her age was immaterial, she was very intelligent, taught me a lot of things, tried to teach me more, quantum physics and bending space really baffled me but her knowledge of BDSM and other sexual matters amazed me.
Now I am with Sasha, we are into our 5th year together and the age gap is slightly less, just 28 years between us now.
With my ex I was occasionally asked if she was my daughter to which I just gave an honest reply "no she is too young to be my daughter she is my partner"
With Sasha people don't tend to ask, we don't see any animosity towards us out on the street, shopping or in restaurants.
I do believe it would be different in pubs or nightclubs but we don't use them, we have two great swingers clubs within 5 minutes, these are our pubs and dance venues.
In the world of swinging we do find it makes a difference, for a small few Sasha is too young (30) but for most that would like her I am too old (57) I believe if we were both in our early 30s we wouldn't have a problem, neither would we have a problem getting meets if we were both in our late 50s but the age gap means it takes us around 4-5 months to get a meet despite the fact that with no kids and working from home we are pretty much available anytime.
I would not say to anyone "go and find yourself a younger woman or man and it does have it's relationship difficulties over and above normal relationship issues but when it does work it is as fantastic as any other relationship when two people are in love, honest with each other and above all talk to each other.
Quote by MidsCouple24
I was in a relationship 10 years ago (I was 47) my partner was 17, she had told me she was 19 but I still believed she was too young for me, but she fancied me and wanted a relationship so who was I to refuse a very attractive girl, I figured it would last a month before she bored with me, so what had I got to lose, a month of fun
As she was at college the friends she brought home were also 17-18, I was surprised how they were all willing to join us as a couple and not just interested in her.
We stayed together for 6 years and I learned that the age difference did not matter, I loved her and to me her age was immaterial, she was very intelligent, taught me a lot of things, tried to teach me more, quantum physics and bending space really baffled me but her knowledge of BDSM and other sexual matters amazed me.
Now I am with Sasha, we are into our 5th year together and the age gap is slightly less, just 28 years between us now.
With my ex I was occasionally asked if she was my daughter to which I just gave an honest reply "no she is too young to be my daughter she is my partner"
With Sasha people don't tend to ask, we don't see any animosity towards us out on the street, shopping or in restaurants.
I do believe it would be different in pubs or nightclubs but we don't use them, we have two great swingers clubs within 5 minutes, these are our pubs and dance venues.
In the world of swinging we do find it makes a difference, for a small few Sasha is too young (30) but for most that would like her I am too old (57) I believe if we were both in our early 30s we wouldn't have a problem, neither would we have a problem getting meets if we were both in our late 50s but the age gap means it takes us around 4-5 months to get a meet despite the fact that with no kids and working from home we are pretty much available anytime.
I would not say to anyone "go and find yourself a younger woman or man and it does have it's relationship difficulties over and above normal relationship issues but when it does work it is as fantastic as any other relationship when two people are in love, honest with each other and above all talk to each other.
Thanks for that, we'll get there we're sure, we've only really been together for 18 months so I guess it's early days but we're up for it.
It's really strange that you had such a similar relationship with what appears to be a very similar girl. Apart from being stunningly attractive Polly has an IQ of 147 and can chat away and discuss pretty much anything, although not quantum physics fortunately for me hehe. In fact when we are together we only stop chatting and putting the world to rights for sex, thankfully there's a lot of that as well.
Perhaps there's something in intelligent young women being attracted to older guys because they've "been there, seen that and done it" although sexually Polly has been instrumental in me widening my horizons hugely but that's what you get with bright women, they always seem more sexually adventurous don't they.
From what Polly has told me about the clubbing scene and the behaviour of guys of her own age I'm not really surprised she wants nothing to do with it. I mean would you want to start to get to know someone who's method of introducing himself is to grab your boobs, bum of pussy, I think not!! Fortunately those guys have done me a huge favour so may they always stay stupid prats I say hehe. Their loss is my gain!!
Cheers
Alfie and Polly
Warming the Bed
Quote by alfieandpolly
I was in a relationship 10 years ago (I was 47) my partner was 17, she had told me she was 19 but I still believed she was too young for me, but she fancied me and wanted a relationship so who was I to refuse a very attractive girl, I figured it would last a month before she bored with me, so what had I got to lose, a month of fun
As she was at college the friends she brought home were also 17-18, I was surprised how they were all willing to join us as a couple and not just interested in her.
We stayed together for 6 years and I learned that the age difference did not matter, I loved her and to me her age was immaterial, she was very intelligent, taught me a lot of things, tried to teach me more, quantum physics and bending space really baffled me but her knowledge of BDSM and other sexual matters amazed me.
Now I am with Sasha, we are into our 5th year together and the age gap is slightly less, just 28 years between us now.
With my ex I was occasionally asked if she was my daughter to which I just gave an honest reply "no she is too young to be my daughter she is my partner"
With Sasha people don't tend to ask, we don't see any animosity towards us out on the street, shopping or in restaurants.
I do believe it would be different in pubs or nightclubs but we don't use them, we have two great swingers clubs within 5 minutes, these are our pubs and dance venues.
In the world of swinging we do find it makes a difference, for a small few Sasha is too young (30) but for most that would like her I am too old (57) I believe if we were both in our early 30s we wouldn't have a problem, neither would we have a problem getting meets if we were both in our late 50s but the age gap means it takes us around 4-5 months to get a meet despite the fact that with no kids and working from home we are pretty much available anytime.
I would not say to anyone "go and find yourself a younger woman or man and it does have it's relationship difficulties over and above normal relationship issues but when it does work it is as fantastic as any other relationship when two people are in love, honest with each other and above all talk to each other.
Thanks for that, we'll get there we're sure, we've only really been together for 18 months so I guess it's early days but we're up for it.
It's really strange that you had such a similar relationship with what appears to be a very similar girl. Apart from being stunningly attractive Polly has an IQ of 147 and can chat away and discuss pretty much anything, although not quantum physics fortunately for me hehe. In fact when we are together we only stop chatting and putting the world to rights for sex, thankfully there's a lot of that as well.
Perhaps there's something in intelligent young women being attracted to older guys because they've "been there, seen that and done it" although sexually Polly has been instrumental in me widening my horizons hugely but that's what you get with bright women, they always seem more sexually adventurous don't they.
From what Polly has told me about the clubbing scene and the behaviour of guys of her own age I'm not really surprised she wants nothing to do with it. I mean would you want to start to get to know someone who's method of introducing himself is to grab your boobs, bum of pussy, I think not!! Fortunately those guys have done me a huge favour so may they always stay stupid prats I say hehe. Their loss is my gain!!
Cheers
Alfie and Polly
Polly sounds a cracker!!!! - (See what I did there......it's going to be one of my good days..... i can feel it in me water!!!) lol
On a serious note... feck anyone who has a prejudice based on race , religion, political views, age or sexual orientation... they have a right to their opinion sure... but they should have the good grace to keep it themselves if they think it may cause offence. As long as it's legal!! you shouldn't have someone elses value system imposed on you..... and in closing - can i please have the 'super hot sex' with Polly please.... thanks!!
Quote by hotgirl26
We'd love to chat with other couples in the same sort of relationship as ours. Polly is 23 and Alfie is 58 and we have a wonderful loving relationship but have large problems with the way people react to us when out and about, mainly from women strangely. It's amazing how judgemental people can be! We even had one woman spit at Polly!! I think a lot of it is jealousy from the women because their man is oggling Polly but who knows. Any advice would be really appreciated. Perhaps we could even meet up with couples in the same situation to exchange experiences etc.
Don't think there's anything wrong with that. As I get a bit older (I'm 30 now) I find older men more and more attractive. The sex is often fantastic (though maybe not as mind blowing as with a 20 year old who can go again and again) but the convo and mental "click" is far better than many blokes my age. I can't say whether or not I'd end up settling down with an older man but it's certainly possible. So if you two like what you have then screw the rest.
Gail
I don't believe the quality of sex is always governed by age, true energy levels in the older guy might not be so good, but inexperience and excitement of the younger male can spoil things too.
I know I have gained a lot of experience in technique over the years, I wish I knew the things I know now 40 years ago when I was first starting out on the sexual trail, my how I could have pleased those girls so much more. That said, it is still all down to individauls, I am usually disapointed at how little time sex lasts, I am often left panting for more when the women have had thier fun not the other way round, personally I keep myself fit, I can still spin upside down on a dance pole (and do most friday and Saturday nights and workour daily) I am slim and can give many a 25 yr old a run for thier money, being young doesn't guarantee fitness or a reality that you need to take care of yourself. I think some of the most important things that the years have taught me are
The Brain is the main sex organ
What works for one woman might be hated by the next, take time to find out
Patience is a virtue
Respect is paramount
Personality gets you laid
Humour is an aphrodisiac
Find a princess treat her like a queen
Quote by HughGRection
I was in a relationship 10 years ago (I was 47) my partner was 17, she had told me she was 19 but I still believed she was too young for me, but she fancied me and wanted a relationship so who was I to refuse a very attractive girl, I figured it would last a month before she bored with me, so what had I got to lose, a month of fun
As she was at college the friends she brought home were also 17-18, I was surprised how they were all willing to join us as a couple and not just interested in her.
We stayed together for 6 years and I learned that the age difference did not matter, I loved her and to me her age was immaterial, she was very intelligent, taught me a lot of things, tried to teach me more, quantum physics and bending space really baffled me but her knowledge of BDSM and other sexual matters amazed me.
Now I am with Sasha, we are into our 5th year together and the age gap is slightly less, just 28 years between us now.
With my ex I was occasionally asked if she was my daughter to which I just gave an honest reply "no she is too young to be my daughter she is my partner"
With Sasha people don't tend to ask, we don't see any animosity towards us out on the street, shopping or in restaurants.
I do believe it would be different in pubs or nightclubs but we don't use them, we have two great swingers clubs within 5 minutes, these are our pubs and dance venues.
In the world of swinging we do find it makes a difference, for a small few Sasha is too young (30) but for most that would like her I am too old (57) I believe if we were both in our early 30s we wouldn't have a problem, neither would we have a problem getting meets if we were both in our late 50s but the age gap means it takes us around 4-5 months to get a meet despite the fact that with no kids and working from home we are pretty much available anytime.
I would not say to anyone "go and find yourself a younger woman or man and it does have it's relationship difficulties over and above normal relationship issues but when it does work it is as fantastic as any other relationship when two people are in love, honest with each other and above all talk to each other.
Thanks for that, we'll get there we're sure, we've only really been together for 18 months so I guess it's early days but we're up for it.
It's really strange that you had such a similar relationship with what appears to be a very similar girl. Apart from being stunningly attractive Polly has an IQ of 147 and can chat away and discuss pretty much anything, although not quantum physics fortunately for me hehe. In fact when we are together we only stop chatting and putting the world to rights for sex, thankfully there's a lot of that as well.
Perhaps there's something in intelligent young women being attracted to older guys because they've "been there, seen that and done it" although sexually Polly has been instrumental in me widening my horizons hugely but that's what you get with bright women, they always seem more sexually adventurous don't they.
From what Polly has told me about the clubbing scene and the behaviour of guys of her own age I'm not really surprised she wants nothing to do with it. I mean would you want to start to get to know someone who's method of introducing himself is to grab your boobs, bum of pussy, I think not!! Fortunately those guys have done me a huge favour so may they always stay stupid prats I say hehe. Their loss is my gain!!
Cheers
Alfie and Polly
Polly sounds a cracker!!!! - (See what I did there......it's going to be one of my good days..... i can feel it in me water!!!) lol
On a serious note... feck anyone who has a prejudice based on race , religion, political views, age or sexual orientation... they have a right to their opinion sure... but they should have the good grace to keep it themselves if they think it may cause offence. As long as it's legal!! you shouldn't have someone elses value system imposed on you..... and in closing - can i please have the 'super hot sex' with Polly please.... thanks!!
Sorry mate but we're not looking for single guys but I have to tell you that Polly knows nothing other than "super hot sex" hehe
Cheers
Alfie
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That was my point, the sex with older blokes is often fantastic coz they much more experienced and less selfish. And then intelligent convo before and after sex adds loads to the fun. I'm being realistic when I say a 20 year old can be insatiable and unstoppable because they often are (though you're right, youth may not guarantee that) but usually those blokes don't have much to talk about after sex (be it religion, entertainment, politics or jack) so that 1:1 interaction while they recharge can be a bit so so.
x
Couldn't agree more, we are lucky to have both. The only time we stop talking is during sex and sometimes then as well hehe
Sex God
My 3rd wife is some 24 years younger than myself, and, although we've never suffered the sort of small minded abuse which you're describing, there have been occasions when people would cast glances which said they disapproved. As in your case it was usually women, I'm sure women have their own reasons for feeling as they do, and the reactions can differ depending upon which part of the country you're in, some parts are still home to the predominantly narrow minded who feel a need to encourage others to think as they do.
You nice folks seem to be well enough adjusted, and sufficiently fond of each other, to overcome these irritations.
I wish you both well.
You nice folks seem to be well enough adjusted, and sufficiently fond of each other, to overcome these irritations.
I wish you both well.
Sex God
we been married 26 yrs n still going strong.....and i still need that bit extra that he knows how to do after a night out...lol
Hi
I can understand the difficulties, the best way is to ignore the fuckers. They have nothing better to do as long as you're happy so that is the main thing.
Cracking pic! Please allow to have a a look at ours and feel free to PM me/exchange pics with a possibility to view to meet up in the New Year.
Helen xx
I can understand the difficulties, the best way is to ignore the fuckers. They have nothing better to do as long as you're happy so that is the main thing.
Cracking pic! Please allow to have a a look at ours and feel free to PM me/exchange pics with a possibility to view to meet up in the New Year.
Helen xx
Sex God
Being someone who believes education is important, I'm prepared to offer my services to any young lady who feels she might benefit from being loved used and abused by a dirty old man. Well it is christmas, it's good to give. :twisted:
What does annoy me ...... is the amount of people, usually younger single guys but not always who message me to tell me "your a lucky guy", why ? because I have a pretty partner ? because she is young ? CRAP, I am lucky because I have once again found someone, a partner who is my friend, my lover, my teacher, my pupil, my cross to bear, my crutch to support me, she is my ALL.
But y'know what, she is lucky too, she has found someone she feels the same way about.
Anyone who finds love is lucky no matter who it is they find it with.
But y'know what, she is lucky too, she has found someone she feels the same way about.
Anyone who finds love is lucky no matter who it is they find it with.
