Your sexual fantasies and acting them out.

22 Oct 2008

I know the saying that sometimes fantasies are better left in the head and not acted out, but some fantasies are for acting out :twisted:
So how come when you know that it is something you REALLY want to do and know that you would actually love for it to happen, what is it that stops you actually going ahead and doing it?
As a few of you will know (and Im not telling the ones who dont) redface

I have this fantasy which I have had for a very long, long time. On two occassions it has nearly happened but something has always come up to stop it. Mr NWC is fully aware (and would be fully involved) and he would also love for it to happen, but I am too nervous to sort it out. It isnt the 'doing' that is the problem, it is the 'sorting out' which I am too nervous to arrange. Its not something that will happen by chance and would probably involve me putting an advert or a post on here, and that is where I just cant click 'send' even though I have typed out the ad on a number of occassions.
Is it just me? Do other people actually act out their fantasies? Am I just being a wimp, or is there something else stopping me from doing it? The only thing I can think of which is stopping me, is that everyone would know what I had been up to surprised

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Help!!!

22 Oct 2008

Hmmm difficult one this.
I've got a lot of things I want to do but they're on my pending list :grin:
But who knows, I'm still not 100% sure when I am put in that situation and I get the opportunity I might change my mind?
I know from past experiences that I've been in situations where I could have done certain things but felt differently once I was there.
I do believe though, if it's mean to happen it will. I think it's a lot about finding the right playmate to do it with... and nothing but gut instict will give you the green light.
You know the saying.... 'All good things come to those who wait' :twisted:
xx

22 Oct 2008

Quote by Whipsnspurs
if it's your fantasy and some know about it already then what's the problem hun? just coz you post an ad doesn't mean it's happened or that it will. don't forget that it has to be the right person/people to help you and you still may not find the one/s you want from the ad.
post it anyway and see what happens. surely it's better than leaving it till it may never happen and then wondering about it?
i've had some toughts/fantasies put over to me lately that i may have said no to in the past. but now i'm thinking 'what the hell, go for it!' coz it's better than wondering if i should have done. they may never happen and both of us may change our minds when it comes right down to it. but at least there was a chance to start with.
this seems to be something that is a big turn on for you so if it has the chance give it some legs to try.
whips

I totally agree with whips on this.... put the ball in the court
if that's the right saying lol
xx

22 Oct 2008

Quote by Bbw4umen
.... put the ball in the court

:shock: :shock: Honest, it isnt anything like that wink

I know what you are both saying and it is not even anything wayout, but something, just stops me from clicking send redface

22 Oct 2008

I must admit NWC, I sometimes wish I had the guts to advertise or post in LMU for certain things I would like to try... Thinking and doing are two different things though! rolleyes

I say give it a go. As others have said, it may or may not come off... but at least you would have tried.
wink

22 Oct 2008

my mate recently told me that you only get one life...no rehearsal.....so do it, or you may not get the chance....and spend your life wishing and wondering!
and as I know what that fantasy is....you go girl!!! :thrilled:
im right behind ya all the way giving you all the moral support you need! :bounce:

22 Oct 2008

the one i have would involve relenquishing any form of control i may have over a situation and also complete trust in another person to keep me safe and secure.
most likely why it hasnt happened yet :shock:

22 Oct 2008

Quote by Whipsnspurs
you have mail
whips

Thank you and I think I have a solution, wink

thanks for the replies everyone, not saying I will go ahead but a plan is forming :twisted:

22 Oct 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
.... put the ball in the court

:shock: :shock: Honest, it isnt anything like that wink

I know what you are both saying and it is not even anything wayout, but something, just stops me from clicking send redface

Damn - and I thought you wanted a round of tennis!
Just PM me and we'll avoid all the publicity!! :twisted:
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22 Oct 2008

Quote by westerross
Just PM me and we'll avoid all the publicity!! :twisted:
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Shush, Im trying to be discrete redface

22 Oct 2008

Naughty Wigan, just go for it. If you don't like it, well you don't have to do it again, and if you do, well then wayhay ......
Try everything at least once is my motto lol

Having said that, I'm not very good with the 'send' button and Mr 777 usually does that bit for me (with me egging him on in the background!).
Mrs 777 xxxxxxxx

22 Oct 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple

Just PM me and we'll avoid all the publicity!! :twisted:
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Shush, Im trying to be discrete redface

Well I haven't had the PM to be discrete with yet!! :giggle:
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22 Oct 2008

Before joining this site we had fantasies we wanted to act out. It takes time and you have to feel right for it to happen. We never met through an advert we found it better to start to chat to people in the rooms.
We have met a few guys 2 of which we still have fun with from time to time.
I do the chatting as hubby said it is me they have to impress,
But the first time it took me months to feel comfortable to take the plunge to make arrangements with this guy, in the end I just thought I know I want to lets just go for it and see what happens. You never know until you try.
As I said we have now met a couple of guys and I have no regrets and am still enjoying the fun. We only meet ever few months but still chat as friends pretty regular and still look forward to the meets
I think you will know when it is right.
But the longer you wait sometimes the harder it is.
But good luck what ever you decide.

22 Oct 2008

As time passes me by I'm a great believer that one should grab every opportunity to experience new things. I dont want to regret not doing something I could have done.
So my advice would be to go for it.. smile

Kent Swingers I see you are a fan of Bazza. wink

22 Oct 2008

I have one very horny fantasy and hopefully, very soon,it is going to happen. biggrin

:shock: :shock:
PS...Go for it MrsNWC,as has been said, if you don't like it,you don't have to do it again. passionkiss

22 Oct 2008

Quote by bustylady40
I have one very horny fantasy and hopefully, very soon,it is going to happen. :shock: :shock:
PS...Go for it MrsNWC,as has been said, if you don't like it,you don't have to do it again.

Agrees...you should try every thing once as until you try it you dont know if you like it wink

22 Oct 2008

Im gonna be keeping a keen eye on NWC's adverts from no on then :shock: lol

22 Oct 2008

Morbius is more the swinger, I'm more into BDSM and so our fantasy's rarely meet. I'm not trusting enough to let myself over to another to fulfill the fantasy either.
There are the odd times that we get it right ... and for me that is the thrill, just waiting adds to the occasion.

22 Oct 2008

Maybe the thing that stops you from doing it is that you've had this fantasy for a while and you've put a lot of time and energy into perfecting it in your mind, so maybe you're worried (subconsciously) that it'll be not quite as amazing as you've built it up to be. Sometimes a fantasy is better kept as that. Reality can suck at times. :giggle: smile

22 Oct 2008

One of my fave fantasies involved a club..viewers..some restraints,and some spankyness,then off to a room for some more fun,
It never came to pass with the person i discussed it with but i live in hope lol

23 Oct 2008

I have a couple of scenarios I'd like to try out. One I planned out with someone but it didn't happen so that's all ready for the off with someone else. The others I have to think through first before suggesting them to someone redface

23 Oct 2008

Quote by easy
Reality can suck at times. :giggle:

Well, I was hoping it did redface

Thanks for the replies everyone, still not done anything about this but at least I know that Im not the only one who has them, but doesnt always go through with them.
Maybe one day ........

23 Oct 2008

Quote by Sassy-Seren
I have a couple of scenarios I'd like to try out. One I planned out with someone but it didn't happen so that's all ready for the off with someone else. The others I have to think through first before suggesting them to someone

Choon - fantasy consultant at your disposal - with the emphasis on disposal I guess rolleyes

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23 Oct 2008

Quote by easy
Maybe the thing that stops you from doing it is that you've had this fantasy for a while and you've put a lot of time and energy into perfecting it in your mind, so maybe you're worried (subconsciously) that it'll be not quite as amazing as you've built it up to be. Sometimes a fantasy is better kept as that. Reality can suck at times. :giggle:

:thumbup: Yeah, I kinda agree. I worry sometimes that stuff just won't ever be as good as it is in my head. I think that does stop me sometimes.

23 Oct 2008

reminds me of the monolog on an Orbital track "it's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't" and I totally agree. Go for it and if when the situation happens and you change your mind, so what, thatsyour perogative.