This is a bit of a shot in the dark but I have a spare ticket for the David Bowie is exhibition at that V&A in South Ken for this Sunday 28th April (the event is otherwise sold out). Entry time is
Anyone be interested in coming along and maybe grabbing a drink later on?
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Buenohombre69
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
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Quote by Dawnie
I've used a number of sites to meet partners on a casual but friendly basis over the years but I'm still something of a newbie on this particular site (which I still find a little arcane in comparison to other dating related sites I've been on, especially when it comes to the ludicrously over complicated shrep system).
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
I really do like your comments and for me, you are most correct with what pictures I'd like to see too.
So, I figured I would go and look at your profile and pictures just for a nosey. I am honestly not too sure what I think to your torso picture. You look fine but that whole selection of toys doesn't sit well with me and I am trying to deceide why.
I'm thinking while I type here so bear with me. I think my thoughts are going on the line of if I wanted to meet with you, I'd want to play with you and not 15 toys
One might be fun, possibly even two but in general, but its not appealing to me.
Also, part of me goes, can he get it up? Can he get it up without accessories?
I don't mean that to be rude because like I said, your comments are spot on :thumbup:
That's not a photo I've used on other sites so perhaps I'm guilty of trying too hard to be different on this one. I've never really got the hang of it here, maybe I'm just a guy who is really into sex rather than someone who wants to feel part of an alternative lifestyle. My experience is it's about 50/50 as to whether or not partners are interested in using toys, in this country at least (although I have had a lot of fun with boys toys like latex sleeves myself). I used to visit the Caribbean regularly and toys were VERY popular with girls there, hence the need to maintain stocks.
There's certainly something dinky about the MX5 but there's a real driver's car underneath too, based as it is on the classic British roadsters (in particular the original Lotus Elan). Although not an out and out performance car they are way better value than the mainly German alternatives and have an enthusiastic fanbase who love the sense of freedom and fun the car inspires. The very fact it's been in production for over twenty years, with relatively few changes along the way, speaks volumes about its ongoing appeal.
Despite the usually lousy weather I've read that we buy more softops in Britain than anywhere else in Europe (so maybe we are a nation of optimists underneath, lol). They are a bad choice for straight male swingers at least though imho. Despite the initial perception of sex appeal a lot of women complain they fuck up their hair when driven at any kind of speed whilst the direct heat of the sun on a hot day is uncomfortable when stuck in traffic. I drive a classic 60s saloon with a full length sunroof and although it receives many admiring comments from all types of people, I've often been asked to close up even this by female passengers during journeys of any length.
Despite the usually lousy weather I've read that we buy more softops in Britain than anywhere else in Europe (so maybe we are a nation of optimists underneath, lol). They are a bad choice for straight male swingers at least though imho. Despite the initial perception of sex appeal a lot of women complain they fuck up their hair when driven at any kind of speed whilst the direct heat of the sun on a hot day is uncomfortable when stuck in traffic. I drive a classic 60s saloon with a full length sunroof and although it receives many admiring comments from all types of people, I've often been asked to close up even this by female passengers during journeys of any length.
I've used a number of sites to meet partners on a casual but friendly basis over the years but I'm still something of a newbie on this particular site (which I still find a little arcane in comparison to other dating related sites I've been on, especially when it comes to the ludicrously over complicated shrep system).
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
My general experience - and I've done a little research over the years too - is that from a straight single man's perspective it pays to have a picture showing your torso and face (most women want to see a face pic but respond more readily to seeing the torso too). Contrary to what most men on dating sites seem to believe, close ups of your dick are a bad place to start for most women (in fact I've never used one at all in over five years of regularly meeting new partners online) so if you really have to use these it's best to keep these to respond to requests only. To me this sort of thing suggests an aspect of many men ineptly trying to display "peacock feathers" judging by the veritable penis parade that can be encountered by doing a single man search on certain sites, lol). You also need to get over a sense of being approachable and nonthreatening, rather than being the greatest stud/sex machine on earth. Although size undoubtedly matters to some, most women appear to be looking to be treated sensitively by a man who is tactile and can hold a conversation rather than a hunk with large cucumber hanging between the legs.
I've also found that it is really the profile and main picture that matters, so when it comes to initial contact, the object is simply to get potential partners to look at your profile rather than develop a deep interest by what they see in the opening email itself. I've found it best to use something quite short and snappy that implies an easy going nature and gsh rather than a profound piece of prose about your entire life history. A lot of women complain about "cut and paste merchants" but the reality is that with so much competition (I usually get about a 10% response rate to emails, with about a quarter to a third of those actually leading to meets) it simply isn't practical to send a completely bespoke opener every time - and whenever I've tried adding a comment in a standard opener directly relating to something in the other person's profile, I've never actually noticed any difference to the response rate.
So that's my ten penneth, based largely on experience of more conventional dating sites...
I'm quite new here but the shrep system did immediately strike me as ridiculously overcomplicated.
The jury is still out on the site as a whole but, in comparison to conventional sex dating sites, it does seem to appeal to people who are primarily interested in being part of an online community rather than actually doing anything (and so probably quite happy to have something like shrep to fuss around over). So far it feels more like a kind of swinger's purgatory rather than heaven to me.
The jury is still out on the site as a whole but, in comparison to conventional sex dating sites, it does seem to appeal to people who are primarily interested in being part of an online community rather than actually doing anything (and so probably quite happy to have something like shrep to fuss around over). So far it feels more like a kind of swinger's purgatory rather than heaven to me.
I clicked the "extras" option when I took out my membership here as I didn't want to miss out on anything even though I couldn't find any detailed information about what the extras actually are (I did look!). Can anyone explain these or point me to the information if it is on the site and I've missed it?
In particular, I've seen at least one advert from a member saying they can't send email, so it would be good to know what levels of membership can/can't communicate with one another (no point sending a message to someone who can't send one back!).
Cheers,
R
In particular, I've seen at least one advert from a member saying they can't send email, so it would be good to know what levels of membership can/can't communicate with one another (no point sending a message to someone who can't send one back!).
Cheers,
R
Just upgraded to full membership. Pretty new to swinging but have used other dating/sex sites and went to Chameleons a while back.
I'm straight and looking for nsa action with women. Any tips or advice on my profile/advert would be appreciated - i.e what is the best way to actually meet people on here - post an add? send an email? post in forum or group?
Thanks, Rick
I'm straight and looking for nsa action with women. Any tips or advice on my profile/advert would be appreciated - i.e what is the best way to actually meet people on here - post an add? send an email? post in forum or group?
Thanks, Rick
