Here is a strange thing, in the above posting you say you don't know what to write when contacting a couple, yet in your profile (copied below) you say "The wife is prompting me in what to write and who to contact" so which is it ?

Or is it just a "look at me post"

I am a 28 and a bit ( 19 years is a bit ) year old male, muscular and not yet run to seed with shoulder length blond hair and a generally happy disposition to life. I am married and still after 18yrs madly in love with my wife whom I do not want to hurt in any way. We also have 3 kids who are the light (and frustration) of our lives and so I will not do anything to cause them pain ( The wife is prompting me in what to write and who to contact and enjoys reading your profiles. The kids ( I Hope ) know nothing about this ). I have a huge sense of humour, a moderate intellect, a love of life, wide ranging interests, an adoration of books, admire those who can draw or take great photographs (not in my skillset) , enjoy outdoor pursuits and hate going to the gym.

I would love to be able to chat and flirt with a lady and stimulate the most important erogenous zone of all (the mind in case anyone didn't know).

If we click and get on on line I would love to meet up and see where we get to.

I love the idea of seduction. The first image that I want in my mind is alluring, enticing and intriguing as anything more graphic is for later.

Physically I like sensual, I love massage - a skill that I am still learning, I love to touch and stroke. I love to kiss and taste and tease.

Mutual respect is important to me. I don't do bondage or domination.

Have I lost you yet? No? oh read on then.

If you are a couple I would need to meet both of you and would have to be comfortable with you and have you comfortable with me.

I am not interested in just rocking up somewhere , going hey you sexy thing and jumping straight into bed – I am afraid that it is just not me. Nor am I likely to send you cock pictures as 1, I am rubbish at taking pictures and 2, willies out of context are just funny.

An interesting articulate person with intelligence, amazing smile and the ability to tease and entice would be fantastic to meet. A healthy body a bonus. Lets be honest the right smile can be sexier than a supermodel wearing the most amazing lingerie.

Send me a message and I will reply. Want to send me a message but can't then either comment on my photo or send me a wink or a like and I will message you back.

I am happy to chat with anyone - even if we don't ever meet. 

Also I would love to have the most alluring and interesting profile ever in the world so feel free to tell me what I could do to improve this.

So some house rules as it were.

No cheats. Cheating without your partners permission / consent is a total no no for me. Its a betrayal of trust that I can not be party to. I am happy to chat but not to cheat. ( update - If you have, do or will cheat it is as it were your affair. I do not and will not judge you on this. It just can't be with me )

If we meet with consent then it is not cheating.

Single ladies. - if you are from Sheffield then I cannot meet you – no matter how prefect a match we are. This is one of the promises that I have made my wife.

Couples from Sheffield she has less of a problem with as those who play together are usually going to stay together.

No single men – not my bag. I am not Bi nor Bi curious.

No Dick Pics – they are just wrong

If you have read to this point then I thank you. If you are interested at all then drop me a message or if you only have limited messages send me a wink or a like and I will to get back to you. I can send messages and will reply to all.

I would like facial images but until we start the journey down the rabbit hole I can cope.

In bed the other night after a little bit of playing Shel said to me "If you put the bedside light on and really lube me up I'll let you stick it in my bum"   So I followed her instructions and she let out one HELL of a scream as it went in !!!!!!

OK it was my fault, I should have let the bulb cool down first !!!!

Xtasia often runs "Ibiza" style DJ events. Most noteably called "Depraved" events.  The club is an old nightclub so is geared exactly for clubbing meets swinging. Have a look at it's website.

Cap D'agde has everything you'd need !

We are there Fiesta Week in Nov, usually a good few swingers there then.  Anyone want to meet up ?

In Cap from 22nd June to 6th July.  Like to meet couples, single females or possibly a clean, respectful guy.

It's a good club, but like any club there are no guarantees of how busy or not it will be on the day you go.  Main thing is TALK to people, don't just wait around for people esp. couples and females to come to you.

I would advise booking a hotel asap, there are a few Premier Inns in Newcastle town centr. 

And you also !!

We can make this.

It's great !!   

We'd be interested in this idea.  Depends on the date of course.

Obviously the earlier you go in Sept the busier Cap will be.  By the second week of Sept the lingerie shops have their sales on and the supermarkets are not restocking some of the stock.  The bars and clubs are still going tho.  After mid-Sept, some of the pubs will be winding down. Late Sept and your seeing the last of the season and it will be a bit quiet.

We going last Week of Aug and first week  of Sept.   We often go these dates and have great fun.

                                                   J & S

Closed a couple of years ago.

We have heard of Paradise in Blackpool and have actually booked up for there in May.  Other friends either rave about it or don't like it, so I suppose you'd have to go and try it to see if it suits you.

Yeah, we have had that for years.   But stick to what suits you.

BTW we are often over in the NW so if you'd fancy meeting fellow softswingers at a club give us a shout.

                                John & Shel

Doing very well thanks, and presumably you are both in rude health if your looking for a Canal St pub crawl.

                   Any couples in Patong on the above dates ?

                                            John & Shel

We would have, but already booked for a big night at Xtasia, frolicking in the foam !!

A name from the past,  Dambuster,  sadly died within the last year.

Agree with tigersgobounce (we went to a lot of the same socials as you guys), we also think that the younger ones who are now going to swingers clubs are mainly with established friends and go to (mostly the women) pose and show off in lingerie.  Think Xtasia club has realised this and is now doing events which cater for that. Which suits the layout of the club, which is in fact an ex-nightclub.

The socials we go to have as, as tigers said, become as open as a social from the stamp collectors club.  In the old days, it was "don't let on this is a swingers party" and anyone found playing will be thrown out, these days it's "the management know we're all swingers" and just be discreet with your playing.

All things change !!

                                                  John & Shel

We've been many times, very nice place, great facilities !!   Take your own beer.  Men have to dress down on entry, woman usually wear lingerie.  Only problem we found was that is was full of regulars who know each other and it's sometimes hard to find others to talk to / play with.

Nothing swinging related in Northumberland, could you not host some couples at your cottage ?

We''ll be on Rene Oltra campsite in Cap D'agde from 27th Aug.

                                          J & S

Taking a slightly different view of the Referendum.

If we vote to leave then I'd suggest we'd need a Churchill like figure to guide Britain, but who of our current crop of Politicians are anywhere near Winston ? take your pick from those who want to leave................  Boris ?...............   Corbyn ?.............Nigel Farage ?   

And if we vote to stay, then your probably need a Maggie Thatcher type person to fight our corner in the EU, but we're lumbered with Cameron, or Clegg (remember him?)............Corbyn .............or maybe Nicola Sturgeon for PM.

                        Which makes the choice very difficult.

                                                   John

We are at Cap (on the Campsite) from 27th Aug till 10th Sept, if you'd fancy meeting us let us know.

                                                        John & Shel

We're softswingers, near Northumberland, could meet Tuesday 8th March at the holiday cottage.  Please message us if you'd like to meet us.

                                             John & Shel

OK, stuff you need to know;

In the bar area, women can wear normal clothes or clubwear (there are seperate locker rooms for men and women). Guys can wear jeans and a shirt, but smart looking.   To go into the play areas women can wear clubwear or a towel or naked, men can wear boxers or a towel or naked.

Take your own alcohol.

There are open or lockable playrooms, on a mixed night you will find that single guys will follow you into open rooms. We prefer lockable rooms on mixed nights.

It's a friendly place, chat to anyone.

Car park is right outside the club.

We've heard of people having difficulty finding the club, it's down a little lane, so if your not sure where it is ring the club for directions.

Don't take mobile phones into the club.

                                         Think that's about it.

                                                           J & S

Enjoy your night there on the 27th, but if possibe try the following week also. Sat 5th March is couples only, a great atmosphere, last couples only night was very busy, something like 80 couples.   Hopefully we'll be there on 5th March also.

                                                         John & Shel