Quote by Lapua

The Generic message is required in a surprising number of cases- you’d be surprised that a few peoples reaction to being blocked is to get riled and demand answers from the blocker, which I’m sure you’ll agree defeats the object of blocking.

I’d ask you to look at the message including a comment about avoiding harassment is nothing more than a reminder. Just like a speed limit sign reminds you of the speed limit, reminding you of it does suggest you’re breaking the rules, just reminding you what they are.

Could the message be softened maybe? Harassment is a serious issue, but not everyone who gets blocked is guilty of it. The message does imply the blocked user is a harasser.

There has to be a middle ground?

Quote by Woohoo

The "harassment " message is a generic message that everyone see when they try and view a profile who has blocked them.

People block people for their own reasons,might seem odd but it's called freedom of choice.

And right there is the problem - A Generic Message about harassment, when you haven't done anything wrong - it matters.

So, more thoughts on this - ok, fine block me without interaction. I accept any user can do the blocking if they so wish - it's the warning against harassment when I haven't do anything wrong! that I quite dislike.

I'm quite interested in sharing my Mrs, but she is incredibly straight acting and I've yet to see any kind of indication of her wanting another man/woman to join us.

I bought her a dildo for her birthday, one of those ones with the suction cups and explained I wanted her to ride it whilst sucking me - maybe it will awaken a 3sum desire of some sorts?

That's a detailed reply.

Could I just say though I didn't interact with them.

That's it. If people block on sight, it's unfair and suggests that the person being blocked is a problem. If everyone starts doing it, people could get banned.... And for what? Not being someone's criteria?

That's not really what the block button is for.

One profile I saw recently said we won't meet with Tories. I mean who discusses their political leanings on a meet up? Surely, it's about nice, easy going chat!

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Going back a lot of years SH meets and munches etc were excellent. Unfortunately the "critical mass" of the active members has dissipated and faded to nothing. We still get, very rarely a meet from here.

Our problem is that we only meet new people at clubs. So many people might contact us, then we say OK, meet you at xyz club and play there....................................then.....................................tumbleweed.

So many "single" men are scared to go to a club it seems.

I've been curious about clubs in the past, but always thought the competition would be so high that I wondered if it's worth it.

Let's face it, single women are the ticket for most couples, or so it seems.

Curiosity got the better of me, created a profile to view again it says this:

"Single guys, any contact and you’ll just be blocked, save your breath coz you’ve got no chance! If we want single guys we’ll come looking!!!!"

So wow. Just wow I had the audacity to land on their profile at some point and got blocked for it.

Does anyone find it a bit odd to be blocked by someone who you've never interacted with?? In my home screen, where you can see who has visited your profile, I clicked to return the view only to find I'm blocked and warned against harassment.

Seems a little harsh, especially since I don't recall having visited them first! Some people are strange.

I guess the problem is, in the Gallery, it's difficult to avoid them.

I like to think of myself as pretty open minded, but some of the pictures in the gallery sometimes ....man alive, today there is a man with something (looks like a metal rod) jammed down his shaft. Made me feel kind queasy.

When does it cross the line and need a click on the report button?

Hmmmm, tough one.

Think we need a little more info - exact age and how long widowed would be my questions.

Hi,

I don't tend to hang out on the forums but thought I'd chip in on this thread as it sort of called out to me.

Firstly, I'm married to a woman, but when I was single and in my youth I had a number of encounters where I have interacted with men. This started out in my teens by having a best friend who we shared a porn mag with. We used to call each other and ask for the mag to be left somewhere to be picked up by the other to 'use' when the need arose.

One day, we were both together and his house and parents were out somewhere and it just happened. I won't go into it because that bit is more detail than is needed for this message.

We carried on like that pretty much until we were both able to get ourselves girlfriends. Ultimately we were both attracted to women, but were relaxed to help each other out (so to speak). He's married as well now and has kids, not sure where his head is as I've not spoken to him about what happened since.

Later I went on a very very long stretch where women were my everything - I LOVE women! Then one of them used her vibrator on me and it re-awakened long idle thoughts of what had happened when I was with my mate. It took me ages of sitting and wondering if my experiences with him and then a girl using a vibrator on me made me 'Gay'?

Later in my late 30's I had a few interactions with men, where it's simply been about pleasure - but not for one second did feelings come into it. No kisses, no cuddles, none of that.

At 46 years old I have come to the conclusion that maybe "Gay" and "Straight" are actually labels that we use to assign what kind of relationships we want. If you're gay, you're attracted to same sex individuals, if you're straight you're attracted to the opposite sex.

This leaves a bit of a void that I, as a man and maybe many other men and women fit into - which is, what are you if you're emotionally 100% tuned to the opposite sex and thus "Straight" but enjoy the sexual touch and interaction with the same sex? - I'm not even sure "bi" is the right stamp, because for me it's "situation" based, I'm as likely to say no to someone as I am to say yes!

But when it comes to needing to love and be loved, I just don't think (speaking from my mind and heart) I could ever be with anyone but a woman.

So there you go, my story and view on this interesting subject.

Edit: To answer the question, No. Not all straight men are bi. But we need to acknowledge the differences between what we seek in an ideal relationship and what we enjoy sexually.