Well some very valid points from Tania and Little Gem.
I understand how you feel Oneofthedamned, when you get to a meet or munchies the comfort zone of the monitor and keyboard are gone.............a bit of insecurity does set in, it's natural and not just confined to the ladies. Some people will change their attitude towards you after meeting, but as Little Gem says sometimes it can be in a positive way.......so just don't let any negatives get to you, it's the only way.
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