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as for bareback phonesex.....too much risk of Hearing Aids for me!!!
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Straight Male, 52
Straight Female, 46
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We prefer carpet - in my opinion, laminate is noisy, cold in winter and just not as homely (in my view).
Personally I would stay away from the deep shag pile though, cos not only is it harder to keep on top of in terms of cleaning, but also I think it looks untidy somehow... just too fluffy. I like the neat lines of a comfortable, warm-under-the-feet fitted carpet.
I also - weirdly - love the smell of new carpet!
Personally I would stay away from the deep shag pile though, cos not only is it harder to keep on top of in terms of cleaning, but also I think it looks untidy somehow... just too fluffy. I like the neat lines of a comfortable, warm-under-the-feet fitted carpet.
I also - weirdly - love the smell of new carpet!
The thing about this 'warning' is that by using the words "Sydney University" on your profile you're actually (somewhat paradoxically) making it more likely that Sydney University will find your profile in particular, amongst and perhaps instead of, all the other millions of swingers out there!
Quote by Steve
It is quite a daunting experience the first time...
(I go to clubs on my own all the time)
I presume you will be alone (as in no mates going with you)...
You won't be the only single guy there so don't fret too much...Maybe have a chat with a cpl of the other single guys there and ask them about the club and how to approach things there...
If your a chatty person then get into conversation with ladies/couples......Shoot the breeze.....Be purely sociable....
Try not to indulge in "naughty" conversation initially (unless they initiate it)
Not sure about London clubs but clubs round here (West Mids) tend to have areas where couples tend to go when they want to meet up with a single guy so keep your eye on those areas for any couples/ladies...
Main thing is not to be too pushy/predatory....
And finally...
Have fun :-)
As the female half of a couple I'd like to say that from our point of view, this advice is spot on!
My christmas list is sorted out already.
I start a new job in November, which I'm really looking forward to and I'm getting a new car to go with it.
I'm not really bothered about presents from other people, it can become a bit of a farce sometimes. I look forward to spending time with my family and close friends when we're all off work for a few days, that's all I want from others.
Non material / sexy things, well I wouldn't say no to a bit of Micah Richards :twisted:
I start a new job in November, which I'm really looking forward to and I'm getting a new car to go with it.
I'm not really bothered about presents from other people, it can become a bit of a farce sometimes. I look forward to spending time with my family and close friends when we're all off work for a few days, that's all I want from others.
Non material / sexy things, well I wouldn't say no to a bit of Micah Richards :twisted:
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Does being friends mean that private photos are viewable? If so maybe that's why people send friend requests?
Nope. You still need a private album invitation.
Oh - I didn't know that.
Hmm - I'll probably still ignore the friend requests from strangers though. I can't imagine having time to keep on top of it otherwise.
That's not to say that we get loads of friend requests, cos we don't - I just don't really have that much spare time
Does being friends mean that private photos are viewable? If so maybe that's why people send friend requests?
Or maybe it's just a kind of 'bookmarking' thing, so that people can contact each other more easily (personally I find the search facility on here isn't that effective, so being friends with someone would simplify that process).
That said, I ignore pretty much all friend requests. Especially those from people we've had no contact with - which is % of them.
Or maybe it's just a kind of 'bookmarking' thing, so that people can contact each other more easily (personally I find the search facility on here isn't that effective, so being friends with someone would simplify that process).
That said, I ignore pretty much all friend requests. Especially those from people we've had no contact with - which is % of them.
This is my best guess and it's not very technically detailed, so I'm sure that someone else can give a better answer but this is what I know about hair 
All hair has a life span and when it reaches the end of its life span it dies and falls out.
That's why some people can grow their hair (head hair) longer than other people - their hair has a longer life span.
So hair on different parts of the body just has a different length of life.
All hair has a life span and when it reaches the end of its life span it dies and falls out.
That's why some people can grow their hair (head hair) longer than other people - their hair has a longer life span.
So hair on different parts of the body just has a different length of life.
I just googled ITA - I wasn't familiar with that acronym, but as I suspected it refers to phonetic reading. This was disastrous (in my opinion) for the children who were taught to read in this way - I know people who were taught to read phonetically and they spell the same way as each other, unfortunately with a lot of errors.
You might be surprised to hear that it made a resurgence in schools in recent years - no idea on what basis, it really didn't work the first time around.
You might be surprised to hear that it made a resurgence in schools in recent years - no idea on what basis, it really didn't work the first time around.
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However, my own level of ability to use grammatically correct English has come from studying foreign languages and not from being taught English grammar formally.
Exactly this. When to use Neil and I or Neil and me for instance. Depends if the Neil and someone are subjects or objects of a verb doesn't it? I was 14 before I grasped that Neil and me could even be the correct usage at times at all, in Latin class, and it wasn't just me. Insisting on Neil and I in all circumstances was an error made by half the class. He had to explain it again and again until it sunk in. We must have been making the same error between us constantly in English, but I don't remember being pulled up on it and having a conversation about proper usage there. Why not? How long did it take me to learn that its is always possessive, and doesn't require an apostrophe? 30 odd bloody years, that's how long!
The way I learned it was take away the other person - does it still sound right?
So,
Neil and I went to the pictures - I went to the pictures. OK.
It was a hot, wet night for Neil and I - It was a hot, wet night for I. Not OK.
:giggle:
I did German at school it taught me more about the way English works than my English teacher ever did.
Mind you I grew up with ITA (Google it). It's a miracle those of us who suffered it can use more than 50 words. It certainly did nothing for providing us with the ability to deal with new words or usages. Luckily my household was a reading one - books from the library, books for birthdays, magazines for pocket money - and so I as surrounded by books that I could pick up and enjoy. That washed the ITA rubbish out of my brain.
On that thought - does anyone remember the school Book Club? You took the list home, pored over it, ticked off the book(s) you wanted and took the form and money into school, and in a month or so a wonderful, glorious box would arrive in the class and books would be handed out and enjoyed.
It does depend on whether the person is the subject or the object of the verb - and the easiest way to do it is without doubt to take away the other person and see if it still sounds right. But I just don't think that we're taught this at school and I think that we should be.
I remember school book club too - it was always something to look forward to, I used to love reading... I was a shy child
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We are all guilty of prejudice in one way or another ...
" I think we all should be mindfull that as a swinging community we all stem from different backgrounds,communities and NOBODY is perfect, but here we're all equals!"
Moi, I'd never be guilty of prejice.
Paddy
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Before getting involved in the lifestyle/community, I had assumed that there would be less prejudice, more open-mindedness and a more relaxed attitude to life.
I also assumed that there would be a kind of comradery with people who have a shared interest.
BTW "comradery" doesn't appear to be an actual word lol.
It's camaraderie
Even at grammar school I found English was not taught as a formal language to quite the same degree as Latin or French.
This is a bit of a bugbear of mine to be honest. My school taught French from age 6, I started learning German aged 13 and I studied Latin for two years aged 12 - 14. My A Levels included English Lit, French and German. Throughout all those years of studying my mother tongue along with one ancient language and 2 contemporary languages, I don't remember being taught English grammar to the same degree as I was taught it in the other three languages.
I'm sure that we were all taught English grammar at a basic level in primary school - I can remember being taught about commas and feeling sure that I would never understand how to use them! However, my own level of ability to use grammatically correct English has come from studying foreign languages and not from being taught English grammar formally.
The reason that I consider it important to be grammatically correct is because of the possibility of misunderstanding that can arise from inaccuracies (For example the phrase "Let's eat Grandma" versus "Let's eat, Grandma"). I've actually had a few little disputes with people as a result of this issue - when I've been misunderstood or I've misunderstood them.
I also sometimes feel sad when I read things on the internet and I see the way spelling is going - e.g. ov rather than of, yous as the plural of you (English doesn't even have a plural of you) and the one that really gets my goat is "should of" (or even "should ov"!) instead of should have. I have to remind myself that language is an evolving thing - anyone who has tried to read Chaucer can see how much the english language has changed since then (even Shakespeare requires a bit of translation).
Sometimes we just have to accept this and move on (although it does make me feel like an old fuddyduddy when I listen to young people or read what / how they write now).
This is a bit of a bugbear of mine to be honest. My school taught French from age 6, I started learning German aged 13 and I studied Latin for two years aged 12 - 14. My A Levels included English Lit, French and German. Throughout all those years of studying my mother tongue along with one ancient language and 2 contemporary languages, I don't remember being taught English grammar to the same degree as I was taught it in the other three languages.
I'm sure that we were all taught English grammar at a basic level in primary school - I can remember being taught about commas and feeling sure that I would never understand how to use them! However, my own level of ability to use grammatically correct English has come from studying foreign languages and not from being taught English grammar formally.
The reason that I consider it important to be grammatically correct is because of the possibility of misunderstanding that can arise from inaccuracies (For example the phrase "Let's eat Grandma" versus "Let's eat, Grandma"). I've actually had a few little disputes with people as a result of this issue - when I've been misunderstood or I've misunderstood them.
I also sometimes feel sad when I read things on the internet and I see the way spelling is going - e.g. ov rather than of, yous as the plural of you (English doesn't even have a plural of you) and the one that really gets my goat is "should of" (or even "should ov"!) instead of should have. I have to remind myself that language is an evolving thing - anyone who has tried to read Chaucer can see how much the english language has changed since then (even Shakespeare requires a bit of translation).
Sometimes we just have to accept this and move on (although it does make me feel like an old fuddyduddy when I listen to young people or read what / how they write now).
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Let's be perfectly honest; the women in couples around here i would say RAISE their we are brutally honest here even the best looking guy will probably meet and have sex with a woman on a swinging site they would not consider attractive enough looking to date (i know as i contact them too.) This allows the women and couples to pick and choose only the best and generally then end up punching above their weight so to speak. It's pretty obvious.
I'm not often offended by posts on here, but I think that this is downright rude.
Apart from the fact that your photos are private, so we're unable to judge whether you are "Good looking" or not (your own words from your own profile), how on earth can you lump all women and couples in one bag.
Yes, I know our photos are private too, but I'm not making a sweeping generalisation about the attractiveness of half of the site, so I'm not exactly putting myself out there for judgement.
When we swing with guys, I can almost always find something good and attractive in them - it's not always about six packs and chiseled good looks. I sometimes lower my usual standards and frankly less frequently raise them. I have a fab relationship with the man I love, so what does it matter to me whether a brief encounter is likely to "consider (me) attractive enough looking to date"?
I don't think that I've ever played with anyone "above my weight". We are here for fun for me (mrs) cos we both enjoy it. As far as we're concerned we can live very happily as a couple without meeting other men for me to have fun with - it's an optional extra - so why on earth would I have to raise or lower my standards at all?
We do what feels good and right at the time and we have a lot of fun doing it. I would hate to think that someone was sacrificing his integrity for a quick fuck with me.
We used to talk about this, sometimes just for the naughtiness of a 'by the hour' booking in a hotel!
In terms of being frustrated at a lack of venue, I have known people to use swingers clubs for pre-arranged meets. Obviously often not as salubrious or private as a hotel, but possibly cheaper and maybe more convenient.
In terms of being frustrated at a lack of venue, I have known people to use swingers clubs for pre-arranged meets. Obviously often not as salubrious or private as a hotel, but possibly cheaper and maybe more convenient.
I was talking to a very good friend of mine about "that book" yesterday over tea and cake
She was telling me that the husbands of her friends are all highly disappointed that despite the book being read by their wives, there has been no change in their... erm... sauciness / sexual initiative and imagination / bedroom behaviours.
I'm not sure what this means about whether it's more acceptable for women to have fetishes than men, but it seems that the men are keen for women to be more open and more honest about their wants and needs.
Tying this in to answer to the original question, from my understanding, it seems sometimes in wider society, to be a bit of a for women to express their darker and raunchier desires. In contrast, men can seem to be almost indulged in their fetishes, not quite as "normal", but as less of a slur on their masculinity than the slur on a woman's so-called character should she admit to having fetishes or rude fantasies.
I dunno, I guess it's kind of hard to say as we're all so different.
She was telling me that the husbands of her friends are all highly disappointed that despite the book being read by their wives, there has been no change in their... erm... sauciness / sexual initiative and imagination / bedroom behaviours.
I'm not sure what this means about whether it's more acceptable for women to have fetishes than men, but it seems that the men are keen for women to be more open and more honest about their wants and needs.
Tying this in to answer to the original question, from my understanding, it seems sometimes in wider society, to be a bit of a for women to express their darker and raunchier desires. In contrast, men can seem to be almost indulged in their fetishes, not quite as "normal", but as less of a slur on their masculinity than the slur on a woman's so-called character should she admit to having fetishes or rude fantasies.
I dunno, I guess it's kind of hard to say as we're all so different.
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if you saw a guy reading 50 shades of gray, would it be a turn on or a turn off?
love john
If he were reading it with a sardonic smile and chuckling or tutting occasionally at the lack of literary merit, then that might be a turn on. But then that might just be me.
See this (or perhaps I should be clear - it's the opposite of this) that would make it a turn off for me.
If he was reading it without the "sardonic smile and chuckling or tutting occasionally at the lack of literary merit" then I would be turned off. I just can't take the books seriously and I'm afraid that anyone who did take them seriously would not be a turn on for me :-?
