I have been involved in, and indeed organised many D/s group sessions where the female wanted ‘rough’ sex. I have always insisted in talking to the lady or knowing that the organiser has spoken to her to understand soft and hard limits. One would always hope that the husband and wife had the same view, but I am never prepared to take that risk, even if it is a case of hearing her say that the husband can call the shots.

I have been involved in sessions where the woman adored caning, whipping, hot wax, nipple clamps and hard fucking and that was her idea of rough sex and others where a hard fuck, hair grabbing and face fucking was all she wanted.

Just try to make sure, especially if a ‘forced’ scenario or restraints are being used. One you just don’t want to get wrong!