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Marya_Northeast
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
0 miles · Stockton-on-Tees
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Quote by tweeky
Where do you fit in?
About here ...
Quote by tweeky
One thing I have learnt is I am not as sexually obesessed as a lot of the people I have met on the swinging scene. I would go further and say I dont even have the sex drive they do
I believe, in comparison to just about everyone I've ever spoken to on here, I have a very low sex drive. I also tend to go through phases, dip in and out, I'm not very consistent in that sense.
Over the years, I've put in a lot of long shifts on this site but mostly 'cos I had nothing else to do at the time. Now, life is a lot busier, this place is more my down time than my full time. I think, before, it was because it was all very new to me so the obsession came from fresh excitement, anticipation, all those lovely exhilarating emotions.
I guess I'm just a tad jaded now.
edit: just looked at the Bucket List thread and realised there is nothing sexual on mine. Says it all, really.
I rarely eat pre-packed sarnies but when I do, they have to have some kind of dressing. I don't really like totally dry food.
Asda used to do a yummy all day breakfast sandwich but they changed it. M&S used to do a fab prawn mayo (and I don't usually like any kind of fishy stuff) sandwich but they changed it.
Sometimes change is bad. For you, Meeko it could be good .. write to your preferred retailer and insist they meet your needs! While you're at it, ask Batchelor's to bring back the mushroom and wine flavour and not with that shitty wholegrain bollocks pasta either, I want the unhealthy stuff, that's why I bought crap in a packet!
Asda used to do a yummy all day breakfast sandwich but they changed it. M&S used to do a fab prawn mayo (and I don't usually like any kind of fishy stuff) sandwich but they changed it.
Sometimes change is bad. For you, Meeko it could be good .. write to your preferred retailer and insist they meet your needs! While you're at it, ask Batchelor's to bring back the mushroom and wine flavour and not with that shitty wholegrain bollocks pasta either, I want the unhealthy stuff, that's why I bought crap in a packet!
I've asked a number of men the same question.
I think if we were to ask people of a different culture, we might get more honesty and potential for improvement (assuming it really was shit). It's just not British to do anything proactive, we're much better at slagging people off to our mates.
Judging purely by the stench of desperation in the chatrooms at times, it appears to me that men will basically get their kicks from anything, it doesn't have to be particularly good ... hence the phrase "any hole's a goal".
I think if we were to ask people of a different culture, we might get more honesty and potential for improvement (assuming it really was shit). It's just not British to do anything proactive, we're much better at slagging people off to our mates.
Judging purely by the stench of desperation in the chatrooms at times, it appears to me that men will basically get their kicks from anything, it doesn't have to be particularly good ... hence the phrase "any hole's a goal".
I can't help it, really poor spelling irritates me *twitch*
It happens that we make typos, do not proof-read, ignore spellcheck or our minds are just racing ahead of our fingers. That is all acceptable but bad spelling just niggles at me.
It's my thing, nothing to do with the person that can't spell.
It happens that we make typos, do not proof-read, ignore spellcheck or our minds are just racing ahead of our fingers. That is all acceptable but bad spelling just niggles at me.
It's my thing, nothing to do with the person that can't spell.
Quote by M1ssVery
not necessarily the best, but been there..
"Its a quarter after one, Im a little drunk,
And I need you now.
Said I wouldnt call but I lost all control and I need you now.
And I dont know how I can do without, I just need you now."
Lady Antebellum- Need You Now
I was listening to this a lot the other day, it's beautiful.
I like all of this song but especially this as it's right at the beginning and so simple and the first time I heard it, it hit me like a slap in the face ... or a knife to the heart
I still think about you lots sometimes
It makes me sad when I think about you lots sometimes
It makes me laugh out loud when I think of you lots sometimes
if you want to hear it all:
Quote by M1ssVery
I have a brick outhouse with a gas pipe, cold water tap, electricity (light and socket) and a small window that opens. You could probably fit a single bed in it and a pot to piss in.
I'd expect you to pay utilities and keep the mice away.
Can I bring men back though?
I dunno ... are they pretty?
Quote by Rober_jones
Hello,
I don't think this is a problem on just this site but many others.
I find it really annoying that some bi/gay men can't accept rejection and that not all men are bi-curious and don't find men attractive. One clearly states you are only attracted to women, you then are accused of being a secret bi sexual.
Most people can't accept rejection. Men more than women, in my experience. They generally get a bit whiny then get arsey and call you all the bitches under the sun
If I was bi-curious I'd say so. You might, but many, many, MANY don't.
Its really annoying that many profiles on these sites are fake ones created by bored chavs or bi/gay men hoping to see a cock cam.
Why the rouse? Why waste peoples time? see above
I have gay friends and they would never force this on me and would understand No mean no.
And there's the difference . Real life versus the internet.
Quote by awol
How about going to swinging clubs... does that not equate to "paying for sex"? Assuming that one does get to have sex (I know sex it's not guaranteed etc. but for the sake of the argument etc. etc.)
... same as buying them a couple of drinks or forking out for a hotel. Everyone has their price, I guess. If you have to ask mine, you clearly can't afford me ;)
Quote by foxylady2209
Love is ...
Wanting the best for someone - even when it isn't you.
Walking away smiling because you know they are happy with the person they chose.
Hearing their voice in your mind and feeling your heart stop for second.
Trying to live up to their belief in you when they are a continent away.
Finding a person worth loving and moving on without regret.
like :thumbup:
I've known loads of men ( who have paid for sexual services and quite a few men and women who have worked in the sex industry. Doesn't appear to be that uncommon.
For some it might be an easy hassle-free way of getting their rocks off but from the conversations I've had, it would seem the whole idea of the transaction itself is a massive part of the kink.
Many moons ago, a friend and I had a light-hearted discussion about hiring a fit, attractive young man for our pleasure but it never came about. Even back then, I think I'd rather have shagged someone who actually fancies me not someone who's paid to.
Maybe it was more funny the second time round? ;)
For some it might be an easy hassle-free way of getting their rocks off but from the conversations I've had, it would seem the whole idea of the transaction itself is a massive part of the kink.
Many moons ago, a friend and I had a light-hearted discussion about hiring a fit, attractive young man for our pleasure but it never came about. Even back then, I think I'd rather have shagged someone who actually fancies me not someone who's paid to.
Quote by Tigerfluff
oh it came up twice, sorry lol
Maybe it was more funny the second time round? ;)
Quote by mincepie
I have as good a chance as anyone else
This is correct... but a good chance it isn't, the odds for winning the larger amounts are stupendously bad.
I didn't say it was a good chance ... I know I've more chance of being struck by lightning ... I said I had as good a chance as anyone else (who is standing under a tree in a storm).
That's good enough for me to give it a go now and again, when I'm feeling lucky. I'm not one of those oddballs that HAS to put it on twice a week and join the work syndicate and then gets a sweat on 'cos they forgot to buy a scratchcard. I'm not a gambler, I just like to take a chance sometimes. It's only a quid.
Quote by mandsgame38
calling on lady advice please,,,,
have any of you ladies ever had such a massive orgasm that you are instantly getting very intence headaches????
It has happened on two occasions (approx 3 years and 6 years ago) that I have got an instant splitting headache immediately after orgasm. In my case, t doesn't appear to be related to the intensity of the orgasm, though, 'cos I've had much better than that
If it happened a lot or there was a certain pattern to it, I'd see my GP.
Quote by MidsCouple24
Seriously, not the donations to charity type thing but spontaneously in the supermarket.
There was a guy in the news who did this over Christmas - just randomly gave out cash gifts to strangers in the street. Very heart-warming.
I don't want to win more than I need. Enough for a worry-free life. Of course, I would help out everyone I care about, that goes without saying. It's no fun if you don't share it.
disclaimer: I am not a Daily Mail reader, someone sent me the link.
Yes.
It's been going for years and loads of millionaires made every year ... surely, it's gonna be my turn eventually? I have as good a chance as anyone else so why not me?
I also feel like I'm meant for better things. Things are ok, I'm not suffering but there's always room for the kind of improvements only money can bring i.e., choice and freedom!
Having said that, I only actually buy a ticket now and then, when I remember!
It's been going for years and loads of millionaires made every year ... surely, it's gonna be my turn eventually? I have as good a chance as anyone else so why not me?
I also feel like I'm meant for better things. Things are ok, I'm not suffering but there's always room for the kind of improvements only money can bring i.e., choice and freedom!
Having said that, I only actually buy a ticket now and then, when I remember!
Quote by Gee_Wizz
I think I was spiked once, but the way it turned out I'm glad I was. Went out with some mates and a girl I was getting close with. She and I each had a discount voucher for 5 bottles for one place which we had. She bought hers first and went over to a table while I bought mine and shared them out with my mate. When we sat down she gave me one of her bottles and that's all I remember until I woke up the next afternoon. The next couple of days are a bit of a blur too. It was the only drink I'd had that night except a bottle of Bulmers before leaving the flat. I'm glad it happened to me because it means it didn't happen to her, which was presumably the point.
That's really nice! Getting a positive from a negative situation. I like your thinking.
I'm like this all the time. I have to be forced to go out and do stuff instead of just thinking about it. The majority of the time, it suits me. I'm pretty anti-social and very much a homebody, love my own company and peace and quiet. I put most of that down to being an only child and now a very independent adult with only a small number of close friends.
Your circumstances are obviously different in that you actually want to do something about it. I think the previous post was right - it's about the planning, to an extent. You might want to set yourself some "goals" ... "on this night, we are going to" ... and do it. Activities you can do together as well as stuff you do with other friends. Like anything else, don't make huge demands on yourself, don't make the "goals" to big or you won't achieve them. You just set yourself up for failure. Once you've got into the routine of regular activities (swinging or otherwise), the motivation will kick in ... I think! ;)
I see it like exercise; you know you should do it, it's good for you and once you're actually doing it, you love it ... it's just the doing it that's the problem!
Good luck
Your circumstances are obviously different in that you actually want to do something about it. I think the previous post was right - it's about the planning, to an extent. You might want to set yourself some "goals" ... "on this night, we are going to" ... and do it. Activities you can do together as well as stuff you do with other friends. Like anything else, don't make huge demands on yourself, don't make the "goals" to big or you won't achieve them. You just set yourself up for failure. Once you've got into the routine of regular activities (swinging or otherwise), the motivation will kick in ... I think! ;)
I see it like exercise; you know you should do it, it's good for you and once you're actually doing it, you love it ... it's just the doing it that's the problem!
Good luck
