As the male (surprise!) of a couple who have only recently joined, nothing has given me as much pleasure and reassurance as reading this thread. I'm honestly not sure which of us is driving this but it's something we're both very excited about and pretty much every message I've read on this post has validated my opinion on 'swingers', though I confess I don't really like the term itself. My opinion was always that people who express and act on their sexual desires were always likely to be more friendly, relaxed, articulate (more intelligent even though I won't delve too much into that in case that's a wee bit intellectually elitist) and comfortable with themselves than the incels and those living by an arbitrary moral code and reading this thread has confirmed that. 

I think loving your partner means that they're the ones you're sharing your life with as well as your body and that inviting others to share their bodies with you, as a couple, is capable of being an expression of the quality of the strength of feeling you have with each other. My first few days have been mostly talking to single guys (surprise! again :-) ) and there have been a couple of decent ones but there have also been the predatory frustrated fools who assume that giving my wife to the pleasure of another is some kind of subservient act by me rather than the thrill of allowing her to own and explore her sexual desires. I'd found those conversations more irksome than anything else and I'm pleased that my views are so clearly shared.

I'm aware that I'm largely preaching to the choir, in a kind of 'Peoples Front for Judea Hate The Romans a Lot' kind of way but when we get to meet our first couple, I hope it's either one of the contributors on this thread or someone just like them.