Thanks to all so far for your replies.
Lil, you are right more a bad use of words and not the situation!!
Peanut, I think you hit the nail on the head, I am sure that for both of us it is just that what we fantasise about is not the "Norm" in society and because we are both (as I am sure most swingers are) very much normal, we sometimes question our "normal" thoughts for our right to have fun!!
OK so we are very happily married and have been getting really horny about her screwing other men, either with me to join in or on her own. We are right on the brink of doing this........but I have to ask the question......
When we do finally take the plunge so to speak, will it all be the way we hope?? Will it ruin our relationship or do what we think, make us even hornier and more in love?
I would love to hear of your opinions good or bad.