Taken a long time but I have realised what I seek is sex where the woman makes me focus on pleasing her. So it's about being dominated in a way that is not necessarily demeaning or painful, rather subservient in giving pleasure and relishing giving that pleasure and everything that comes with it. Looking to only find people that are serious about meeting face to face. We can start with massage and tantra or sensuality as it can bridge the gap between nerves and liberation, massage therapy is also good for the soul, I am sensual and free. Could be totally impulsive, however, careful exploration and excitement are important to me. I am a Novice swinger so looking to go safe and slow. I understand when no means no.