@tedditch has hit the nail on the head. I’ve been a member for a similar amount of time. The amount of times I’ve said “Hi” or “how is everyone” with no response is somewhat unbelievable given it’s a chat room. Added to that most rooms seems to be purely photo uploads fishing for compliments rather than interaction. To be fair I again agree @tedditch, I don’t particular have a high expectation as a single male, and I most certainly do not take it personally. So in summary if I pop into the chat room I now tend not to bother and just to watch/read what’s going on out of interest. Hopefully that at least gives another perspective of why, I at least, don’t bother chatting in the chat room. Good question BTW 👍

Thanks both, makes sense and confirms what I thought the cases might be…

Just looking for clarification on a few things on the site:

1. Meets - when searching meets for the latest, say couple looking for single male, the meeting date has past, but post could be moments ago. Is this just laziness in terms of not updating the post, and/or people trying to be first / at the top of the list?

2. Winks (messages) - I don’t understand these. They appear to be a catch-all message (I do receive them as a single male believe it or not), is this what they are? They appear similar to do normal messages but less personal.

3. Matches - on my home page I get a list of matches. When I click on the ones that are of interest, the profile isn’t a match at all. In fact, the profile has in bold, capitals and underscored “no single males”. Is the algorithm/matching issue, or just profile filled out incorrectly? Just wondered, I hate being seen to view a profile when the other person/people are not interested, unless it’s a really hot profile of course 😜

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To be fair there is a lot of good advice above to explain why single males may not receive a response to a well intended and considered message. It may be disheartening, but I would suggest having realistic expectations from the outset - I don’t know the exact ratio is, but let’s agree that being a single male is like being a small fish in an ocean. I am neither agreeing or disagreeing with the sentiment or why someone does not respond but I at least understand it. One thing is for sure, I do not take it personally, if I did i am definitely in the wrong place.