Welcome to The Unseen Lounge, the East Midlands premier enm, poly, kink & lgbtq+ social event. 

Our events provide a venue for like-minded sexy, kinky and amazing people from all ends of the lifestyle to come together in a relaxed environment to meet, have a drink and get to know each other.

Our goal is to support the ENM, Poly, Kink & LGBTQ+ community in any way we can from socials, speed-dates, icebreakers and parties to help normalise our lifestyle in mainstream life.

Our discord chat is live - 

Where you can chat with over 900 lovely swing and kink people from across the east midlands and promote your events, kinky wears and all kinds of other things. 

Why we Created the Unseen Lounge

The Unseen Lounge was really born out of an absence, My wife and I had recently moved to the east midlands and didn’t really know that many people, we realised that some of the best people we knew were the ENM, Poly, LGBTQ+ and Kink communities and figured we would go to a couple of social events and make some new friends…… and there wasn’t any. So, in the absence of being able to go to someone else’s events, we decided to create our own.

We knew that we DIDN’T want to host at a ENM club, not because they are bad places but because we wanted this to be a real social event and unfortunately at a club, there is a perception that anyone who talks to you, wants to get you naked. We knew that we wanted to be open for the whole community, regardless of age, body type, Gender identity or anything else.

Too many social events we were aware of had criteria to join. (Send a picture, are you hot enough, young enough etc.) That’s just not us. We figured, who are we to tell you who YOU find attractive. We started out small for our first event, 60 or so people came, and we still speak with and have ongoing relationships with people who came to our very first event.

"The Unseen Lounge now attracts between 150-200 people for each event"