Hello everyone,
agreed.. technically its only Adultery if your married, which you can take legal action. I guess anything else is defined on how you personally feel about it. I personally think that swinging enters that grey fuzzy area in relationships, which so many people get tripped up by because they dont define what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.. I think that most couples who do enjoy swinging MUST be completely HONEST with each other about what they want to explore and do things with their partners consent.. to go behind your partners back is just plain cheating in my book, no matter how broad minded and adventurous they may be, as it is introducing lies and elements of doubt; once you do that it is hard to trust again.
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Over 90 days ago
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reminds me of an old TV sketch by the TWO RONNIES, featuring John Cleese as the Upper Class person, Ronnie Barker as middle class, and Ronnie Corbett as working (or lower) class.. classic sketch 
Youw would have thought that in a modern, reasonably well educated and balanced society that the class system which defined most societies would have died out by now.. however, even in the US where everyone is supposed to be "equal" the class system is still alive and kicking, though now largely defined in most countries by material wealth, etc..
Youw would have thought that in a modern, reasonably well educated and balanced society that the class system which defined most societies would have died out by now.. however, even in the US where everyone is supposed to be "equal" the class system is still alive and kicking, though now largely defined in most countries by material wealth, etc.. this seems to happen in alot of rooms.. 
its bloody boring to be honest. I agree that there should be an autoboot for people who cant be bothered to speak, or who are talking only in whisper too, but after about 5 minutes.. :idea: if people wanna just talk in whisper they ought to set up a private room or go to msn or something, and leave space in the chat rooms for people who can actually hold a conversation
its bloody boring to be honest. I agree that there should be an autoboot for people who cant be bothered to speak, or who are talking only in whisper too, but after about 5 minutes.. :idea: if people wanna just talk in whisper they ought to set up a private room or go to msn or something, and leave space in the chat rooms for people who can actually hold a conversation Hi All,
Id like to see more real chat.. so many rooms are often full of ppl not chatting at all, or via whisper.. whats the point clogging up a room if all your gonna do is jerk off in a corner or sit there and say nothing?? suggestion, if your in a private convo with someone that you dont wanna share, either set up a private room or go to messenger or something.. is that too radical an idea??
Id like to see more real chat.. so many rooms are often full of ppl not chatting at all, or via whisper.. whats the point clogging up a room if all your gonna do is jerk off in a corner or sit there and say nothing?? suggestion, if your in a private convo with someone that you dont wanna share, either set up a private room or go to messenger or something.. is that too radical an idea??
Hi Lost
I agree with most others.. a Full English has to have Tea with it, not coffee.. having lived out in Scandanavia for a year now I do occasionally miss a good brecky, cos you cant get decent bacon out here.. its the streaky variety that frazzles down to nothing when you cook it. Or Even proper sausages. They're like rocking horse shite here.. few and far between. THe ones they have here are more like hotdog/bratwurst sausages.. and if you do find some real ones they cost a fortune!
Having said all that when I was living back in the UK the only time i used to eat a full brecky was when I was on holiday or visiting my parents anyway, and having been back recently to visit the folks and been pining for a decent slap up for some time, I was kind of disappointed when I finally had one.. it wasnt as good as my memory said it was.. left my mouth feeling like it was full of lard.. weird. You dont think you'll ever adapt to coffee and pastries for breakfast, but you do, given time :shock:
I agree with most others.. a Full English has to have Tea with it, not coffee.. having lived out in Scandanavia for a year now I do occasionally miss a good brecky, cos you cant get decent bacon out here.. its the streaky variety that frazzles down to nothing when you cook it. Or Even proper sausages. They're like rocking horse shite here.. few and far between. THe ones they have here are more like hotdog/bratwurst sausages.. and if you do find some real ones they cost a fortune!
Having said all that when I was living back in the UK the only time i used to eat a full brecky was when I was on holiday or visiting my parents anyway, and having been back recently to visit the folks and been pining for a decent slap up for some time, I was kind of disappointed when I finally had one.. it wasnt as good as my memory said it was.. left my mouth feeling like it was full of lard.. weird. You dont think you'll ever adapt to coffee and pastries for breakfast, but you do, given time :shock:
Hi KItty,
thanks for your reply too
Thats pretty much the approach ive been taking as you suggested, one step at a time, pretty much letting her lead the way so she feels comfortable :) and only take as far as it goes naturally.. ive already done some things in some clubs that are in fact far more exciting as a fantasy in your head than in reality lol
Good that you have someone to kind of guide you, or at least watch out for you in this, as in my experience there are some strange folks out there too (or maybe thats just me lol) If I can offer a little advice, it would be dont put too much about yourself into your profile.. maybe even disguise your facial pic in some way.. as there are people who will try to exploit things about you.. getting to know people through the chat rooms can actually be a good way to feel more comfortable, and reveal more of yourself once you feel safe.. a bit like unwrapping a christmas present;)Good luck with it and take care anyway :)
Mr Lost.. "dont it always seem to go that you dont know what you got til its gone.." lol I was trying to remember the song lyrics your quote was from:)
thanks for your reply too
Thats pretty much the approach ive been taking as you suggested, one step at a time, pretty much letting her lead the way so she feels comfortable :) and only take as far as it goes naturally.. ive already done some things in some clubs that are in fact far more exciting as a fantasy in your head than in reality lolGood that you have someone to kind of guide you, or at least watch out for you in this, as in my experience there are some strange folks out there too (or maybe thats just me lol) If I can offer a little advice, it would be dont put too much about yourself into your profile.. maybe even disguise your facial pic in some way.. as there are people who will try to exploit things about you.. getting to know people through the chat rooms can actually be a good way to feel more comfortable, and reveal more of yourself once you feel safe.. a bit like unwrapping a christmas present;)Good luck with it and take care anyway :)
Mr Lost.. "dont it always seem to go that you dont know what you got til its gone.." lol I was trying to remember the song lyrics your quote was from:)
Hi Mr Lost,
Thanks for the constructive advice, and eloquently put too. I know the chat rooms for most people are more of a social network thing rather than a pick up place, and rightly so, as I was part of a chat room thing some years ago on a similar site and made a few friends through there who im still in touch with though that group long since disappeared in the proverbial ether. I do think that swinging can often be more of an exploratory thing, ie, part of discovering one's self and breaking away from the social norms, though for many it does often seem to remain purely in the realms of fantasy (which is what I meant when i said all talk and no action, no offence intended).. possibly rightly so in some cases too, as I do know of couples who were happily married and only came to swinging as a way to "spice things up", and who are now divorced with the whole mess attached with that too.. often due to the fact that one party in the couple wanted to get into it more than their partner, feelings of betrayal, etc etc.. which kind of brings me back the original question. So I guess this is something time will tell.. maybe I will come back to this, maybe not.
Thanks again for airing your views anyway, its given me food for thought if not clarity
Thanks for the constructive advice, and eloquently put too. I know the chat rooms for most people are more of a social network thing rather than a pick up place, and rightly so, as I was part of a chat room thing some years ago on a similar site and made a few friends through there who im still in touch with though that group long since disappeared in the proverbial ether. I do think that swinging can often be more of an exploratory thing, ie, part of discovering one's self and breaking away from the social norms, though for many it does often seem to remain purely in the realms of fantasy (which is what I meant when i said all talk and no action, no offence intended).. possibly rightly so in some cases too, as I do know of couples who were happily married and only came to swinging as a way to "spice things up", and who are now divorced with the whole mess attached with that too.. often due to the fact that one party in the couple wanted to get into it more than their partner, feelings of betrayal, etc etc.. which kind of brings me back the original question. So I guess this is something time will tell.. maybe I will come back to this, maybe not.
Thanks again for airing your views anyway, its given me food for thought if not clarity
all good and valid suggestions.. thanks.. I had actully pretty much dropped out of swinging anyway as I was getting bored of much of it.. (all talk and not much action in the chatrooms etc) but then she introduced the idea of another girl. I also suggested the possibility of another guy or couple too but she doesnt seem so keen on that.. hm, All in good time i guess.
I had actully pretty much dropped out of swinging anyway as I was getting bored of much of it.. (all talk and not much action in the chatrooms etc) but then she introduced the idea of another girl. I also suggested the possibility of another guy or couple too but she doesnt seem so keen on that.. hm, All in good time i guess. Hi,
Ive been a single member on here for a while now and become familiar with the ins and outs, ups and downs of the swinging scene (both literally and metaphorically lol) However, im now with a partner who is quite adventurous sexually, in that she fantasises about many things, in particular a bi scene with another girl.. She knows a little about what ive done in the past.. but im sort of stuck for how to progress.. Do I just tell her, or gradually introduce things a little at a time?? Its always easy to say "oh be direct and open about it" but I dont want to push things too far or too fast with her... if at all. Im sure many people must have encountered this at some point.. id be happy to hear from anyone offering sensible and reasonable advice..
thanks
Ive been a single member on here for a while now and become familiar with the ins and outs, ups and downs of the swinging scene (both literally and metaphorically lol) However, im now with a partner who is quite adventurous sexually, in that she fantasises about many things, in particular a bi scene with another girl.. She knows a little about what ive done in the past.. but im sort of stuck for how to progress.. Do I just tell her, or gradually introduce things a little at a time?? Its always easy to say "oh be direct and open about it" but I dont want to push things too far or too fast with her... if at all. Im sure many people must have encountered this at some point.. id be happy to hear from anyone offering sensible and reasonable advice..
thanks
but as Angel says theres plenty to choose from in Manchester
Ok Ladies, point taken.. but i have facial picture on my profile which is on the private view thing.. I take it that this cant be seen when viewing a profile, judging by the responses posted here?? It was a straight forward question as to whether this is the case or not. but as for actually having a facial picture on public view, why is it that ppl demand one when they themsleves have only a pic of their fanny, tits arse etc or in some cases, no pic at all!!.. seen, one seem em all, as some of you seem to be so keen to quote.. doesnt this smack of hypocrasy somewhat??
Hi ppl..
Im new to this site, having been a member of a similar site for a few months with some moderate success. Just wondered if anyone can give any helpful hints, and any information on how well this site works, info on clubs etc.: Yeah im aware of the thing that cock shots dont really get you anywhere, I have a facial shot on profile for private view.. is that enough?? Who really wants their mug all over the web for ppl to see who might otherwise be preffered not to.. if you know what I mean.. :? 
Oh and how well does this "chat" forum work?? all contributions welcomed
cheers
Im new to this site, having been a member of a similar site for a few months with some moderate success. Just wondered if anyone can give any helpful hints, and any information on how well this site works, info on clubs etc.
: Yeah im aware of the thing that cock shots dont really get you anywhere, I have a facial shot on profile for private view.. is that enough?? Who really wants their mug all over the web for ppl to see who might otherwise be preffered not to.. if you know what I mean.. :? Oh and how well does this "chat" forum work?? all contributions welcomed cheers
