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Hi everone, seems to be most of the action seems to be up north ? are we missing something down south or are we just a bit more reserved down here ?
anyway if there are any bi couples or singles in the London/Surrey that want to chat with a view to meeting up, feel free to post or message me.
Cheers
Dave
anyway if there are any bi couples or singles in the London/Surrey that want to chat with a view to meeting up, feel free to post or message me.
Cheers
Dave
Quote by simoncomesaround
Hello,
I am Simon a 27 year old male. Fairly new to Swinging, but eager to get started and would love to meet. Maybe for a chat first.
Quite fit, not bad looking and very easy going and relaxed.
Open to suggestions.
Sure they asked to meet couples or females, must just be me getting confused again
hi u got an ad?Quote by curvyvenus
I started this thread as a newbie who wasn't sure how the scene worked and whether my BBW curves would be appreciated. Jjust for the record, I've come across a couple of swingers clubs/parties that have specifically said I'm NOT welcome as they prefer "young and attractive people" - startlingly bigotted and short-sighted but from the encouraging mesages posted, clearly not the norm for the scene which is great.
So I'll let those particular groups get on with their "young and attractive" parties - their loss. Personally, I'm taking my first plunge into the scene at the Our PLace 4 Fun Hellfire Club party night on 29th September - if anyone is planning on going come and say hi! I@ll be the really enthusiastic BBW!
If you need a willing partner..................
Quote by naughtynymphos1
loadsssssssss of clubs have a bi night
Personally i wouldn't want to have a bi munch because i think everyone is equal and by having bi and str8 munches you would be putting labels on people and puttinng them in their own little sections. At a much where everyone one is welcome you can still meet bi people but get to meet everyone else as well :thumbup:
As for my personal views on bi men i love them, tho with my hubbie being str8 i do not meet as many as i would like, i usually go to the bi night at my local club fr that side of things
Agree, silly question though, how do you know who is bi and who is not, would hate to get in a difficult situation
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Recent experience suggests to me that there are quite a few guys out there who think they're bi but when it comes to turning up to a meet, they're suddenly no longer sure - I've been messed around by two of them this week!
However, there are plenty of guys who are genuinely bi, they're great.....when you can find them!
I shy away from the bi curious types, am bi have been for a loooooong time and know what i like
Hi All, probibly been a thread on this subject before, would like to know the general feeling on bi guys, have put a few posts on lets meet up with little or no response. Are there any clubs that have bi nights etc. And has it been suggested before about having a bi munch ?
Look forward to your thoughts.
Look forward to your thoughts.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I know what you mean, i have had it a few times when i have stated i am looking for something and people email you offering the opposite to what you have asked for, usually str8 men when i have placed a add for a bi one, and when you say 'no' you don't want to meet them i usually get comments like...well your a ugly bitch anyway i don't need to coem on here for a shag i can get it anywhere
Just my luck to have missed the looking for a bi one add
will keep looking though Couldnt have siad it better tallnhairy !!!
So, did your partner actually have to tell you that her sex drive had diminished?
If the difference becomes very pronounced, the natural thing to do, in my opinion, would be to find out why, and whether I could do anything to help them regain it. I'd argue that it's definitely not the automatic response to want/need to meet another person. Yes, sex is a basic need and drive but it doesn't necessarily mean you have to go elsewhere; you may have to compromise. Regarding openness, does your partner know that you're on here looking for sex? You are asking people on here to be open and trusting with you and not moralise about cheating. OK I accept that there are people on here who cheat and there are people who will play with them. I don't and won't. Don't ask me to agree that cheating is acceptable, because in my opinion, it isn't. I am entitled to that opinion, as you are to yours.
I agree with you, i can never see a reason why cheating could be ok, u hear so many excuses like 'my wife don't understand me' or 'we're only together cause of the kids' and 'i havn't got anywhere else to go' to me none are acceptable reasons to cheat, if you live together as a couple then you should do just that and if your not happy move on, millions of others do it , marrage isn't forever for some people
Coming to the aid of the married and unhappy, both male and female. People always use inflections that point to the male cheat, there are female cheats out there as well. However forgetting the 'male rights' standpoint, I agree that cheating is not good. I wish everyone was in a happy relationship that matched their needs, and otherwise could leave and find one. Equally abstenance is possible peeps, never easy, some would say bad in itself, but it can be done.
However I also have great sympathy for those whose love life is in trouble. Yes this means the relationship is in trouble, and yes they should try to repair it or consider moving on. However this is one of the hardest areas of human relationships on all concerned, and factors like your children, and maybe your love for your partner mean you are not just going to up and leave.
To some, cheating while being a betrayal, is better than walking out and destroying a family. Yes they are risking the family by their infidelity, but they are playing the risk against a certainty of losing everything if they leave. I think those who chose this path after trying their best (and by this I mean waiting long term, really trying to restart their love lives, and who really love their partners) should not be branded 'bad' people by default.
I do not deny that there are people to whom fidelity is nothing, who never had a concept of trust, and who cheat as they can. Users and abusers. Just remember some of the 'sob stories' are true, and some people are desperately unhappy and in need of companionship, but have damn good reasons not to walk away from their partners.
Quote by tallnhairy
I could so relate to the comments - You couples who do not need extra relationships are very very lucky and perhaps should not moralise about cheating etc as much as you do when those of us who are less fortunate post comments. Sex was great with my partner until just over a year ago but then her sex drive started diminishing without me realising it at first.
Let's be honest it happens in more relationships than peoplle will admit. One partner has a higher sex drive than the other. If the difference is marginal both can live with it. If it is very pronounced then one partner becomes very frustrated. It is natural then to wnat to meet another person where they can mutually satisfy their needs. This is healthy - sex is a basic need and drive. Let's have some openess about this. Lets's allow people to find appropriate matches.
I am a striaght guy of 45 who likes intelligent chat, laughs, fun - I want to know if the sexual chemistry will be good , some compatability , as much as I want great sex. I am not a wham bam thank you mam / just a quick shag type of guy. Whether it is a one off or short term a lot of people want respect, trust and openess as well as intersting and stimulating sexual adventures. When it works its great fun. Let's honour that on this site .
Blake45
So, did your partner actually have to tell you that her sex drive had diminished?
If the difference becomes very pronounced, the natural thing to do, in my opinion, would be to find out why, and whether I could do anything to help them regain it. I'd argue that it's definitely not the automatic response to want/need to meet another person. Yes, sex is a basic need and drive but it doesn't necessarily mean you have to go elsewhere; you may have to compromise. Regarding openness, does your partner know that you're on here looking for sex? You are asking people on here to be open and trusting with you and not moralise about cheating. OK I accept that there are people on here who cheat and there are people who will play with them. I don't and won't. Don't ask me to agree that cheating is acceptable, because in my opinion, it isn't. I am entitled to that opinion, as you are to yours.
I agree with you, i can never see a reason why cheating could be ok, u hear so many excuses like 'my wife don't understand me' or 'we're only together cause of the kids' and 'i havn't got anywhere else to go' to me none are acceptable reasons to cheat, if you live together as a couple then you should do just that and if your not happy move on, millions of others do it , marrage isn't forever for some people
Coming to the aid of the married and unhappy, both male and female. People always use inflections that point to the male cheat, there are female cheats out there as well. However forgetting the 'male rights' standpoint, I agree that cheating is not good. I wish everyone was in a happy relationship that matched their needs, and otherwise could leave and find one. Equally abstenance is possible peeps, never easy, some would say bad in itself, but it can be done.
However I also have great sympathy for those whose love life is in trouble. Yes this means the relationship is in trouble, and yes they should try to repair it or consider moving on. However this is one of the hardest areas of human relationships on all concerned, and factors like your children, and maybe your love for your partner mean you are not just going to up and leave.
To some, cheating while being a betrayal, is better than walking out and destroying a family. Yes they are risking the family by their infidelity, but they are playing the risk against a certainty of losing everything if they leave. I think those who chose this path after trying their best (and by this I mean waiting long term, really trying to restart their love lives, and who really love their partners) should not be branded 'bad' people by default.
I do not deny that there are people to whom fidelity is nothing, who never had a concept of trust, and who cheat as they can. Users and abusers. Just remember some of the 'sob stories' are true, and some people are desperately unhappy and in need of companionship, but have damn good reasons not to walk away from their partners.
