well i would just like to thank those of you who spoke out in my favour, i must admit i very nearly decided not to use this site as it appeared to be populated by the " in brigade". but it would appear not to be the case, to my crittics(not that i need to explain myself) i say this you know nogthing about me or my home life, i am not judging anyone and i dont expect to be judged by people with morals no better than my own. sorry if this offends, but i was quite supprised that for people who claim to swingers could be so narrow minded.