Be a long wait that was posted 2004 hehe I wish you luck
Most clubs do have a dress code usually casual that if it's a mixed bar and lounge area so anything goes like a towel or shorts as you mix with fully clothed people.
But others like Cupids in Manchester like you to change straight away from your normal street clothes into towels shorts or a skimpy sexy gear for the girls.. well it is a swinging club so you need to show everyone your intent !!!
best ring up first and check the clubs dress code
Think people find a cock pic too in your face ..we all know what and why we are here but people go about in so many different will meet anyone at the drop of a hat while others need to be relaxed and sure about the meet and go through the same routine like you would with any new friend.
Not easy this swinging lark
Chris