Only twice have I booked a hotel and had no shows. Now they have to book the hotel and I pay after. Worst excuse ever - I forgot it was my son's birthday !

Commercialism. Time wasters. Fake profiles. But it is still my 'come to' site when I want some fun. There are enough old school types to make it all worth while and experience helps me recognise the fakes and time wasters.  This site has helped me have far more sex than I deserve over the years and I have met some lovely people. It is quiet these days, but I think that is because people can't wait and want instant gratification. Few people answer messages so often the site has no reward and I give up.  I'm using the forum today for the first time in twelve years because my messages are not being replied to and I am bored. Everybody should try to reply if they are contacted or rewards will keep on diminishing.

I'm still here. Somedays I wonder why, but I have had a lot of fun because of this site over the years. I did prefer it when it was a small, free and almost unknown site though. 

It's quite simple - if they say no or stop at anytime and you carry on then it is

I don't know what the figures are, but single men on here are by far the biggest group. Profiles show little of your personality so get in the chatrooms and show people what you are like - unless you are a fould mouthed uncouthed idiot

Play the numbers game - one in fifty may reply to a single male messaging them. Although, I remember when swingers were polite enough to reply even if it was to say 'Sorry, not what we are looking for'. Just imagine how many single men must message females and couples every day. People are too pressured and in too much of a rush these days

Keep trying and good luck

I've been on this site for years and years and... Oh god I'm getting old - I have had a lot of fun swinging and after the first year I hardly ever get let down. You get to notice the fakes and time wasters. I have to say it is the young female profiles that are the worst now and often lead to somebody trying to sell something. I always report things to mods if I think rules are being broken. They are in the best place to deal with it and I can't be arsed to waste my time with arguements with idiots. Have fun and stay safe all