Some very sensible contributions here. I agree that guys who put ‘straight’ on their profile but also indicate they’re looking for men/TVs etc is a bit weird. Also to me bicurious means thinking about it but never tried. But nothing is black or white. I guess there’s a twilight zone where you’ve tried but still not sure but if you’ve crossed the threshold and enjoyed it you have to be bi or gay. I do also understand from my own journey that guilt and denial makes it a lot more complex than that.

Probably impossible but would so like to find a gay or bi lover to spend nights with and go on holidays together (when we can again). Married or otherwise, not wanting to be open isn’t a problem. I’m totally discrete and wouldn’t upset their  normal life. Just a trusted boyfriend.