Thanks for the thumbs up Ste and Kez, sound advice from you guys too. I think that is the key, you hit the nail on the head, 'you aren't desperate to meet others'... being overly desperate to meet up (whilst we all have days like it) can lead to conversations with people who you aren't being picky enough over.
You can't do anymore than taking your time and getting to know a person, or a couple, a little bit better
Good luck to all the first-timers out there who feel their time is being wasted. Trust the more experienced members on here and try to get to know more people, even people you don't think you would end up meeting - it is a social site after all.