Ok time for something a little different. I have been on here a few weeks and seen how different people approach presenting themselves.

I like to plough my own furrow so this will be a profile like no other.

Just to be clear I am not on here looking for sex. Wow what a shocker!. A bloke on a swinging website not looking for sex.

Honestly, My mind doesn’t work like that. I am not into JUST fucking.

The thing that really turns me on is a connection normally from a chat leading to a conversation with someone who is intelligent enough to enlighten me, who challenges me, who can hold my attention, who can flirt with me and likes me to flirt with them. Someone who can maintain eye contact while speaking to me,  who will hold my hand as they take me outside of my comfort Zone.

I wanted to put some pictures up that encapsulate who I am. This would have given you something to talk to me about. These are the things that fill my soul with joy and give my life meaning. They are not everything. However it seems that pictures that don't have acres of flesh contravene the site policy.

I don’t need to show you my willy or me semi naked. We get it right you will see these things soon enough.

I am going to put it out there directly because it’s the elephant in my room. I cross-dress. Look at my pictures and realise its not all of me just a small part. Its very personal and very private. Simply put I like how it feels. I wont turn up at our first meet dressed. I won’t be dressed the first time we sleep together. Or the 2^nd or the 3^rd. But be aware of it. I will dress if you ask me too and I am sure that you want me too and I feel safe to do so.

If I message you its because something in your profile has caught my eye. A picture, some words, your face. Its as simple as that.

Its hard to start a conversation so I will only contact you once. If you cant respond with something more than ‘Hi’, with something meaningful, something that says you have looked at my profile, something that says you are interested in me. I won’t contact you again.

This place is brutal. I am laying this all out front so you know a little of what you are dealing with , with me.

I am perfectly comfortable with never meeting anyone from here. I hope that there is just one person that I end up being glad I met and ends up feeling the same about me.

I heard the phrase swing-dating recently. I like it, I think it describes what I am looking for. I am on here because it’s the environment for a level of honesty and openness you don’t get anywhere else.

What I want more than anything is conversation with someone who is open and excited by the prospect of the places and states of mind a conversation can lead too.