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Quote by MikeNorth
I cannot see any way they will ever be stopped.
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We could write loads of advice posts for single guys like Roger743's and Marcuso's, but they either don't, or can't read
so that's where the "no posting in that section until youi're mod-approved/have 50 posts" bit comes in. They CAN'T post ads before they hang about a bit.
Quote by LadyFeeBee
Drunken prattle is one thing but all the Scots I've met through this site have been great people and I'm looking forward to seeing them all again.
Perhaps you can explain your point of view at the next McMunch?
Steve
Look forward to extending our traditional and world famous Scottish hospitality on 26/03.
Trust me though....dont drink the wine!
What type, mad dog or buckie?
G
Quote by roger743
What's wrong with someone just coming here and posting a "wannashag" message? I'll grant you, for the single guys it's a bit of a futile effort, but if people want to give it a go, is it really our place to stop them?
I think it's the droves of them that have been posting messages like that, and never returning to the forum again. Treating the place like a one-stop fuck shop. Posting their ads all over the place. They find the site, post a boring half-hearted ad within 5 minutes, and then complain that they get no interest. Like there should be 10 women fighting over them just because they're a "fit male" and "wanking on cam NOW!". It's pathetic.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a quick release. We all do from time to time. I think it's pretty disrespectful to everyone on the forum for a person's first, and only, post to be one of these type of posts.
Quote by MikeNorth
Gae wrote:How about having a section of the board that's only visible to those with so many posts, or only accessible to those who apply to be in the usergroup? Make general chat open to everyone, and make the other sections for people with 30 or 50 posts or more. It'll encourage people to participate in the forums, and to be honest, 50 posts ain't all that much.
This is in theory a good idea, but I suspect it would just encourage people to post any old rubbish, purely to increase their post count. As several of us have pointed out previously, there is already an element of that here in the forum.
Mike.
It's easier to ban someone for spamming to get their post count up than it is to ban them for "a bit of a rubbish advert".
If we go the user group path, then a mod or admin has to approve their application. They can then look at their post history, and decide if the person has actually participated in the forum or posted "lol" 50 times. This would benefit both "let's meet up" and the dogging section, both of which get abused.
Quote by miss_vicky_mr_stuboy
it is a good way for sad little perverts to get their thrill as and when rquired!!! I think you should just recommend a few good sites for webcamming if you can do that and thats it.
I trust you don't mean us, by sad little perverts, and that you mean the strew of one-post wonders we've collected in recent weeks.
As for recommending a few sites, why spread us about? We're all fairly like (open?) minded here. Some of us are taking our first steps, some of us are more experienced, but we are all interested in swinging etc. If the forum can facilitate those after phone sex, why not those after camming fun?
"Let's Meet Up
Post meet ups here, including personal meets, party invites, club get togethers, Munches, webcam sessions, phonesex and instant messaging. However, please post dogging meets below."
is the charter for the "let's meet up" forum.
I absolutely agree that banning all talk of camming will stop a lot of idiots on here, but we've already discussed a few possible solutions that won't leave out those in favour of it.
Here's another one.
How about having a section of the board that's only visible to those with so many posts, or only accessible to those who apply to be in the usergroup? Make general chat open to everyone, and make the other sections for people with 30 or 50 posts or more. It'll encourage people to participate in the forums, and to be honest, 50 posts ain't all that much. Across the message boards i'm a member of, i must have >5000 posts, in only a few years. 50 is nothing, and it'll weed out those that are interested in the community, and get shot of those that are interested in a quick wank.
There are those of us that like it though, that's the thing. Legit people who participate in the forums, people who have ads in the photo ads, people genuinely interested in this lifestyle, even if we're only dipping a toe in at the mo.
As i said before, we should have a section for it, as a trial, but it should be modded strictly. OR, maybe a new section in the photo ads? Would that be better? SURE, there are other sites for meeting people to cam with, but we, for one (well, two, but it doesn't sound right when said) are interested in more than just camming. It's along the same lines at least.
Camming's not just about having a wank while reading what someone would like to do to you. There's the aspect of a couple performing for an individual, or vice versa.
To be honest, with some of the muppets posting wanting to cam, i can understand those who want to get rid of anything to do with it, but think about the sensible regular users who do like to have some fun over the electric interweb.
There's some right plonkers in the dogging section too, but we don't close it down, we get shot of the plonkers. The same should be done here, i reckon. Give it its own section, on trial, either in the forum or in photo ads. Go on.
As i said before, we should have a section for it, as a trial, but it should be modded strictly. OR, maybe a new section in the photo ads? Would that be better? SURE, there are other sites for meeting people to cam with, but we, for one (well, two, but it doesn't sound right when said) are interested in more than just camming. It's along the same lines at least.
Camming's not just about having a wank while reading what someone would like to do to you. There's the aspect of a couple performing for an individual, or vice versa.
To be honest, with some of the muppets posting wanting to cam, i can understand those who want to get rid of anything to do with it, but think about the sensible regular users who do like to have some fun over the electric interweb.
There's some right plonkers in the dogging section too, but we don't close it down, we get shot of the plonkers. The same should be done here, i reckon. Give it its own section, on trial, either in the forum or in photo ads. Go on.
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
Gae is happily having a post AM "munch" all of her own as I write.
lol
It's the he, not the she. :)
I was up until waiting to see which particular toilet the planet's going to be flushed down, and they've STILL not finished counting, 10 hours later. Different estimates on different sites too, the buggers.
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Maybe we could start a little section on how to help us find fakers?
I just revealed one who'd messaged us.
Now, this kinda thing happens several times a week. Literally 80% of any contact we make with people ends up with them either stopping replying, or me proving them to be a fake. We've met a few interesting people to chat to, cam with and possibly one day meet up with on this site and a few others, but more often than not, it ends like this.
Now, i'm the kinda guy who likes to argue. I love pissing people off and proving them wrong. I have to admit i kinda enjoy weeding out fakers like this, but just how many people are fooled by these guys?
I think we should definitely have a guide for people to help them weed out fakers. It's all simple stuff like googling the email address etc. Sure, that doesn't work all the time, but it's worth a shot.
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I just revealed one who'd messaged us.
Her - would i interest u????? (small pic attached, looked attractive enough, but kinda hard to tell)
me - maybe
necessarily nude, just one where i can see your face. :) What ad are you replying to?
her - swingingheaven, yes do have more but need to see u 2
now, both our ads clearly state "PLEASE mention in your email that you're replying to the ad in *section*. Saves any confusion :)"
me - Did you read my ad in SH properly? I have two. Which one are you replying to? Tell me a bit more about yourself, if you don't want to send more pics.
her - i am bi and looking for a bi fem for fun, can be dom or sub, i do have more pics
me - So you're replying to the "women seeking women" ad then? Age? Location? Are you a member of the SH forum? Do you have a webcam/way to prove you are who you say you are? Can you send a bigger pic where i can see your face, please? The first
one is very small.
her - can send more after i have seen one of u
now, by this point, i'm pretty much sure that this is a faker. They've avoided my questions, clearly didn't even realy the ad properly, and don't seem particularly forthcoming in helping prove they are who they say they are. IMO, the onus is on the person making first contact to prove they are who they say they are. We're more than happy to go on webcam, at least to show our faces.
me - Answer my questions then, at least?
her - woman seeking woman, have my own man who has no idea, from edin
now, i'd already googled the email addy the person is emailing from. I google every email address i get, just to see what turns up. It returned two hits, and it appeats to be a MAN's email address, and in fact his contact address for work he does with a charity He's a regional coordinator. Called Bill.
me - age? can you prove you are who you say you are? Are you a member of
the SH forum? Do you have an ad on SH? If your man doesn't know, are you using your own email address, or his? :)
her - work email, dont bother, going to look elsewhere u obviously not interested
he knows the game's up now... :)
me - hahaha, you've been caught, bill. We're not stupid. We can spot fakers a mile away.
Now, this kinda thing happens several times a week. Literally 80% of any contact we make with people ends up with them either stopping replying, or me proving them to be a fake. We've met a few interesting people to chat to, cam with and possibly one day meet up with on this site and a few others, but more often than not, it ends like this.
Now, i'm the kinda guy who likes to argue. I love pissing people off and proving them wrong. I have to admit i kinda enjoy weeding out fakers like this, but just how many people are fooled by these guys?
I think we should definitely have a guide for people to help them weed out fakers. It's all simple stuff like googling the email address etc. Sure, that doesn't work all the time, but it's worth a shot.
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hehehe
When i got my lip done, i went straight to McD's, and had to re-learn how to eat
Neither it nor my tongue were sore though. What's sore with your tongue is if, once it starts to heal, you have a sneezing fit, and the bar rattles off your teeth, re-opening the wound. EEK!
Stay off noodles and toast, for now. Nothing spicy either. :)
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When i got my lip done, i went straight to McD's, and had to re-learn how to eat
Neither it nor my tongue were sore though. What's sore with your tongue is if, once it starts to heal, you have a sneezing fit, and the bar rattles off your teeth, re-opening the wound. EEK!
Stay off noodles and toast, for now. Nothing spicy either. :)
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Yep, firefox here too. Tried a lot of browsers (including opera) and firefox pisses over everything else.
If you still use IE, you're a loony. With spyware.
If you use Opera, you're either getting adverts, or you've paid for it, which is silly when firefox is better.
I'd rather people used opera than IE, but the only sensible option, IMO, is firefox. Install a few extensions, customise it the way you like, and you'll do things in half the time you would with any other browser.
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If you still use IE, you're a loony. With spyware.
If you use Opera, you're either getting adverts, or you've paid for it, which is silly when firefox is better.
I'd rather people used opera than IE, but the only sensible option, IMO, is firefox. Install a few extensions, customise it the way you like, and you'll do things in half the time you would with any other browser.
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We've spent a good 100 bucks on toys for R in the past few months, she can't get enough of 'em.
Doesn't bother me at all, because i know i do the job as well as, if not better than any toy she has. If it appeared to be giving her more pleasure, i'd just have to try harder :)
Get stuck in with it (literally if she likes it ;)) - there's a lot that can be done WITH you and a toy, not instead of you.
Actually, R has worn one out, and nearly another. I had the bloody thing open and was in about it with a soldering iron. We've noticed that Ann Summers toys tend to be very badly made. Bought her the purple deluxe rabbit, and the bloody battery door won't stay shut, and it's very fussy about the batteries, the battery compartment doesn't hold them snug enough, and they go off the contacts.
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Doesn't bother me at all, because i know i do the job as well as, if not better than any toy she has. If it appeared to be giving her more pleasure, i'd just have to try harder :)
Get stuck in with it (literally if she likes it ;)) - there's a lot that can be done WITH you and a toy, not instead of you.
Actually, R has worn one out, and nearly another. I had the bloody thing open and was in about it with a soldering iron. We've noticed that Ann Summers toys tend to be very badly made. Bought her the purple deluxe rabbit, and the bloody battery door won't stay shut, and it's very fussy about the batteries, the battery compartment doesn't hold them snug enough, and they go off the contacts.
G
I think you've hit the nail on the head. The whole camming thing's usually a quick fix thing.
People want to have a wank, so they sign up, post a few times, get nothing, disappear.
My girlfriend and i enjoy camming, and we do it fairly regularly with a few people she's met on the net, through FP and a few other places. It's a first step towards actual swinging for us. It's the same for many people/couples.
The problem is the idiots with one post posting incomprehensible (they're typing with one hand, mind) jibberish. Often just "wanking on cam now", with no mention of who they want to cam with, etc.
I think there should be a trial section opened up, with very strict rules.
You have to post whether you want someone NOW for a quick fix, or whether you actually want people to cam with, and get to know.
You have to say what you use, MSN, , etc.
You have to say who/what you are, and who/what you want. Ages, sex, etc.
I'm sure you'll all be able to come up with more ideas, but it really WILL have to be monitored strictly, to stop the one-post wonders that've been plagueing the place of late.
I'd offer to mod it, but i'm a bit new here, although i've got years of modding experience. I'm probably a bit of a hard-ass as well. The mods here are pretty laid back.
People want to have a wank, so they sign up, post a few times, get nothing, disappear.
My girlfriend and i enjoy camming, and we do it fairly regularly with a few people she's met on the net, through FP and a few other places. It's a first step towards actual swinging for us. It's the same for many people/couples.
The problem is the idiots with one post posting incomprehensible (they're typing with one hand, mind) jibberish. Often just "wanking on cam now", with no mention of who they want to cam with, etc.
I think there should be a trial section opened up, with very strict rules.
You have to post whether you want someone NOW for a quick fix, or whether you actually want people to cam with, and get to know.
You have to say what you use, MSN, , etc.
You have to say who/what you are, and who/what you want. Ages, sex, etc.
I'm sure you'll all be able to come up with more ideas, but it really WILL have to be monitored strictly, to stop the one-post wonders that've been plagueing the place of late.
I'd offer to mod it, but i'm a bit new here, although i've got years of modding experience. I'm probably a bit of a hard-ass as well.
The mods here are pretty laid back. 
Snow Patrol - Spitting Games
(Assuming that was this year...)
Gwen Stefani - What You Waiting For?
Biffy Clyro - Glitter And Trauma
Funeral For A Friend - Juneau
Those are the ones i can think of, but it was a struggle, because i don't listen to the radio or watch mtv or anything, i've not got a clue about singles
(Assuming that was this year...)
Gwen Stefani - What You Waiting For?
Biffy Clyro - Glitter And Trauma
Funeral For A Friend - Juneau
Those are the ones i can think of, but it was a struggle, because i don't listen to the radio or watch mtv or anything, i've not got a clue about singles
I can handle a little bad spelling, punctuation or grammar. There's no real excuse for it (apart from dyslexia or english not being your first language) but as long as it's easy to understand your post, you could type everything badly. That's fine.
The thing that i've noticed a lot, and which really pisses me off, is that people are posting stuff like "anyone want to cam tonight?" THAT'S ALL!
How pathetic is that? I mean, there's only so many ways you can ask it, but at least tell us what you're looking for! A girl? guy? couple? goat? A lot of people have ambiguous names too, so i'd like to see people fill in their profiles, and add a little about themselves in their sigs too.
No wonder so many people are having no luck with this site if that's the way they attract people. I'd hate to see them in a pub or club on the pull.
It's always people with 3 posts that do this as well. I know a lot of these people are new to the net, and message boards, and this lifestyle (i'm a newbie in respect to the last one there) but surely sense tells you to hang back, sniff out the situation and learn a bit before ploughing in?
Surely they must see that the previous 10 guys (and it's ALWAYS guys!) who posted such nondescript, lazy requests for camming got nowhere? Or even ridiculed? Jeeze, people, make an effort. We certainly wouldn't meet up with someone who, in their attempt to ATTRACT us, ffs, was monosyllabic, and we had to wrestle info out of.
Spend the extra minute thinking about what you're posting. It WILL be the difference between you being successful or not.
The thing that i've noticed a lot, and which really pisses me off, is that people are posting stuff like "anyone want to cam tonight?" THAT'S ALL!
How pathetic is that? I mean, there's only so many ways you can ask it, but at least tell us what you're looking for! A girl? guy? couple? goat? A lot of people have ambiguous names too, so i'd like to see people fill in their profiles, and add a little about themselves in their sigs too.
No wonder so many people are having no luck with this site if that's the way they attract people. I'd hate to see them in a pub or club on the pull.
It's always people with 3 posts that do this as well. I know a lot of these people are new to the net, and message boards, and this lifestyle (i'm a newbie in respect to the last one there) but surely sense tells you to hang back, sniff out the situation and learn a bit before ploughing in?
Surely they must see that the previous 10 guys (and it's ALWAYS guys!) who posted such nondescript, lazy requests for camming got nowhere? Or even ridiculed? Jeeze, people, make an effort. We certainly wouldn't meet up with someone who, in their attempt to ATTRACT us, ffs, was monosyllabic, and we had to wrestle info out of.
Spend the extra minute thinking about what you're posting. It WILL be the difference between you being successful or not.
