Nick n Paula -
Firstly to say good luck and have fun but secondly I completely agree with Polo and Equi - check out for some useful tips. People on SH have a broad spectrum of opinion on use of condoms etc etc so although its great that u'r seeking advice you really ought to use your own judgement.
have fun,
HertsGuy30s
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Quote by rachel-lane+peaches:giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
man walks into a bar..nope
irish man, english man, and a scots man.....nope
my mother in law was soo fat .....nope
a car breaks down by the side of the road.....nope
did you hear the one about.......nope
arhh fook it cant be arsed.
x rache x
Yes but then I do love a good argument - most people seem to pussyfoot around a lot and its only when you get them a bit steamed up on a subject that they really start to express honestly held views. Ultimately I have my own opinions which I will present and defend but, as quite often happens, someone points out that my opinions are incorrect or invalid or just plain wrong because of ABCDE then that's great and I feel I've been educated and had my mind opened.
With friends I actually find it easier to have a ding dong because we all know each other so well that no offense is ever taken and passion in a point of view is accepted as just that.
With friends I actually find it easier to have a ding dong because we all know each other so well that no offense is ever taken and passion in a point of view is accepted as just that.
Oh this is an easy one.....
Idea 1: go out and hire the biggest bouncy castle you can find and have a swinging party on it!
BOOIIIIINNNNGGGG !
Idea 2: how about a naked scuba swinging party somewhere hot :-P
Idea 3: Make it your goal to get to the back cover of the Kama Sutra, position by position starting when you wake up on your birthday with a midnight deadline
Idea 4: Stay in, in front of an open fire in your cosiest slippers sipping hot choc with marshmallows whilst watching "Its a Wonderful Life" (of course if you did insist on some sex then you just need to add "whilst sitting on someone's face" to the end of Idea 4 !)
:-)
Idea 1: go out and hire the biggest bouncy castle you can find and have a swinging party on it!
BOOIIIIINNNNGGGG !
Idea 2: how about a naked scuba swinging party somewhere hot :-P
Idea 3: Make it your goal to get to the back cover of the Kama Sutra, position by position starting when you wake up on your birthday with a midnight deadline
Idea 4: Stay in, in front of an open fire in your cosiest slippers sipping hot choc with marshmallows whilst watching "Its a Wonderful Life" (of course if you did insist on some sex then you just need to add "whilst sitting on someone's face" to the end of Idea 4 !)
:-)
Rachel missed a crucial day in math class at school??!Hmmm well I have heard that you...
just drop off a quay, Lee
make a new plan, Stan..
but of course I may be wrong.....
On a serious note? Just be honest and tell 'em. If you just ignore them without telling them first they may be left thinking anything...maybe you had an accident, maybe you lost their details and are desperately trying to get in touch... much easier (and politer) just to be up-front.
all IMHO of course!
just drop off a quay, Lee
make a new plan, Stan..
but of course I may be wrong.....
On a serious note? Just be honest and tell 'em. If you just ignore them without telling them first they may be left thinking anything...maybe you had an accident, maybe you lost their details and are desperately trying to get in touch... much easier (and politer) just to be up-front.
all IMHO of course!
Quote by longhandle8
I've just had the slightly odd experience of reading a post by a lady I am 95% certain I know (from a previous work life) - I'm not going to talk to her because, frankly, it would be dead weird, but I'm curious, has anyone else had this experience or similar? Maybe spotting their Accountant across a crowed Swinger Club.
I know its a bit silly but for me it feels very odd, almost making me re-evaluate the way I viewed this lady - i'm not judging (for god's sake I'm here as well !) but ....
anyway, be interested to hear your experiences,
HertsGuy30s
I read a post today from someone I think I recognise too.......
He's a tall, self effacing, modest guy, about 30 from Herts, think he's called Johnny... spooky huh
:rotflmao:lolol LongHandle Yikes I've been sussed!!
Thanks for your feedback folks - been interesting reading and good to know I'm not the first to recognise someone! I'm definitely not going to let on that I know (for a start I'm not 100% only 95% certain) but anyway I do feel it would change the dynamic of our relationship which is fine just the way it is.
Dawn that's a new one on me but a quick browse of the interworldnetweb thing throws up something called PHI (not pi) which sounds like some scientist bods trying to prove your theory!
Check out:
If u r brainy: or
and another page with the same kinda info but for fikkies like wot i is:
hmmmmmm....curiouser and curiouser
Check out:
If u r brainy: or
and another page with the same kinda info but for fikkies like wot i is:
hmmmmmm....curiouser and curiouser
Quote by redstilletto
Ooo yes and don't get me started on "The question is why you broke them and if you are prepared to rectify the situation." - ask a Catholic about this? Murder someone, 25 Hail Marys... ooo that makes me mad!
HertsGuy30s
ive never heard a court in the land letting off a murderer just because they've said 25 hail marys and their catholic
Yes sorry Red, that was me getting a bit carried away....blame it on the altitude up there on my soapbox!
Oh dear... 
looks like I managed to upset Silk ..sorry! It was intended as a light hearted interjection into a light hearted thread not as a profound attack on religion - i was hoping to stimulate conversation not to be jumped on!
Suffice to say people are entitled to believe what they want but it is important to be able to look at your own community, be it social (Swinging, Bingo whatever), religious (Catholic, Hindu whatever) or geographic (British, European, Asian whatever) and take a personal view on what it is doing ( and has done historically) right and wrong. The Catholic church does take a very clear stand on promiscuity, divorce etc (hence the creation of the CofE) and it is simply interesting to try and understand the process by which passionate believers in a faith are also able to sustain other (possibly) incompatible interests.
Controversial end note: I love the fact that the Egyptian empire (inc the New Kingdom) lasted over 2500yrs...who today worships their gods? What happened to them? Did they take early retirement? Go on a cruise? Or maybe they were paving the way for the Christian god..kinda like an advance party...hmmm or maybe they weren't real? Nah don't be silly..millions of people believing in something which doesn't exist would just be plain daft.... mmm makes you think tho...
Hey don't shout at me! I'm just asking the question!
Final final point: We all believe in something or other. We just all ought believe in it enough to be able to step up to the plate and explain our position and engage in a debate. If I'm wrong then help to educate me.
Right I'm going to officially retire my 'sweeping statement' broom now...go on! Into the garage with ya!
looks like I managed to upset Silk ..sorry! It was intended as a light hearted interjection into a light hearted thread not as a profound attack on religion - i was hoping to stimulate conversation not to be jumped on!Suffice to say people are entitled to believe what they want but it is important to be able to look at your own community, be it social (Swinging, Bingo whatever), religious (Catholic, Hindu whatever) or geographic (British, European, Asian whatever) and take a personal view on what it is doing ( and has done historically) right and wrong. The Catholic church does take a very clear stand on promiscuity, divorce etc (hence the creation of the CofE) and it is simply interesting to try and understand the process by which passionate believers in a faith are also able to sustain other (possibly) incompatible interests.
Controversial end note: I love the fact that the Egyptian empire (inc the New Kingdom) lasted over 2500yrs...who today worships their gods? What happened to them? Did they take early retirement? Go on a cruise? Or maybe they were paving the way for the Christian god..kinda like an advance party...hmmm or maybe they weren't real? Nah don't be silly..millions of people believing in something which doesn't exist would just be plain daft.... mmm makes you think tho...
Hey don't shout at me! I'm just asking the question!
Final final point: We all believe in something or other. We just all ought believe in it enough to be able to step up to the plate and explain our position and engage in a debate. If I'm wrong then help to educate me.
Right I'm going to officially retire my 'sweeping statement' broom now...go on! Into the garage with ya!
Quote by Silk and Big G
But surely the "rules" or laws of Christianity forbib such activity.
Speaking as a non-Christian, Christians seem to have spent the last two thousand years merrily breaking their own rules so I don't see why they'd stop now.
Kinda a sweeping statement dont you think?
Its impossible to be a part of any Christian religion and 'not break any rules'. It comes down to being human. The question is why you broke them and if you are prepared to rectify the situation.
S
Silk - yes it is a sweeping statement but then so are all the 10 commandments! The odd thing about these is that the first 4 are all about how great and fab god is, 5 is god getting grumpy, presumably from being irritated by his kiddies Adam and Eve, 6 - 9 are global truths more or less followed by all living things and 10 is drivel...my neighbour hasn't even got a donkey!
Sorry I'll stop before my ear wax starts melting...
Actually one late addition, the one thing i absolutely agree with is "do unto others as you would have done unto you". I think that phrase should be drummed into all school kids and the practice of it would make the world a much nicer place. (Aaaahhhhh)
Ooo yes and don't get me started on "The question is why you broke them and if you are prepared to rectify the situation." - ask a Catholic about this? Murder someone, 25 Hail Marys... ooo that makes me mad!
HertsGuy30s
I've just had the slightly odd experience of reading a post by a lady I am 95% certain I know (from a previous work life) - I'm not going to talk to her because, frankly, it would be dead weird, but I'm curious, has anyone else had this experience or similar? Maybe spotting their Accountant across a crowed Swinger Club.
I know its a bit silly but for me it feels very odd, almost making me re-evaluate the way I viewed this lady - i'm not judging (for god's sake I'm here as well !) but ....
anyway, be interested to hear your experiences,
HertsGuy30s
I know its a bit silly but for me it feels very odd, almost making me re-evaluate the way I viewed this lady - i'm not judging (for god's sake I'm here as well !) but ....
anyway, be interested to hear your experiences,
HertsGuy30s
J - To answer your question, you can post a photo ad (click photo ads above!), or better get posting in the forum and chatting in the chatroom, go to a munch or three and get ourself known and trusted.
If you want an -shag, open your yellow pages and turn to "P" for "Prossie"...SH can be quick but you do have to make a bit of an effort!
good luck,
HertsGuy30s
If you want an -shag, open your yellow pages and turn to "P" for "Prossie"...SH can be quick but you do have to make a bit of an effort!
good luck,
HertsGuy30s
Quote by xrusman
But surely the "rules" or laws of Christianity forbib such activity.
Speaking as a non-Christian, Christians seem to have spent the last two thousand years merrily breaking their own rules so I don't see why they'd stop now. I know number 7 is "Thou shalt not commit adultery" but judging by the pervading Christian attitude regarding Number 6 (Thou shalt not kill) then I can only assume that these are more guidelines than actual rules.
By the way did you hear that the Co-Op has closed Christian Voice's account on grounds of them being fundamentalists...think I might have to open a co-op account now! Good on em!
By the way..yes I do consider myself religious but absolutely not Religious.
HertsGuy30s
1 – your most distinguish feature
Hmmm my goattee
2 – the favourite nickname you have ever been called
Prefer not to reveal....
3 – the last thing that made you laugh
Friend's baby playing
4 – the last song you sang (way too loud)
James Brown - Payback Mix
5 – the last thing that made you feel warm inside
Cup of tea
6 – the last sex related item/s you bought
Rabbit for a certain lady...
7 – one thing you want to do this summer
Finish decorating the *&%*$&%&*^£ house!
8 – what would be your last meal if you were on death-row
Anything going on transatlantic flight OUT of America!
9 – who would you want to share an eight-seater Jacuzzi with
Audrey Hepburn and 6 Audrey Hepburn looky-likeys !
10 – the worst job you have ever done
Actually all of my jobs have been ace!
Hmmm my goattee
2 – the favourite nickname you have ever been called
Prefer not to reveal....
3 – the last thing that made you laugh
Friend's baby playing
4 – the last song you sang (way too loud)
James Brown - Payback Mix
5 – the last thing that made you feel warm inside
Cup of tea
6 – the last sex related item/s you bought
Rabbit for a certain lady...
7 – one thing you want to do this summer
Finish decorating the *&%*$&%&*^£ house!
8 – what would be your last meal if you were on death-row
Anything going on transatlantic flight OUT of America!
9 – who would you want to share an eight-seater Jacuzzi with
Audrey Hepburn and 6 Audrey Hepburn looky-likeys !
10 – the worst job you have ever done
Actually all of my jobs have been ace!
I refer you back to my comment re magnets..i wasn't kidding..only thing i know of that is guaranteed to well and truly trash a harddisk but still leave it perfectly usable (and a damn sight quicker than fiddling about with utilities).
By the way fascinating fact to make those of you who are not very technical think more carefully about what you keep on your 'puter:
When you "permanently" delete a file in Windows (ie the next step fro sending it to your Waste Basket) the file isn't actually changed at all. All that happens is the first letter of the filename is changed to "?" whichs lets Windows know that the disk space is available for use in the future and that the file shouldn't be listed or indexed. Basically this means that deleted files may be fully recoverable from your computer months after you deleted them!!
Sleep well !!
HertsGuy30s
By the way fascinating fact to make those of you who are not very technical think more carefully about what you keep on your 'puter:
When you "permanently" delete a file in Windows (ie the next step fro sending it to your Waste Basket) the file isn't actually changed at all. All that happens is the first letter of the filename is changed to "?" whichs lets Windows know that the disk space is available for use in the future and that the file shouldn't be listed or indexed. Basically this means that deleted files may be fully recoverable from your computer months after you deleted them!!
Sleep well !!
HertsGuy30s
Can you hand the computer back completely wiped? If so, unscrew the case, remove the harddisk, get hold of a decent magnet and wipe the magnet over the harddisk a few times.
Otherwise I agree with all gone before:
1. Delete all files you know to be dodgy;
2. Uninstall any dodgy applications,
3. Run the anti-spyware and disk cleanup utilities already mentioned,
4. Defragment your harddisk
5. Run a shredding utility (set to 3 passes minimum it is likely to take 4 or 5 hours)
6. Run your error checking utils.
7. Switch off, hand computer back to company
8. Emigrate to Venezuela, invest in plastic surgery
9. Change name to Ernie de Plum (or d'Orange if you prefer)
Finally, and most importantly, pretend you know who did the Brinks Mat robbery and demand to go into the Venezuelan Witness Protection Programme.
(Note 8 onwards are optional...)
Otherwise I agree with all gone before:
1. Delete all files you know to be dodgy;
2. Uninstall any dodgy applications,
3. Run the anti-spyware and disk cleanup utilities already mentioned,
4. Defragment your harddisk
5. Run a shredding utility (set to 3 passes minimum it is likely to take 4 or 5 hours)
6. Run your error checking utils.
7. Switch off, hand computer back to company
8. Emigrate to Venezuela, invest in plastic surgery
9. Change name to Ernie de Plum (or d'Orange if you prefer)
Finally, and most importantly, pretend you know who did the Brinks Mat robbery and demand to go into the Venezuelan Witness Protection Programme.
(Note 8 onwards are optional...)
Actually it is pretty easy to create a private secure site (you can very easily block search engine robots/spiders) and you'd need to setup user accounts to provide security plus the usual NetNanny gubbins.
However I'm not sure its a good idea - you only need one member to become disaffected and share their access details with the outside world and there'd be hell to pay. Plus more risky because in a secure site people tend to let their guard down - imagine The Sun getting hold of a complete directory of dogging locations......
just my pennorth!
HertsGuy30s
However I'm not sure its a good idea - you only need one member to become disaffected and share their access details with the outside world and there'd be hell to pay. Plus more risky because in a secure site people tend to let their guard down - imagine The Sun getting hold of a complete directory of dogging locations......
just my pennorth!
HertsGuy30s
hi Katy - well first of all a very warm welcome to SH - it looks as though you are approaching it with the right frame of mind, I know sometimes delays can be frustrating but it is well worth getting familiar with the site, the forum and the chat rooms (heartily recommended). This way you will strt to make friends online and people will get to know you and what you are looking for - much more effective than relying on a photo ad!
Next tip is to included your photo ad number in your forum profile so we can find you easily.
Next what you are looking for will influence likelihood of striking gold. Single guys are 10 a penny here, there are hundreds of couples but from reading other posts it sounds as though single ladies are something of a rarity.
I'd also suggest reading up on munches as they are a great way to get to know people,
Finally check out my profile...if there's anything i can do to help....
HertsGuy30s
Next tip is to included your photo ad number in your forum profile so we can find you easily.
Next what you are looking for will influence likelihood of striking gold. Single guys are 10 a penny here, there are hundreds of couples but from reading other posts it sounds as though single ladies are something of a rarity.
I'd also suggest reading up on munches as they are a great way to get to know people,
Finally check out my profile...if there's anything i can do to help....
HertsGuy30s
