I am also not into the humiliation, its more about being turned on watching her receive and give pleasure. Well the way I see it. We have tried a few times with other guys unforgettably barring 1 they all were asssholes treating my wife li89ke a piece of meat afterward, this has led her to feel ashamed. When we are naughty and being honest we both have really enjoin the encounters but what I have learnt we need someone or a couple who we are friends with 1st and happy if things develop at the right time and place.
