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lordfilthy
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 54
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No completely true. There are places in SE Kent, it's just gone much more underground because of problems with local "busy bodies", police, boy racers and media campaign.
Have had plenty of fun over the past few months including at a place which I know you have visited winchwench (even if I wasn;t there that day) - we've PM'd about it.
Thing is, a few idiots have made things difficult for us all.
Have had plenty of fun over the past few months including at a place which I know you have visited winchwench (even if I wasn;t there that day) - we've PM'd about it.
Thing is, a few idiots have made things difficult for us all.
Quote by Serendipity
Whilst I understand the frustration, it's clear that you weren't there as a courting couple and that he was there as a dogger - so why didn't you just tell him to wait til you signalled him (and what the signal would be)? Surely that would have been far easier than expecting him to read your mind and a lot less aggro for you two in the end?
To be fair I know the poster here and the location he was using.
It's a regular place for courting couples as well as doggers, not everyone there is playing and many will just move away from the loon to carry on wit htheir own pleasure. The move away should really be a clue that they aren't interested in *you*.
Besides, isn't it just courtesy to wait for a "invite" whether dogging or not. Not everyone wants to play every time and certainly if there is more than one dogger there then they should have the option to pick who they play with.
Not many newbies willing to comment yet. Perhaps they go because it sounded great in NoTW?
I go because it gets me out of the house. I park up and then watch the world go by, I can sit for hours (just me and a book/radio) and be perfectly happy. If I'm really lucky then eventually I'll be joined by a couple who want to put on a show. I'm I should have picked my lottery numbers that night, they'll want more.
It doesn't bother me either way really... and I've lost count of the number of times I've had, what could be called, a wasted trip. But it's the thrill of the "chase", the not knowing if I will be lucky that keeps me going.
I go because it gets me out of the house. I park up and then watch the world go by, I can sit for hours (just me and a book/radio) and be perfectly happy. If I'm really lucky then eventually I'll be joined by a couple who want to put on a show. I'm I should have picked my lottery numbers that night, they'll want more.
It doesn't bother me either way really... and I've lost count of the number of times I've had, what could be called, a wasted trip. But it's the thrill of the "chase", the not knowing if I will be lucky that keeps me going.
Quote by Serendipity
is dogging, if you ask some people they'd tell you that's how dogging started, couples having sex in cars or outdoors who found the idea of being caught an extra turn on but not essential - going out purposely to show isn't the only form of dogging, it's just the most common one (luckily!)
Perhaps someone should tell whoever runs thios site then. Click on the "dogging" tab at the top of this page and you'll get a different definition to the one you mention here...
My understanding of dogging is pretty much as is on that link. What you have described is couples having sex in their car. That is all. Dogging is the intention to be seen, not just the act of sex in a car/outdoors.
It's also the single guys who defined the term when stopped by the police - "just taking the dog for a walk officer"...
Quote by outlaws2001
We don't agree! sorry but we don't need a voyeur, just the thought and feel of having sex out doors gives us a big kick. the feel of the breeze, sun, blanket, grass or the roughness of a tree! with the added thrill of being caught doing something that you shouldn't.
But then that isn't dogging, is it? That's just outdoor sex.
Dogging, the whole point of dogging, is the exhibitionist/voyeur relationship. Guys cannot dog without someone to watch, couples cannot dog without being watched.
Quote by Silk and Big G
As to the single doggers that proclaim that we should be grateful for them to meet our exhibitionist needs, let me clear one thing up. If G and I are out for a drive and pull over in a doggin hotspot, I'll be sitting on his cock, voyeurs present or not. Although the thrill of being watched is fantastic, its not the be all and end all. I want him, I want to fuck him. End of story.
Which only underlines my point earlier. If you go out with the intention of dogging, or get an extra thrill from being watched, then you need the voyeur.
If you are just going to shag, then that is what you are doing. There is a difference. I have never argued that it stops you enjoying sex, just one aspect of it.
Quote by jomu
What a load of bollocks.......you need a load of guys leaning on the car to have sex and enjoy it ?
No, but it's a little difficult to fulfill your exhibitionism side if there are no voyeurs, isn't it?
As S&BG say, the only rules are your own...if you don't want anyone about just tell them to fuck-off...........compromise my arse........
Absolutely, I couldn't agree more. However, couples shouldn't portray themselves as the only people offering something in this "relationship". Without the guys then they are just shagging in a car. With them they are playing a role in a fetish. They get to satisfy their lust to exhibit themsleves, the guys get to satisfy their lust to be vouyeurs.
If they just wanted a private fuck they wouldn't be doing it in a public place now would they.
Especially when you consider what the same person I previosuly quoted said in another thread today
Quote by Lissa
As it is Bonfire Night this weekend, I'm hoping for a lot of single guys to turn up to make my evening go with a BANG
You have to ask, is this alturism, or is it a mutally beneficial arrangement?
Quote by Lissa
The couples are doing THEM the favour, NOT the other way round.
Sorry but that's just crap.
You aren't there for some alturistic motive of wanting to please men. You are there becuase you get off on it too. It's a symbiotic relationship, one cannot exist without the other.
Having said that, as a single dogger I know that it's the couple who set the rules.
Have to agree with Mr Loo.
I can only presume, from what you have written, that you went to the "obvious" place, the one which can be seen from the road. If you did then that was a big mistake.
There are other places in that area which offer a greater degree of privacy and I must admit to having some great times in these places.
I don't agree that "hanging around in car parks" offers little reward (considering that this is what dogging ios actually about). If you know the right place then you will be pleasantly surprised.
I can only presume, from what you have written, that you went to the "obvious" place, the one which can be seen from the road. If you did then that was a big mistake.
There are other places in that area which offer a greater degree of privacy and I must admit to having some great times in these places.
I don't agree that "hanging around in car parks" offers little reward (considering that this is what dogging ios actually about). If you know the right place then you will be pleasantly surprised.
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It was read by loads of members but not one offered advice on sites in the area.
This could be because they have no idea who you are. The last thing anyone wants is a load of boy racers or policemen turning up and spoiling a veune.
.... has it anything to do with experienced doggers not wishing to open up the experience?
Nah, just a lack of trust.. quite rightly too.
If you looked behind many of the posts asking for details, you'll find a married man out to cheat on his wife or someone who thinks dogging means that they are guaranteed to get laid.
Sodding typical, the one night I'm out with my mates in a long while and this happens...
Thanks to H&T for the invite, sorry I couldn't make it, sounds like a great evening for all involved.
I'm also pleased that everyone was so well behanved and polite. Perhaps that will encourage a few nervous couples to make the trip out...
Thanks to H&T for the invite, sorry I couldn't make it, sounds like a great evening for all involved.
I'm also pleased that everyone was so well behanved and polite. Perhaps that will encourage a few nervous couples to make the trip out...
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Well. after numerous attempts to find an active dogging location in SE Kent ( Dover, Ramsgate, Sandwich, Ashford, Canterbury, Folkestone you name it I've tried it) I've finally admitted defeat and will no longer be spending lonely hours in dark car parks!
Not sure where you are going then Mke because I've had success in one of those areas in the last couple of weeks alone.
I know what you mean generally, there was a really good site which was shut down by plod/Nat Trust/Local council and things slowed down afterwards, but word is getting round of another site in the area. Near a seafront pub (which might give a local a clue)
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Is the big layby still used? (wont mention the name on here but sure you know which I mean) I heard it was due to be closed?
If you are talking about the one near the family resaurant/fast food outlet, then I wouldn't go there if I was you. Under close observation by the boys in blue...
Would love to hear of other places in that area though. Although I'm in Kent I don't know that area too well - more an side person...
